Originally Posted by
Ric Hardgear
We've been married for nearly 6 years and I've been really aroused at the thought of my wife having sex with another man. Would love to be there when that happens to see her getting sexed by another male. Jokingly suggested to her that we could get an erotic massage by a male escort for her upcoming b'day - with the session ending in full sex - and surprisingly she agreed! She knows I would love to be there but deep down I know she'd rather be alone with the escort at the time so she can fully enjoy herself without any inhibitions, rather than putting on a show for me. Well I suggested firstly a private session with the escort and if she likes it then we can later have another one with me in the audience. We are both extremely excited about this and feel like discussing our sexual fantasies was the best thing we have done in many years. Her birthday is coming up in 8 weeks or so.
Is this a dangerous road to go down will she always feel unsatisfied by me, and yearn for another man or will this save my marriage???
Wow Ric!!! I'm the last person to give advice on marriage, but I must say I envy you! The fact that you and your wife can actually openly discuss your sexual fantasies (involving others) is amazing. I'm sure there are people who go right through life without ever being able to discuss their fantasies with their spouse. In my humble opinion thats a sign of true honesty and openess in your relationship! Major bonus!! A great starting point.
There has been a bit of critism about your title thread 'saving my relationship' but I think I know what you mean. Correct me if I'm wrong but you're talking about sex in your relationship i.e. losing the excitement etc.. that you used to have. A common problem in all long term realtionships. I am still amazed and so impressed that the two of you can be so honest and open with each other.
In the light of this, I think you have nothing to fear. Just continue your open discussion, let her know your fears and find out what she wants. Then go for it! If she wants to be alone with the male escort for the first time then so be it. Ask to tell you about it after and see if it turn s your on or has the opposite effect. That will probably let you know whether you'be be happy for her to see a male escort again but with you present.
As for you not being able to satisfy her in the future or her always longing for another man - I don't think this will add to the problem but probably solve it!? This is a diversion for the both of you not reality. You see escorts for the very same reason I suppose? i.e. that you need something different even though you still love and enjoy having sex with your wife.
Whatever you decide to do, just continue those open honest conversations with your wife. I think thats the key in any relationship whether its to do with sex or anything else.
"Don't be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours"
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