Addiction, or hobby?

[sperminater]

Well well your right i started about 10 months ago to have a go and hay, i can't stop 50 visits later and 'im still punting. So to answer your question it's soooo addictive hmmmmmmm i love it!!!!

[kelso]

hi luce for me its a hobby, however some of the girls are highly addictive!!!

[Sam Spade]

I am the type of person if I do somthing, I always try my best - work, play, it's all the same.
I have been actively visiting escorts for around six months,
during which time I have seen quite a few ladies, with 2-4 visits a week.

Personally I know this won't last long as I will loose interest in this game.
It may be six months, or a year. But it will happen.
Until then, I will enjoy my excursions and the people I meet along the way.

Addiction or hobby, I don't really care.
As long as I enjoy lifes experiences with the people i meet,
then I know at some time in the future I can look back and think,
'at least I have truly lived'.

Never regret the decisions you make in life, but rather the decisions you did not make.

[Morpheus]

I have read a few threads recently, and I have started to think that for some seeing escorts isn't actually a hobby, it is a compulsive addiction. What are your thoughts? Is it truly for fun, to fill a void, or a little voice saying '' go on then''? When does the fun stop, and the compulsion take over? What would it take to stop you punting? Can you stop?

I am definitely an addict. But a happy one at that! . There is clearly an element of compulsion in my behaviour in seeing escorts. There is an excitement and drive that isn't present with any other hobby I've had. So I would classify my seeing escorts as an addiction and not a hobby. Furthermore, I have alot to lose if my family, friends or work colleagues were to find out. I would never be involved in a hobby that carried such risk.

Even though there is a compulsion to what I do - there is huge pleasure and fun involved. I certainly hope the fun doesn't stop.

I don't think I can stop voluntarily. There are a number of things that I think would stop me seeing escorts.
1) If the proposed legislation to criminalize clients of escorts is passed. That would almost definitely stop me seeing escorts in ireland.
2) If I ran out of money or lost my job

In the meantime this addiction fulfills needs that I cannot fulfill otherwise . And I'm talking about more than sex - self esteem, intimacy, companionship and escapism.

[The Hobbyist]

Folks,

This is a hobby! It is about embracing and experiencing everything there is about the human beings that we are intimate with. Yes, money is involved, but money is needed to enjoy any other hobby.

The reason that one indulges in said activity is usually because it is enjoyable and rewarding. You have good and bad experiences and you learn from each of them and you retain whatever memories you choose to remember.

If you have the financial means to pursue this hobby, as I do, then the only question to answer is whether it is an addiction?

The simple answer (for lack of wanting to writing paragrahs tonight) is that when the hobby becomes necessary to function and interferes with everyday living, it is an addiction. The alcoholic needs alcohol to get though the day. The drug addict needs the fix to make it through the day. If you feel that you cannot function without seeing an escort, then you are in trouble and are addicted. And if you are spending the rent/grocery money to see an escort, then it is a serious addiction. In this case, seek help.

For me, it is during my leisure time that I hobby and I do not allow the hobby to interfere with my everyday life. Therefore, I am just a hobbyist.

Regards.

[monster_monster]

I have read a few threads recently, and I have started to think that for some seeing escorts isn't actually a hobby, it is a compulsive addiction. What are your thoughts? Is it truly for fun, to fill a void, or a little voice saying '' go on then''? When does the fun stop, and the compulsion take over? What would it take to stop you punting? Can you stop?

seeing escorts is now purely a hobby and that's because I try never to see a girl more than twice. I use to live in London and began seeing one certain girl nearly every week or at a minimum every two weeks. Although she was professional about it, I think I was on a different level and if I hadn't of slapped myself in the face and gone cold turkey for a while I might of ended up totally addicted.

[devilfisheire]

I just like a good shag.

[willyup]

I can stand up and proudly say that I have never cheated on a partner in my life, either with an escort or anyone else.

But having said that -
Although I do enjoy and appreciate the emotional and companionship element of a relationship and have never cheated on anyone I am just not a monogamous personality.

I have actually been giving this some thought following my most recent scrape with another phsycotic girlfriend. I have come to the conclusion that having seen the promised land that is the world of choice that visiting escorts offers I'm not sure I would be able to function in a monagomuous relationship again.

I dont think I am addicted more that I have found a lifestyle that suits my outlook if you see what I mean?

I'm still not decided if my choice of a series of phsychotic girlfriends has damaged my outlook on relationships or if my 8 years of punting (when not in a relationship) has actually done the damage?
Maybe seeing escorts between relationships has derailed any chance those relationships have of succeeding?
Or maybe I'm just normal but a little different?

I know this is a bit of a ramble but thats where my mind is at the mo.

[Bruno69]

Willyup raises some good points and questions here. Key one for me is, is seeing escorts spoiling my chance of a successful relationship with a muggle ?

I know when my wife found out, she was livid !

I'll try not to be facetious:-)

After leaving home I tried out Internet dating. I had good success with it. Met some very nice ladies. Some fantastic sex was had. I enjoyed some of it myself if I'm honest!
But at the same time, I was seeing one of the most beautiful charming girls in the world, Selena.
How could any experience, no matter how pleasant, compare to an hour or two with a goddess like Selena lavishing attention on me? I had no real interest in meeting any of these women more than once, to give things a chance to develop.
Since Selena I've seen Nikky, Ciara, Denise, Vanessa Vanny and Alice. This is the golden age of escorting right now! These are all beautiful, fun, intelligent, caring ladies. No first date is ever going to compare. Its just not possible, speaking as a middle aged guy who's not a movie star or premiership footballer !!

I respect a lot of you are comfortable with your chosen lifestyle. If I could cut down a bit, ok, a lot:-), I'd be comfortable with it too. But I do note a lot of you don't seem to have dependents ( or so you tell us anyway).

But when you've got kids, is it acceptable to be so selfish to screw away their inheritance ?

I need love, sex, romance. I should be able to find it and settle down again but the next Mrs 69 is going to have to jump through hoops to get that all important 2nd date:-)

[HairyMan]

Addiction it is for me also I feel at this point Lucy.
Do you think you could Give-Up Escorting, the Money, the Control, the Excitement, being Your Own Boss, can you give that up easily? I would have thought that many girls have said to themselves, "I'll just do it for a few months to get a few quid together, then I'll stop", but find that when they see how much money they have just earned, and know that going back to an "Office Job" would curtail their freedom so much more, that Escorting would remain their profession for a lot longer than originally planned.
I could of course be totally off base here!