Escorts - saving marriages for centuries!

[dom]

Was having a chat with a friend of mine last night and he was telling me he had seen a few escorts over the past year as his marriage wasn't going too well but he has decided to call a halt to it for fear of it being the cause of its failure and concentrate on his wife.

Fair enough.

But then I got thinking and I reckon that there are probably numerous marriages that have been saved thanks to escorts.
Lets face it, every relationship gets dull at some stage but whereas you could dump a girlfriend in the past at that stage, once married you are committed and most people just plod along.

So, I am asking the question - to both punters and escorts - do you think that an escort / you have saved any marriages?

dom

[Doozer]

Was having a chat with a friend of mine last night and he was telling me he had seen a few escorts over the past year as his marriage wasn't going too well but he has decided to call a halt to it for fear of it being the cause of its failure and concentrate on his wife.

Fair enough.

But then I got thinking and I reckon that there are probably numerous marriages that have been saved thanks to escorts.
Lets face it, every relationship gets dull at some stage but whereas you could dump a girlfriend in the past at that stage, once married you are committed and most people just plod along.

So, I am asking the question - to both punters and escorts - do you think that an escort / you have saved any marriages?

dom

Do the same rules apply to wives who cheat on their husbands just for sex (or even better sex than the husband provides)?

[anon361]

I'm sure there is some truth in it, being sexual frustrated and no release for a man can be torture which has to eventually build into resentment for their partner, where if they have a release that may not happen, besides when we get it elsewhere it tends to put a spring in our steps which has to rub off in a good way in a relationship.

[jammy69]

I dont think it necessarily saves a marriage, it just changes the parameters By which you live in your marriage. Might make it more tolerable but it may also introduce guilt. I'd say it's different for everyone.

[Morpheus]

So, I am asking the question - to both punters and escorts - do you think that an escort / you have saved any marriages?

dom

Excellent one Dom! I think you're on to something!! I think E-I's new advertising slogan should be just that - "Escorts -saving marriages for centuries"!!!

I love it! It may even be a window into getting the industry legalized in Ireland!! Although i can't see any wives going for it!


On a more serious note, I do think there is some truth in your suggestion. It is a bitter fact of life that men and women have different perspectives on sex, different sex drives, and different changes in sex drive over time. When a couple are initally in the lovey-dovey stage of "love" - both partners seem to want the same thing in their sex lives. However, all this changes over time. The arrival of children, loss of romantic gestures, pressures of day to day life -all affect a sexual relationship. Unfortunately for us men, the old sex drive never quits! Not until we die anyway!

There are a number of posters who have been very honest about their personal relationship situations - where they still love their partners/wives, but their sex life has long ended (inspite of efforts on their part to resurrect it). I can only imagine that escorts have played a huge role in allowing such men to have a sex life outside their marriage without having to start an affair or leave their spouse for another.

[SR71]

Excellent one Dom! I think you're on to something!! I think E-I's new advertising slogan should be just that - "Escorts -saving marriages for centuries"!!!

I love it! It may even be a window into getting the industry legalized in Ireland!! Although i can't see any wives going for it!


On a more serious note, I do think there is some truth in your suggestion. It is a bitter fact of life that men and women have different perspectives on sex, different sex drives, and different changes in sex drive over time. When a couple are initally in the lovey-dovey stage of "love" - both partners seem to want the same thing in their sex lives. However, all this changes over time. The arrival of children, loss of romantic gestures, pressures of day to day life -all affect a sexual relationship. Unfortunately for us men, the old sex drive never quits! Not until we die anyway!

There are a number of posters who have been very honest about their personal relationship situations - where they still love their partners/wives, but their sex life has long ended (inspite of efforts on their part to resurrect it). I can only imagine that escorts have played a huge role in allowing such men to have a sex life outside their marriage without having to start an affair or leave their spouse for another.

Morph, it's true what you said in your post. But, I feel that when someone is in a marriage, why should you result seeing an escort? Ok guys come out with the reason saying that sex life is zero, fully agree. But think of this yea, if the partner finds out, what will happen then? Seperation,half of everything,etc, is it worth it?

I know a lot of guys with wife/partners here visit escorts and say they take every precaution, so as the partner doesn't find out. So, in your own mind you know what you are doing is wrong but you still do it, why do it then?lol Just my opinion!

[ber]

My take on this is that it wont save the marriage but it may help the people concerned to live together in some
sort of harmony. Once u have infidelity u no longer have a marriage only in name as the commitments given have
been broken,a breach of contract as such. But if people are prepared to settle for less than originally intended they
may feel its the lesser of two evils ,as with maybe children involved and financial constraints its not always easy for
people to go their seperate ways and they may decide to tough it out

[UKHeather]

I wouldn't really call a marriage where the husband is having sex with prostitutes, a marriage saved.

However, marriages are as diverse, personal and individual as people are.

[Morpheus]

Morph, it's true what you said in your post. But, I feel that when someone is in a marriage, why should you result seeing an escort? Ok guys come out with the reason saying that sex life is zero, fully agree. But think of this yea, if the partner finds out, what will happen then? Seperation,half of everything,etc, is it worth it?

I know a lot of guys with wife/partners here visit escorts and say they take every precaution, so as the partner doesn't find out. So, in your own mind you know what you are doing is wrong but you still do it, why do it then?lol Just my opinion!

My take on this is that it wont save the marriage but it may help the people concerned to live together in some
sort of harmony. Once u have infidelity u no longer have a marriage only in name as the commitments given have
been broken,a breach of contract as such. But if people are prepared to settle for less than originally intended they
may feel its the lesser of two evils ,as with maybe children involved and financial constraints its not always easy for
people to go their seperate ways and they may decide to tough it out

Fair points lads. Not being married myself, I may have been a bit flippant in my post. Apologies.

Yup, seeing escorts - is cheating, there's no two ways about that.

However, part of the marriage vows (at least in Spirit) is to take care of each others "needs". So one can argue that there is a breech of contract on both sides - where a wife chooses to stop having sex with her husband and her husband in turn starts sleeping with escorts.

And before anyone gets on their high horse, may I remind you all that most of us here are either punters or escorts! So none of us are in a position to start throwing stones!

I think Ber has hit the nail on the head - that while visiting escorts destroys the integrity of a marriage, it may allow two people to continue living together.

[UKHeather]

I have seen many clients who complain that their wife is not interested in sex. Some of these men have not learned basic personal hygiene. Many's the time I have thought, I'm not bloody surprised!!!