Serious Dilemma

[bhoywonder]

Yea, I know that one, the Ma's alright, but she doesnt take after her, more the dad, and his sisters. . . ow man, not good.

The love, and only the love being there after 30 years (although I will be 70 by then), is what Im worried about. . .

Does anyone still have the lust after 10,20,30 years of marriage

Maybe that's a rhetorical question, given the forum Im posting in lol

what is sex like with your girlfriend now? how regular do you have sex?

[carlos marvado]

Go find yourself a nice black lady, or a latina, or an eastern European and really enjoy life. Irish women....non merci.

[Fitzy]

Any of the fine looking girls out there like to get involved it just seems to be blokes would love to hear a womans point of view.

[jacksparrow2010]

After reading the post " Does the missus give you a blowjob or VV?", the responses back all seem to be the same. . . weight gain & loss of libido after "I do".

Im getting married in the summer, to a girl who used to be fairly skinny, but over the last couple of years has steadily put it on, so that now there is a healthy overhang and horizontal ripples (about 3 -4) when she wears a tight top.

To me, its a major turn off. I keep very fit, and if I say so myself, am in pretty good shape. She loves my body, and seeing me naked. I only wish the opposite was true.

But to bring up the subject of her weight, and how Id prefer it if she was skinny(ier), is like saying you dont believe in the holocaust. Not good. To me, keeping you body in shape is very important to me, I will never be fat, and expect the same of my partner.

What should I do ?
Be brave, and come out with it straight, before we get married ?
Or accept the inevitable, Irish women are fat, and after a couple of kids, it'll all go south anyway ?

Thanks,

wp

this is a joke right?... it must be as anyone who really loves someone and wants to marry them shouldnt be having second thoughs because of her weight ..wat a jerk... and you didnt mention once thats its her health your worried about!.. its basically that your demanding she stay as fit as you... you should be asking how can you help her be fitter and healthier and feel better about herself... if you love her.. why not just encourage her to workout or just go for walks with you and then if she drops abit of weight compliment her on how she looks like shes lost some weight and how good she looks ect ect... encouragement is key... come straight out like you did above and the result may be a bad one...

A good relationship is based on openness and honesty, if you can't discuss everything what is the point..

good one... Anon .. prob the wrong site to talk about "discussing everything" , "a good relationship".and "openness and honesty".. your sounding like us singles now..ha

Captain J...

[Fitzy]

Go find yourself a nice black lady, or a latina, or an eastern European and really enjoy life. Irish women....non merci.

Don't mention Latinos I have a very unhealthy addiction to those beautiful creatures.

[Fitzy]

Good man captain jack you hit the nail on the head

[Morpheus]

After reading the post " Does the missus give you a blowjob or VV?", the responses back all seem to be the same. . . weight gain & loss of libido after "I do".

Im getting married in the summer, to a girl who used to be fairly skinny, but over the last couple of years has steadily put it on, so that now there is a healthy overhang and horizontal ripples (about 3 -4) when she wears a tight top.

To me, its a major turn off. I keep very fit, and if I say so myself, am in pretty good shape. She loves my body, and seeing me naked. I only wish the opposite was true.

But to bring up the subject of her weight, and how Id prefer it if she was skinny(ier), is like saying you dont believe in the holocaust. Not good. To me, keeping you body in shape is very important to me, I will never be fat, and expect the same of my partner.

What should I do ?
Be brave, and come out with it straight, before we get married ?
Or accept the inevitable, Irish women are fat, and after a couple of kids, it'll all go south anyway ?

Thanks,

wp

I feel for you dude. It's one of those damned if you do, damned if you don't situations.

Although I think Fitzy's advice is the best - try and bring up the subject indirectly ie. getting her to join you in the gym etc..

Its so typical though of life -you love this girl , want to marry her and she's let herself go physically. I have an ex that I stupidly let go, and she' still fit as fuck , 8 years later! (If I'd married her, Murphys law would be that she be a balloon by now!)

I'll admit it - I'm very shallow, which is one of the many reasons I'm single. I trust you have more substance and will do the right thing.

[westernpunter]

this is a joke right?... it must be as anyone who really loves someone and wants to marry them shouldnt be having second thoughs because of her weight ..wat a jerk... and you didnt mention once thats its her health your worried about!.. its basically that your demanding she stay as fit as you... you should be asking how can you help her be fitter and healthier and feel better about herself... if you love her.. why not just encourage her to workout or just go for walks with you and then if she drops abit of weight compliment her on how she looks like shes lost some weight and how good she looks ect ect... encouragement is key... come straight out like you did above and the result may be a bad one...



good one... Anon .. prob the wrong site to talk about "discussing everything" , "a good relationship".and "openness and honesty".. your sounding like us singles now..ha

Captain J...

Thats fair enough Capt. J, but all of the above has been done. Yes, I am being selfish, in that I like a fit body, but so would she.... Im just concerned that her desire to stay fit and healthy is way less than mine. Ive done all the encouragement I can do, but she just doesnt seem to give a shit whether she's fit / healthy or not. So without coming out with it blatantly, I dont see what I can do... Hence why Im telling everyone in here....

Show me one man who hasn't had 2nd thoughts leading up to getting married ??? I dont believe its a reflection on my love / lack of for her. If the roles were reversed, I would totally see her having the same concerns as me...

A woman's point of view would be good here ?????

[Fitzy]

what is sex like with your girlfriend now? how regular do you have sex?

That's a very personal question to be asking.
Ps see you next Monday .

[OnlyMe]

I think she will get bigger and after reading what you have said I don't think you will be happy with that.
If you can't get over this, you might be better moving on.