Whatever way we try to look at it, it is cheating. I have said it before, and I'm not being critical of them, but I cannot understand those guys that visit escorts when they have a good sexual relationship at home.
I only started visiting escorts several years after my home sex life disappeared and I would stop if things changed at home, but that is highly unlikely. Either way, it is demeaning to the marriage, and my love has dissipated over time, but it has kept me sane.