Funnily enough, one of the most important things for a relationship to be a success is for each partner to have an element of their life that is seperate from the other.
My inexpert advice would be to be a little careful. Its understandable why a man would want you to give up the business but at the same time just make sure that its what you both want.
How about a compromise where you work maybe 2 days a week?
If I was in your fellas situation I would want you to give up escorting too, it's only natural for someone not to want to share their partner. Does he still see other escorts or has he given up that aspect of his life? If he has then maybe you should too, not everyone cheats, when ever I am in a relationship I stop seeing escorts too. At the end of the day this is an anonymous Internet forum so peoples advice is really worthless, including my own. You're the only person here that fully knows you situation and feelings for this guy so you'll have to make your own mind up
Just don't give it up before our meeting in Dublin babe! ;-)
Go with your heart but if you genuinely love the money/sex/job then think long and hard about it. However, I can totally see why your fella would want you to give up, no guy would want to share his girl with hundereds of others.
I've never been in that situation, either as an escort (obviously) or client, so I don't really feel qualified to give advice, but I can share some thoughts. Realistically, the relationship probably won't work out. Most relationships don't, even ones that aren't between escorts and clients. But you won't know if you don't try. You could return to escorting later if things fall apart. I know some ladies have done that. It could be difficult to get back into it, so it's not a decision to made lightly.
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I have two answers for you, Samantha.
Pre 12.30 today
Go with your heart; if you love him enough to give up something you say you love doing, then give it a go. Weigh up the pros and cons, and whichever wins, wins. Bear in mind that he did know what you did before you fell in love, and it could be considered unfair for him to ask you to give up an important part of your life. He should love you for what you are, and not what you could be. I can totally understand that he'd want you to give it up though.
Post 1.30 today
Don't give it up! You understand that this is the totally selfish answer, as I want you back over here on repeated occasions...
your not that old or ugly either!!! you look fairly stunning to me
I must agree with robijntje you should only quit for yourself not for him, you may end up resenting him if you do it for him and not for yourself.
you should only quit if and when your ready and when it's right for you.
I dunno if ye are happy together I say go for it. I've laid the charm on with a trowel with a few girls I met over the years in the hopes they would want me, didn't needless to remark. If ya find happiness hang on to it
Bada Bing!!!
If you were working any other job would he make quitting a prerequisite for a life with him?
Maybe he loves you so much he is just genuinely concerned for your safety, health, and well being; then again maybe he really doesn't respect what you do.
As a matter of interest has he stopped visiting escorts? If not, does it bother you?
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