Being turned on

[Ric Hardgear]

I think he has just discovered chemistry and is still a little overwhelmed by it lol

surely chemistry is next week ....its along time since i did my exams

[royaler]

One of the things I have learnt about myself from this 'hobby' is that I have been turned on during bookings by ladies that I might normally not consider as physically attractive as other 'stunners'. I can really fancy a particular woman but even so, for whatever reason, I wont be as turned on as much as I might have expected. Is that the ' click ' factor or is it something else ?

On reflection, I think the main reason is where I sense an absence of any 'distance' or any sort of barrier between me and the lady concerned. Its when everything is just easy for some reason. Do others feel like this ? What factors make the difference for you ? I put this qusetion to both escorts and guys, as no doubt it applies both ways.

The initial choice of which escort to visit is always going to be made on the basis of the beautiful photographs on the site. These ladies are professionals and a lot of them pay good money to make sure they get the best photos. So that, along with the reviews and maybe some good pm-ing gets you there. I have met some beautiful escorts, but in some cases that distance that ksteve mentions was there and we just didn't click! Now of course that can be just as much about me as the escort. However on the other hand when you do click ....... wow it is so brilliant! So what is it? I think confidence has to be high on the list but when you get the physical beauty, mixed with character, love of the job, attention to the client and the one that I think is the most important .......A FREE SPIRIT, well then I think it is going to be likely that you'll click alright! And they are great moments when that happens!!

[UKHeather]

The initial choice of which escort to visit is always going to be made on the basis of the beautiful photographs on the site. These ladies are professionals and a lot of them pay good money to make sure they get the best photos. So that, along with the reviews and maybe some good pm-ing gets you there. I have met some beautiful escorts, but in some cases that distance that ksteve mentions was there and we just didn't click! Now of course that can be just as much about me as the escort. However on the other hand when you do click ....... wow it is so brilliant! So what is it? I think confidence has to be high on the list but when you get the physical beauty, mixed with character, love of the job, attention to the client and the one that I think is the most important .......A FREE SPIRIT, well then I think it is going to be likely that you'll click alright! And they are great moments when that happens!!

I don't think that is entirely down to the lady's attributes. The men need some credit too. It takes two to click. I have had some wonderful and mind blowing sex with clients that I clicked with. It's hard to have that with a dead starfish

[royaler]

I don't think that is entirely down to the lady's attributes. The men need some credit too. It takes two to click. I have had some wonderful and mind blowing sex with clients that I clicked with. It's hard to have that with a dead starfish

Of course you are right there Heather - it has to work both ways! It is understandable though that some clients might think - well I am paying for this so I expect some more effort where I might not make such effort. For me though, and I would say some are sick of me harping on about this, so much of the success of a date has to do with mutual respect; if its there well you are well on the way to clicking!

[UKHeather]

It is understandable though that some clients might think - well I am paying for this so I expect some more effort where I might not make such effort.

I really don't get along well with guys like this. I definitely don't have a good time with them and would probably not pick up the phone to them a second time.. I'm a human being with sexual feelings, not a performing monkey lol

[ksteve]

Thank you all for your contributions and I apologise if my OP was not clear,that is my fault. I think Royaler understood me the most, in particular he identified with the ' distance ' factor.

Heather, I'm not sure whether I really go along with the 'click ' factor as the reason for successful bookings. This is quite a strong term and as such I doubt whether this truly exists outside the very occassional meeting. Hopefully at the other end of the spectrum, the guys' starfish state is also only occassional.

Most times I guess the majority of bookings are somewhere in the middle ground and I do think, that whilst it takes 2 to tango, the lady and her approach will primarily dictate the success or otherwise of the booking. The guy gives out the right signals -- he genuinely wants to be there, he is prepared to pay to be there, he fancies the girl from her pics and he comes normally with a good positive attitude. Bingo or it should be.!

If he senses the girl is happy , and in particular is comfortable to be with him and enthusiastically projects her sexuality on to him freely , then you have success. The ability and desire to project that sexual attractivess onto the client with a free spirit is more important than just being ' hot' and leads to the really enjoyable bookings. I think this projection is key .

[Experienced Punter esq]

Thank you all for your contributions and I apologise if my OP was not clear,that is my fault. I think Royaler understood me the most, in particular he identified with the ' distance ' factor.

Heather, I'm not sure whether I really go along with the 'click ' factor as the reason for successful bookings. This is quite a strong term and as such I doubt whether this truly exists outside the very occassional meeting. Hopefully at the other end of the spectrum, the guys' starfish state is also only occassional.

Most times I guess the majority of bookings are somewhere in the middle ground and I do think, that whilst it takes 2 to tango, the lady and her approach will primarily dictate the success or otherwise of the booking. The guy gives out the right signals -- he genuinely wants to be there, he is prepared to pay to be there, he fancies the girl from her pics and he comes normally with a good positive attitude. Bingo or it should be.!

If he senses the girl is happy , and in particular is comfortable to be with him and enthusiastically projects her sexuality on to him freely , then you have success. The ability and desire to project that sexual attractivess onto the client with a free spirit is more important than just being ' hot' and leads to the really enjoyable bookings. I think this projection is key .

cant make that one out either...

[The Hobbyist]

One of the things I have learnt about myself from this 'hobby' is that I have been turned on during bookings by ladies that I might normally not consider as physically attractive as other 'stunners'. I can really fancy a particular woman but even so, for whatever reason, I wont be as turned on as much as I might have expected. Is that the ' click ' factor or is it something else ?

On reflection, I think the main reason is where I sense an absence of any 'distance' or any sort of barrier between me and the lady concerned. Its when everything is just easy for some reason. Do others feel like this ? What factors make the difference for you ? I put this qusetion to both escorts and guys, as no doubt it applies both ways.

While I agree that first impressions; ie. pictures, initial pm's, etc are important, I think communication is THE key factor. What often makes a difference for me is the ability of both parties to communicate with each other; whether verbally, with body language or both. It is amazing how you can meet an escort and both of you just seem to understand the other. Not a common occurrence, but when it does happen, an amazing time is had by both.

Despite the best planning and discussions, one is never prepared for the "chemistry" that can develop when two people are in the same room in an intimate setting. The way you both look at each other, how you respond to each other's touching and kissing, feeling of trust, etc will all contribute to an experience that comes as close to being "natural" within the confines of the escort/client relationship.

When I experience this, I make it a point of sticking to the escort(s). So far, I have had great success.

Regards.

[Experienced Punter esq]

maybe its simply a personality thing your finding more attractive this is so true to life I know some girls gorgeous though they are they really have no personality- an unattractive trait..

[royaler]

I really don't get along well with guys like this. I definitely don't have a good time with them and would probably not pick up the phone to them a second time.. I'm a human being with sexual feelings, not a performing monkey lol

I fully acknowledge your point Heather and I certainly would never think of any escort I visit as 'a performing monkey'. But at the same time this god-damn world is business driven and I can understand guys treating the event as a business transaction where they are paying the money and therefore expecting a certain level of service!
But we are straying off ksteves original question a bit! That fact is that just because an escort is physically beautiful / attractive doesn't gaurantee 'clickability', (great word isn't it). Once there is a time limit, even if it is loose, it is always going to be difficult, so the character traits that I mentioned before become the catalyst ....... confidence, attentiveness, respect and that sense of FREE SPIRIT, if they are there, on both sides, then the 'clickability' factor is so much higher.