Serious Dilemma

[jacksparrow2010]

Thats fair enough Capt. J, but all of the above has been done. Yes, I am being selfish, in that I like a fit body, but so would she.... Im just concerned that her desire to stay fit and healthy is way less than mine. Ive done all the encouragement I can do, but she just doesnt seem to give a shit whether she's fit / healthy or not. So without coming out with it blatantly, I dont see what I can do... Hence why Im telling everyone in here....

Show me one man who hasn't had 2nd thoughts leading up to getting married ??? I dont believe its a reflection on my love / lack of for her. If the roles were reversed, I would totally see her having the same concerns as me...

A woman's point of view would be good here ?????

yep most have second thoughts but about weight?... come on it is shallow.. but if its gona be a problem then I honestly dont know wat u can do!.. she isint going to be happy if u say it..
maybe if its going to be a life long problem for you then its time for you to move on... as even if she lost some now it may go back on in time and what then?...

I do sometimes laugh at the way guys on here talk down irish ladys for being bad in bed and being overweight ect ect... and alot dont seem to look at themselfs.. Ireland must be full of george clooneys they way some talk down the ladys..

Captain J...

[hornylimerick]

After reading the post " Does the missus give you a blowjob or VV?", the responses back all seem to be the same. . . weight gain & loss of libido after "I do".

Im getting married in the summer, to a girl who used to be fairly skinny, but over the last couple of years has steadily put it on, so that now there is a healthy overhang and horizontal ripples (about 3 -4) when she wears a tight top.

To me, its a major turn off. I keep very fit, and if I say so myself, am in pretty good shape. She loves my body, and seeing me naked. I only wish the opposite was true.

But to bring up the subject of her weight, and how Id prefer it if she was skinny(ier), is like saying you dont believe in the holocaust. Not good. To me, keeping you body in shape is very important to me, I will never be fat, and expect the same of my partner.

What should I do ?
Be brave, and come out with it straight, before we get married ?
Or accept the inevitable, Irish women are fat, and after a couple of kids, it'll all go south anyway ?

Thanks,

wp

just resign yourself to the fact your fucked!!

your fucked if you do, fucked if you don't, my advice from someone who's been there, done that, GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!

run for your life

[anon361]

good one... Anon .. prob the wrong site to talk about "discussing everything" , "a good relationship".and "openness and honesty".. your sounding like us singles now..ha

Captain J...

I think you know what I mean..

[Fitzy]

[QUOTE=hornylimerick;366519]just resign yourself to the fact your fucked!!

your fucked if you do, fucked if you don't, my advice from someone who's been there, done that, GET OUT WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!

run



Life is funny your never fucked think positive things always work out.

[hornylimerick]

[QUOTE=Fitzy;366560]

Life is funny your never fucked think positive things always work out.

things might work out in the end, doesn't mean you dont get fucked along the way, things do work out but not always the way you think they will

[Fitzy]

Words of wisdom cap jack you won't be walking the plank tonight.

[Fitzy]

[QUOTE=hornylimerick;366561]

things might work out in the end, doesn't mean you dont get fucked along the way, things do work out but not always the way you think they will

Life has it's ups and downs if your single our married that's what makes it so exciting look on the bright side.

[Notatwork]

She a women that is struggling with her weight even before the kids come along,your are probably looking at beach whale by time she has 2 kids,if you think your unhappy now wait till then!you wont be unhappy you will be going fuckin crazy with anger thinking how the hell did i get stuck with this!!but ahh she is a lovely person,yeah right some consolation for the next 30 years for ya!
You might be thinkin i am in a similar situ,i am not,my missus is an ex aerobic instructor till works out,better bod than 98% of the girls on here after a couple kids and she probably 15yrs older,and i am still not happy with her,good catholic girl(another story),but honestly lad dont marry this girl,its a receipe for disaster,if you do it will cost ya a fortune in divorce never mind the messin up it will do the kids heads,you stay with her be prepared to be spending a small fortune on the ladies.your choice buddy.

[Lucy Chambers]

She a women that is struggling with her weight even before the kids come along,your are probably looking at beach whale by time she has 2 kids,if you think your unhappy now wait till then!you wont be unhappy you will be going fuckin crazy with anger thinking how the hell did i get stuck with this!!but ahh she is a lovely person,yeah right some consolation for the next 30 years for ya!
You might be thinkin i am in a similar situ,i am not,my missus is an ex aerobic instructor till works out,better bod than 98% of the girls on here after a couple kids and she probably 15yrs older,and i am still not happy with her,good catholic girl(another story),but honestly lad dont marry this girl,its a receipe for disaster,if you do it will cost ya a fortune in divorce never mind the messin up it will do the kids heads,you stay with her be prepared to be spending a small fortune on the ladies.your choice buddy.

And on that cheerful note...enjoy the wedding

[Fitzy]

And on that cheerful note...enjoy the wedding

Miz chambers you droped in I wonder will we all get an invite wouldn't that be interesting the EI table.