compulsion or fun

[doodlebug]

There is another thread here where this is discussed. If you are single and find it easy to meet girls, why do you want to visit escorts, particularly when you say the communicating etc is the most enjoyable part for you ?

It is a good question, I guess, and I don't want to turn this into a single thread which already exists, it is an easy way to ensure you have company on a lonely friday or saturday night. But another factor is that I am meeting stunning looking women with great personalities who are full of life and help me stay young (ish)

[ThomasJ]

There is another thread here where this is discussed. If you are single and find it easy to meet girls, why do you want to visit escorts, particularly when you say the communicating etc is the most enjoyable part for you ?

I like doodlebug am 46 and single - I visit escorts for a number of reasons -

I like the fact that it is uncomplicated fun, too many girls outside of escorting I meet are nut jobs - I just don't need or want the hassle of the dating game. When I visit an escort what truly makes it memorable is the chat/fun/laughs so perhaps in a way what I am really looking for is a GFE for that moment and none of the stress normally associated with relationships.

I have made a conscious decision to stay single; I don't regret this for one moment so serious dating isn't for me. I have and continue to have short term relationships, admittedly mostly one night stands but as I get older the attraction of these encounters have waned. Also I am no great movie star so the opportunities have lessened and the effort required on my part increased to the point when it too has become a hassle.

I won't lead a girl on by pretending to want a relationship so visiting escorts fills a void in my life.

[ksteve]

It is a good question, I guess, and I don't want to turn this into a single thread which already exists, it is an easy way to ensure you have company on a lonely friday or saturday night. But another factor is that I am meeting stunning looking women with great personalities who are full of life and help me stay young (ish)

Thank you -- unfortunately others would not agree.!

When you think about it,what sticks out here is what fantastic work these escorts do. Although, we know it is purely a business transaction and that on balance the very same girl would prolly not look at a client sideways in a nightclub,thereby not allowing him to enjoy her personality and thereby not giving him the opportunity to feel 'young' , they still manage at a booking to zone in and make the client feel that good for a period of time whilst giving of herself to him.The suspension of disbelief -- its quite a skill !

[ksteve]

I like doodlebug am 46 and single - I visit escorts for a number of reasons -

I like the fact that it is uncomplicated fun, too many girls outside of escorting I meet are nut jobs - I just don't need or want the hassle of the dating game. When I visit an escort what truly makes it memorable is the chat/fun/laughs so perhaps in a way what I am really looking for is a GFE for that moment and none of the stress normally associated with relationships.

I have made a conscious decision to stay single; I don't regret this for one moment so serious dating isn't for me. I have and continue to have short term relationships, admittedly mostly one night stands but as I get older the attraction of these encounters have waned. Also I am no great movie star so the opportunities have lessened and the effort required on my part increased to the point when it too has become a hassle.
I won't lead a girl on by pretending to want a relationship so visiting escorts fills a void in my life.

I think you have hit the nail on the head here and I can completely understand this.

[doodlebug]

Thank you -- unfortunately others would not agree.!

When you think about it,what sticks out here is what fantastic work these escorts do. Although, we know it is purely a business transaction and that on balance the very same girl would prolly not look at a client sideways in a nightclub,thereby not allowing him to enjoy her personality and thereby not giving him the opportunity to feel 'young' , they still manage at a booking to zone in and make the client feel that good for a period of time whilst giving of herself to him.The suspension of disbelief -- its quite a skill !

Couldn't agree more, should be recognised as such, not criminalised or demeaned.

[royaler]

just wondering is it just me.
have found recently that i am visiting girls even when i am not that particulary horny.
i am even a little removed from what i am doing. this seems a little odd to me. not sure if i am trying to flag up my sex drive or not willing to accept that my desires are failing a little bit.
up to now my sex drive almost defined me in that it occupied a large part of my thinking now it seems my head and body are not in sync. my ability to have sex is pretty much the same its just like something is different and i don't know what.
just curious if any others find themselves going through the motions even with girls that should be blowing their minds. this is seriously scaring me as its seems sex is not the spark to me it once was. is this some sort of male menopause i am only 37 ffs.

Thanks for starting a super thread John. I've become fierce addicted to the site - can't keep away. When I arrange to meet an escort the sense of anticipation almost gets overwhelming! I usually have great fun with the escorts and always come away smiling. The anticipation,(racing heartbeat etc,) has not diminshed at all, nor has the fun! However, when I come back to reality I get these awful self-chastisement thoughts - drives me mad and down! But it doesn't take long to get back up when I log on to the site - addicted of course. As regards sex-drive, I'm 52, it is there still - would like to be able to 'perform' for longer but haven't done anything about that. The lovely ladies don't seem to mind this - but then I've been fortunate that any I have met have probably been too respectful to say anything! Anyway as I said - great thread!

[JAMESCORK]

Yeah, I have had this discussion before here and it seems to be the same for most. In my work I tend to be away from home 2 or 3 nights a week staying in various hotels. I have found myself perusing profiles and still thinking there is no lassie I really want but will pick one anyway. I’m thinking to my self “do I really want this tonight” and sometimes answering “No”, but go through with it anyway. I do NOT get the same buzz as before. I have been with the most stunning of young girls, but after the initial 5 mins excitement of meeting, have found myself just going through the motions afterwards. Once in a while I do find a buzz that lasts the entire visit, and I keep up my visiting new girls just to discover a new such buzz.

I now have settled on 3 favs, and I find I get more of an excitement prior and during with these three than I do meeting a new girl.

So its compulsion for me....

[JAMESCORK]

and whats more...



Things like this do NOT help my compulsion....lol

[aml]

just wondering is it just me.
have found recently that i am visiting girls even when i am not that particulary horny.
i am even a little removed from what i am doing. this seems a little odd to me. not sure if i am trying to flag up my sex drive or not willing to accept that my desires are failing a little bit.
up to now my sex drive almost defined me in that it occupied a large part of my thinking now it seems my head and body are not in sync. my ability to have sex is pretty much the same its just like something is different and i don't know what.
just curious if any others find themselves going through the motions even with girls that should be blowing their minds. this is seriously scaring me as its seems sex is not the spark to me it once was. is this some sort of male menopause i am only 37 ffs.

Great post but i am sure there are plenty out there go to see escorts for the sake of it,myself i don't see many as i know if i was a frequent client i would tire off it and i wouldn't enjoy it as much as i could.

[Irish Fiona]

Honey its like everything, if you eat too many apples you will get sick of them!
My suggestion to you is go cold turkey on the site and the girls for a while. A month or so.
This site is supposed to be fun and visiting a girl is supposed to be new and exciting
if it is just like part of your routine you have to take a break!
Discipline yourself and i promise you the excitement and eroticism will return!
your just used to it like brushing your teeth
Take a big break from the site and the girls and when you come back the good old zest will burn in your heart and your love muscle

Fiona xxxxxxxxxx