Giving up punting

[anitasizzle]

I think you're obsessing over you're escort addiction as a way of not dealing with your relationship going sour, and what you might do is come to terms with the broke up and then see if you still view your escort addiction as a problem. Cognitive Therapy is an effective healing agent in geting rid of negative behavior traits, so you might want to go that route. Good bless

[Franken996]

I think you're obsessing over you're escort addiction as a way of not dealing with your relationship going sour, and what you might do is come to terms with the broke up and then see if you still view your escort addiction as a problem. Cognitive Therapy is an effective healing agent in geting rid of negative behavior traits, so you might want to go that route. Good bless

+1 re above..

Mr.Long- imho, you're making an (understandable & very common) mistake by conflating a real world relationship with the game that is escorting. Really not trying to be condescening here- You need to reflect on the difference between the two- punting is a hobby- a fun game that can be very addicting..but it has no connection in reality with your SO- except if you let it. I ( like my esteemed colleague & friend) Morpheus may not be the best placed to give advice- we're like Keith Richards advocating restraint to a bunch of H-junkies... but I will make this observation- sex is part of a normal relationship ( one hopes anyhow)..but there's just so much more to that dynamic ( & some folks are happy being single, not everyone needs a life partner) - but in your heart & mind you already know that. Punting is a predator sport ( we guys are ultimately the prey) that can offer a physical treat & the accompanying adrenaline rush that goes with the hunt etc- but ultimately it's just a game where you gamble & like any such venture there's an inherent danger that you just need to be pragmatic about. I suggest that you think about deciding what you want out of life and then try to make it happen, good luck & god speed

[anitasizzle]

+1 re above..

Mr.Long- imho, you're making an (understandable & very common) mistake by conflating a real world relationship with the game that is escorting. Really not trying to be condescening here- You need to reflect on the difference between the two- punting is a hobby- a fun game that can be very addicting..but it has no connection in reality with your SO- except if you let it. I ( like my esteemed colleague & friend) Morpheus may not be the best placed to give advice- we're like Keith Richards advocating restraint to a bunch of H-junkies... but I will make this observation- sex is part of a normal relationship ( one hopes anyhow)..but there's just so much more to that dynamic ( & some folks are happy being single, not everyone needs a life partner) - but in your heart & mind you already know that. Punting is a predator sport ( we guys are ultimately the pruey) that can offer a physical treat & the accompanying adrenaline rush that goes with the hunt etc- but ultimately it's just a game where you gamble & like any such venture there's an inherent danger that you just need to be pragmatic about. I suggest that you think about deciding wfhat you want out of life and then try to make it happen, good luck & god speed

The guy voiced his concern about his punting activity which, HE mentioned, has increased since his break up; it doesn't take a mystic to infer that the 'increase' is related to the break up;(he made the correlation himself); how many times have people went out on binders after suffering relationship troubles? ''Crying in your cups,'' hello? Now, if you have a problem with someone offering ADULT, ''real world' advice, and letting others know there is an effiective, inexpensive therapy that works on many situations and sceniors, then ***removed***

P.S. If you're still in America please leave as I don't want people like you in my country, SERIOOUSLY

[Violette]

People, this guy came on here with an issue, and as usual the thread has been reduced to name calling and insults. How for the love of god is this helping someone who is asking us for help?

[Franken996]

The guy voiced his concern about his punting activity which, HE mentioned, has increased since his break up; it doesn't take a mystic to infer that the 'increase' is related to the break up;(he made the correlation himself); how many times have people went out on binders after suffering relationship troubles? ''Crying in your cups,'' hello? Now, if you have a problem with someone offering ADULT, ''real world' advice, and letting others know there is an effiective, inexpensive therapy that works on many situations and sceniors, ***removed***.

P.S. If you're still in America please leave as I don't want people like you in my country, SERIOOUSLY

Anita- you've evidently taken me out of context on several levels..
But before I go there, just to clarify a few other things-
It ain't 'your' country babe- Im lucky to have more than one nationality;->
Your lil rant is giving me serious deja-vu... Why am I now so sure I know your profile from a NE Forum.... Synthax never lies;->
..but to the more substantive issue- pls reread my post above- I was congratulating & endorsing your suggestion... (although must admit to being surprised at another American not being familiar with the use of "+1" on PMBs as shorthand for lending support/echoing a sentiment). However your presumption that it's all about you is indeed very indicative of our fellow country(wo)men.
My own comments were offered in a separate vein. Now take yer Meds & get some sleep, the embarrassment will wear off in a few days LOL

[kelso]

bli medy how did this degenerate so fast!! ands i thought anitas first contribution was very well thought ouot advicer!!
anyway man you need a break form here, get banned or whatever and talk to friends about the rel breakup good luck

[wanted the best 69]

bli medy how did this degenerate so fast!! ands i thought anitas first contribution was very well thought ouot advicer!!
anyway man you need a break form here, get banned or whatever and talk to friends about the rel breakup good luck

i think anitas close to the mark, problem as i see it,is as he has not come to terms with the brokke up, and has been using escorts to fill a gap in his life,but the fact is he wants a relationship, this he will not find with escorts, so heal and move on

[Hman]

Mr. Long, I appreciate your predicament. I agree with what Morpheus wrote, 5 escorts in a few months is probably at the very low end of an addiction. However, you seem to feel that you are dependent on it and that this is a big deal for you. This is important because how you feel is the only relevant point of view. If you really want to get out of this then you must make a decision.......I mean REALLY make a decision that you are not going to have any part in this anymore. Understand the reasons why and go find something that will stimulate you to the same extent that escorting will!

I have made the decision to retire from visiting escorts after more than 5 years. I have a very clear understanding of why I needed to do that and this helps. I am looking for something that I will only find in myself and I will find it.

I wish you luck. Make the decision, take the action.

[D11111]

The reaction to this gug crying out for help has been unbelievable, and says little for some of the respondents. The guy's question may be directed to the wrong place, but it is withouit doubt heartfelt, and something that I'm sure many have reflected on here themselves, both punters and escorts alike. Morpheus, fair play to you and a few others . Hmam, i would think cognitive therapy would be the way to go to help you discuss these things in a safe comfortable environment.

[Bruno69]

Good luck Mr L and if u think you need help, you probably do, regardless of what level you're at, so go get it.