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    hi folks,

    I really want to give up punting. Not withstanding the money side of it, which is not really a problem but is still fairly stupid of me considering the times we live in, I want to quit but I'm finding it very very difficult. I'm just out of a long term relationship and I've seen 5 girls since December. The first one was when the relationship was officially on the rocks and I was feeling very down about it all. But I was thinking about it for a few months before we started to call it quits, looking for things that weren't inside the relationship from other women, what I didn't have. I really hope that didn't contribute to the demise of the relationship but I'm pretty sure it didn't.

    Since it ended, another four escorts. I don't really feel able to control myself, and I now that I've visited so many in such a short time I don't feel attractive to women at all in everyday life. After tonight (a very nice experience, sure) I don't feel like I could ever have a girlfriend again. I feel a bit broken. I don't think punting is healthy for me at all and I want to stop but the temptation is too much.

    Any advice? Folks who've quit, how do you stay away?

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    I appreciate your predicament MrLong.

    But I think you're asking the wrong people?
    "Don't be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours"

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    By the way, I did do a search before I started this thread to make sure it hadn't been done before but I didn't really find anything.

    I've read lots about this as an addiction, and that surely might be the case but I find it hard to convince myself that a natural urge can be an addiction. I've looked a bit at the SAA but I'm not religious and I have absolutely no interest in giving anything up to a "higher power". I'm just looking for some advice on this.

    The girl in the relationship that ended was a stunner. Not from this country and hotter than any escort I've ever visited. I hit it out of the park lucky with her and I can't imagine myself ever finding anyone like her again. That's what's put me in the situation I'm in. My standards have been blown out the window for the last few years.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Morpheus View Post
    I appreciate your predicament MrLong.

    But I think you're asking the wrong people?

    Very, very possibly. The first to reply here was an escort who put an ad here :O So who are the right people to ask? I don't know where to turn to for advice. Can't really discuss things like this with friends or family!!

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    I completely understand what you mean TC. Many of us feel this way sometimes, I know it's an emotional decision and I have a lot of respect for how you come and decide to do this. I wish you the best of luck in your future conquests and endeavours....



    See you back again next week.
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    Denise, if you feel like making another thread (which seems will get deleted again, thanks mods - and no, I didn't ask them to) here's my answer to you:

    You did try to advertise in the thread.

    You're not a man, not a punter and obviously have nothing to contribute to it. You can advertise in the advertising forums.

    I'm not married.
    I'm not religious.
    And my next step is to ask to be IP banned from this place so I can't look at it anymore. And I will ask for that soon. But before I send the email to ask for that, I wanted to ask for advice here. I know there's men here in the same boat as me. Why can't you leave me alone to try and talk to them? Not getting enough business yourself these days?

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrlong View Post
    hi folks,

    I really want to give up punting. Not withstanding the money side of it, which is not really a problem but is still fairly stupid of me considering the times we live in, I want to quit but I'm finding it very very difficult. I'm just out of a long term relationship and I've seen 5 girls since December. The first one was when the relationship was officially on the rocks and I was feeling very down about it all. But I was thinking about it for a few months before we started to call it quits, looking for things that weren't inside the relationship from other women, what I didn't have. I really hope that didn't contribute to the demise of the relationship but I'm pretty sure it didn't.

    Since it ended, another four escorts. I don't really feel able to control myself, and I now that I've visited so many in such a short time I don't feel attractive to women at all in everyday life. After tonight (a very nice experience, sure) I don't feel like I could ever have a girlfriend again. I feel a bit broken. I don't think punting is healthy for me at all and I want to stop but the temptation is too much.

    Any advice? Folks who've quit, how do you stay away?
    I'll have a go - but you must realise that I am an addict and am therefore not trying to preach. However, you have made a very valid point that you can't really discuss this sort of thing with your usual supports - family and friends.

    All I can say is that I am an addict but ventured into this industry knowing full well that I would become an addict. It was a calculated decison and not one born out of trying to quell one's pain. I think you're very right in trying to get out of this as soon as possible because you dont' seem happy doing it. That can only lead to a vicious circle of more dependancy and unhappiness. You've only seen 5 girls and in my book thats very early days and I dont' think you're actually an addict as yet. Which means that you have every chance of giving this up.

    I don't have any advice on how to do it - which I know is what you're asking. I do think that you need to address the core problem which is your grief from this break up. That seems to be the real issue and punting only the symptom.

    I'm going to leave it at that and wish you all the best. I've not meant to offend or cause any further pain.
    "Don't be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours"

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    Cheers very much, Morpheus, I appreciate it. I was punting before that relationship started though. Perhaps 10 girls before it, a long time ago now. Not happy to be back to that again, as you say, but I keep giving in to it.

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    Sorry now, Denise. Do you pay the good money to post on this forum, or to have an advertisement page of your own? If you were paying money to make comments in threads like this, you've been duped. Otherwise I'd be paying to post what I'm saying here.

    Pro tip - I'm not.

    Look at my post count. I don't come on to this site to post. I'm only posting cos I really need the advice. You're not a punter so you're not in the situation to give it. Leave me alone.

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    Thanks. Bye.

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