In love and punting at the same time ?

[pez]

Unlike most women the majority of guys seem perfectly able to seperate there love for there partner and the pleasure they get from visiting escorts, they may visit for certain services that they are either unable to get at home or are afraid that there partner will freak out if they suggest a certain activity.
I myself am attached to a wonderful woman who i love dearly but our sex drives are total opposites leaving me three options either take up DIY releif, have a affair which i for one would not find acceptable as that normally requires some degree of guilt at the emotional attachment or finally my prefered option which is escorts and when you see the beautiful ladies on EI its not hard to understand why

I could have written most of what you say myself. Some women just don't have high sex drives or have a different view on what sex acts are acceptable morally. A bit frustrating but you still love them for all the other great qualities they have. EI allows me to occasionally step into a different world!

[royaler]

I could have written most of what you say myself. Some women just don't have high sex drives or have a different view on what sex acts are acceptable morally. A bit frustrating but you still love them for all the other great qualities they have. EI allows me to occasionally step into a different world!

What do you do when that world starts to take over?

[royaler]

Go for what the love or the sex or both

Right now I don't see any difference - so does that make me a lost cause?

[royaler]

I believe you can be in love and punt at the same time. The same goes for being in love and escorting at the same time.

Just because there are a few things missing in your relationship doesn't mean you don't love your partner to death.

Beautifully put Amber and very profound! For me I allowed those "few things" to multiply over many years without dealing with them or stating them in any way and hoping that things would improve eventually. Of course that never happens, resent building all the time until BANG!

[royaler]

I'm not sure I quite understand but I think you mean it is different as an escort. It is just a job, just sex so you can still be in love with your partner. Well isn't this the same as punting kind off? If you are looking for just sex. The physical. You are not looking for a relationship etc.

Maybe it is different but isn't it all having sex with other people for personal gain?

So is it as simply a matter of recognising what you are looking for?

[mellors]

So is it as simply a matter of recognising what you are looking for?

I think so Royaler, were all looking for different things from both a relationship or an escort. Once you know what that is, it makes life a whole lot easier.

[royaler]

I think so Royaler, were all looking for different things from both a relationship or an escort. Once you know what that is, it makes life a whole lot easier.

It sounds so logical Mellors and I know it is - but I just can't / won't, even though I know I should, allow logic to interfere with the way I feel about a certain person at the moment!

[anitasizzle]

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[mellors]

It sounds so logical Mellors and I know it is - but I just can't / won't, even though I know I should, allow logic to interfere with the way I feel about a certain person at the moment!

Yep, logic tends to go out the window.

[Cable87]

Yes, I can definitely have a girlfriend for whom I have genuine feelings and still punt. I just need a bit of 'variety' in my sexual diet I guess! Having a bit of variety keeps me from getting bored, which I tend to do with girlfriends rather quickly, I must admit. I suppose my problem is that I tend to get myself into long-distance or temporary relationships, and in the time apart I've got time to punt or make pursuit of other ladies. This way, I can keep myself from getting too bored too quickly, and I'll have my freedom in her abscence to do what (and who) I like.

The only real problem for me might come if/when it comes time to properly 'settle down' (move in together/get married). I might find this a bit tough to do, considering my track record with relationships! It's not from a lack of meeting women, it's from an inability to stay interested (at least sexually) for too long! Even some of the hottest and youngest ladies I've dated, whom have been every bit as attractive as some of the escorts here, and have been willing to be every bit as naughty, have still not been able to keep hold my full 'sexual attention'-- I just have too much desire to be with other women, and I suppose I've spoiled myself in this regard, from punting of course! Guess I'll be like the other lads out there someday, have the wife but still go out punting; I've already had the girlfriend and still been out punting, so not that much difference anyway I suppose...