Personality versus Looks- you decide

[10inchesandcounting]

I think it all depends what people are looking for, and it can be summarise in 2 categories:
-the woman of your night,
-the woman of your life
each category has different requirements.

[dr love]

When you are younger you go for the latter , but with time and experiences the former stands the test of time . To sum up hollow bastards us men .: lol doc

[oreste]

It depends on the conditions you meet. Mutual interests and chemistry can easily overcome the "difficulties" of not beeing good looking (unless you are very ugly). The personality is very strong for seduction, as much as look, and has the advantage to work on the long run. It lasts. The look is changing, eventually, fading, in competition with other men or women. It can be boring after a while. There's actually no definite rule.

[Morpheus]

It's essential to be nice. Doesn't mean it'll get you laid though.

Thanks. Thats my problem!

[happygolucky]

It's essential to be nice. Doesn't mean it'll get you laid though.

I could not agree more...............although its nice to be nice.
When with an Escort its ESSENTIAL

[Morpheus]

So, when I was growing up I was taught its more important to be interesting then pretty. Looks fade and an empty husk is just a husk. Men of course, tend to go for the latter and think about the former at leisure.

What is your take on it? Is it nice to be nice or not important at all?

Why one or the other? Why not both!

Seriously though I know what you are asking.

I, like most men (well I shouldn't really taint them all, as there are some good ones out there, just not me) am incredibly shallow and get all excited by a pretty girl.

If I don't fancy a girl, I'm never going to take it further romantically. However, the looks bit only goes so far, and its the girls personality that would make me really fall in love.

So in answer to your question - Yes, being nice is really important, and more important than physcial beauty in the long run. Beauty is important too but you know what - a bit of effort- make up ,nice dress and a nice smile and I'm smitten.

[OnlyMe]

I go for looks! personality always comes after. That's what attracts me first to women.

I'm doing my own little bit of research here.
I guess you are under 40.
I wonder what ther cutoff is when personalilty becomes an issue. Not that it isn't now, and not that maturity doesn't bring with it wisdom, but I still say give them a good lash up the hoop and run.

[hd7055]

Lucy

I guess looks are important for an initial attraction but for anything more long term personality is way more important.

hd

[Sam Spade]

So, when I was growing up I was taught its more important to be interesting then pretty. Looks fade and an empty husk is just a husk. Men of course, tend to go for the latter and think about the former at leisure.

What is your take on it? Is it nice to be nice or not important at all?

Initial attraction is based on looks only, personality only comes into it for a lasting relationship.

Although personality is the most important element of an individual, men unfortunately are fickle creatures and their cocks usually rule the brain. Sad but true.

The lucky man is one who can have a lady who is both gorgeous outside and more importantly beautiful within.
Unfortunately this is a rare lady.

If I had a choice based solely on beauty or personality - then personality would win every time.
A fool would say otherwise!

[Morpheus]

Initial attraction is based on looks only, personality only comes into it for a lasting relationship.

Although personality is the most important element of an individual, men unfortunately are fickle creatures and their cocks usually rule the brain. Sad but true.

The lucky man is one who can have a lady who is both gorgeous outside and more importantly beautiful within.
Unfortunately this is a rare lady.

If I had a choice based solely on beauty or personality - then personality would win every time.
A fool would say otherwise!

Well said Mark. But hip hip hooray for the 'lucky man'. I hate that guy!