Can we REALLY leave our escorting life behind and go back to how we were before?

[Aggie]

For me like in Lucy's case it was difficult to start it all over again after 2 and half year break.At this part of my life I can't see myself like changing direction but it may happen one day.I know there is a market for mature escorts,but I wouldn't see myself stuck in it for so long.I think it's important to continuosly work to improve the quality of live,by getting new qualifications,for example.
I also like other girls perceive males differently,but it doesn't mean that I couldn't have a relationship.I'm not the jealous type really,never checked someone's phone or bothered with things like this.After all I've been the unfaithfull one

[Rodney69]

This has been a really interesting discussion and I am still moved by the last post by Alex. Very thought provoking. It has made me think a lot more about the affect it has on all who choose this path. - the escorts I have visited and myself. I am not one for past regrets. Personally in the last year and a half I have met some really wonderful ladies who have helped boost my self esteem and confidence. And in the future I’m sure I’ll get this out of my system and if not stop, at least slow down J

We all make choices in life, we learn from them and hopefully benefit from them in the future.

Whether you’re an escort or client, in a relationship or not, you’re current and future happiness first starts within yourself. I hope that the choices you have made will help from the wonderful experiences you have gained.

[English Milly Masseuse]

I guess I'm trying to find out, in a long winded way, if escorting colours or influences your views on men, women or humanity, or is there a way to compartmentalise the job and real life? If and when you stop will you look at humanity in a different way than before you started?

Of course it changes our opinion on all of those things.........

I can feel another thread coming on.......

Of course you can NEVER expect ANY escort to publically post what they have learnt about men while doing this job. There would certainly be good things and funny things, but you wouldn't be able to say the negatives for fear of offending, being harmed or ruining your business. I can only comment for myself that it has made me understand men far more and I now realise that we seriously are totally different creatures in so many ways.

With this in mind, I like to think in a positive way and while I can't/wont generalise about ALL men and women, I like to lump together the "nice ones" and can truthfully say that although we offer role play and fantasies and try to be what ever the client requests, we will always keep a part of ourselves for US.....we are so much more than sexual objects and if you respect us and the service we provide, you will have a truely much better experience and you are far more likely to get an inclination of who we really are. It makes it a hard and sad industry when you cant trust every client or every escort and it's the sex industry as a whole, I think. I like to think "treat me as I treat you" but sadly....thats my own little fantasy!

[English Milly Masseuse]

I read Alexis' post and I was moved - it's the most honest post I've ever read from an escort on here. Powerful, praiseworthy stuff.

I'm not sure if I want to bang her anymore, though

We have to be so careful what we post on here due to the obvious security issues but this honesty is really comforting to read because I have experienced many of the same worries and feelings as Alexis'. Infact, escorting has created the most diverse feelings for me than anything else I have ever done in my life.

You can go from elation, happiness and the height of sexual awareness to insecurity, sadness and fear very quickly.

I am lucky enough to be able share my thoughts and feelings with friends and family as I chose to tell a selected few of my career change but for a woman living a secret and almost double life.......shit, it's tough!

[robijntje]

We have to be so careful what we post on here due to the obvious security issues but this honesty is really comforting to read because I have experienced many of the same worries and feelings as Alexis'. Infact, escorting has created the most diverse feelings for me than anything else I have ever done in my life.

You can go from elation, happiness and the height of sexual awareness to insecurity, sadness and fear very quickly.

I am lucky enough to be able share my thoughts and feelings with friends and family as I chose to tell a selected few of my career change but for a woman living a secret and almost double life.......shit, it's tough!

I'm not going to say I understand your situation, because no one but escorts have an idea about how tough it can be.

But believe in yourself, and you will find what you are looking for, we all do in the end .

[alexis]

In response to mousy not wanting to "bang" me anymore! lol!

first of all, can i stress im an extremely happy person and i love being an independent women lol anyone who knows me can vouch for that!i am talking about in the future when i have retired from escorting! i have already stated in a previous thread that i would never be in a relationship with a man while escorting as it would cause too may problems and be so unfair, im not ging to put that stress on myself so its nothing i need to worry about now!


also im talking about the negative aspects of escorting that i have experienced im not talking about the positives which are also in abundance there is always a balance in life with everything!As i said,when i enter this profession i had no self esteem or self worth, now im so comfortable and happy in myself!the men i have encountered since the start of the year have made me feel so special and given me a new found confidence i never had before, so ive have gained alot for my experience and i am greatly appreciate of that.

I did worry that being so honest and open was going to back fire on my business,but i just felt compelled to comment truthfully.if it does deter men who worry that i am somewhat emotionally detached from visitng me, wellthat is actually in my favour!!this is something that i have been having huge problems with, people mistaking my passionate GFE for the real thing and its a difficult situation to be put it! as i said, i love what i do, i love having sex and i find it so pleasurable. the the reason i think i provide such a good service (well i hope i do lol)is because i genuinely enjoy it!its not an act for me like it might be for other escorts!


i did not mean to cause offence or insult anyone, and i apologise if i did. as i said i my last post, i can completely understand why some men are unfaithful, its a basic need and desire that may be lacking in their lives or it may not be in their nature to be monogamous, as one man said to me "who wants the same dinner every night?" lol this is something that i have learnt from my profession, i could never comprehend infidelilty before. im just stating that it would hurt me but maybe im just too sensitive!



the greatest thing you'll ever learn in life is to love & be loved in return........


thats a very strong statement and i am fully aware of this.I can only speak from my own experience. i dont fall in love easily but when i am in love with a person! THEY ARE MY WORLD,they mean everything to me! most married men seem so respectful of their wives they speak about them in such high regard and i know that they love them so much so it worries me when i think about my future relationship,As i said some of my sessions with married men are so intense, pleasurable and erotic and to think that my man was having such an amazing experience with another women could cut through my heart like a knife!


Escorting has thought me not as naive and gullible as i once was and therefore i dont trust people as much as i used it! that can be a good thing in a way as i can protect myslef from getting hurt or from being taken advantage of.

[Forrest]

I did worry that being so honest and open was going to back fire on my business,but i just felt compelled to comment truthfully.if it does deter men who worry that i am somewhat emotionally detached from visitng me, wellthat is actually in my favour!!this is something that i have been having huge problems with, people mistaking my passionate GFE for the real thing and its a difficult situation to be put it! as i said, i love what i do, i love having sex and i find it so pleasurable. the the reason i think i provide such a good service (well i hope i do lol)is because i genuinely enjoy it!its not an act for me like it might be for other escorts!

the greatest thing you'll ever learn in life is to love & be loved in return........

I imagine that, very occasionally, an escort and a client will have a mutual 'connection'.
I expect that all escorts are 'emotionally detached' to differing degrees and any man that mistakes a 'passionate GFE with an escort' for the real thing should quit fast. It's a fantasy - meeting a beautiful girl, having passionate, dirty sex that makes you feel special for an hour or two - and the really good escorts make it 'seem' real.
Let's not fool ourselves, it's a job that some ladies do very well.
Alexis, your honesty wouldn't deter me, as the fantasy that you provide is what I have come to expect from all the top quality escorts.

As for the original topic, I would hope that all escorts would be able to move on from this career, and either get back to the life they knew before, or take on a fresh challenge.

[Doozer]

In response to mousy not wanting to "bang" me anymore! lol!

first of all, can i stress im an extremely happy person and i love being an independent women lol anyone who knows me can vouch for that!i am talking about in the future when i have retired from escorting! i have already stated in a previous thread that i would never be in a relationship with a man while escorting as it would cause too may problems and be so unfair, im not ging to put that stress on myself so its nothing i need to worry about now!


also im talking about the negative aspects of escorting that i have experienced im not talking about the positives which are also in abundance there is always a balance in life with everything!As i said,when i enter this profession i had no self esteem or self worth, now im so comfortable and happy in myself!the men i have encountered since the start of the year have made me feel so special and given me a new found confidence i never had before, so ive have gained alot for my experience and i am greatly appreciate of that.

I did worry that being so honest and open was going to back fire on my business,but i just felt compelled to comment truthfully.if it does deter men who worry that i am somewhat emotionally detached from visitng me, wellthat is actually in my favour!!this is something that i have been having huge problems with, people mistaking my passionate GFE for the real thing and its a difficult situation to be put it! as i said, i love what i do, i love having sex and i find it so pleasurable. the the reason i think i provide such a good service (well i hope i do lol)is because i genuinely enjoy it!its not an act for me like it might be for other escorts!


i did not mean to cause offence or insult anyone, and i apologise if i did. as i said i my last post, i can completely understand why some men are unfaithful, its a basic need and desire that may be lacking in their lives or it may not be in their nature to be monogamous, as one man said to me "who wants the same dinner every night?" lol this is something that i have learnt from my profession, i could never comprehend infidelilty before. im just stating that it would hurt me but maybe im just too sensitive!



the greatest thing you'll ever learn in life is to love & be loved in return........


thats a very strong statement and i am fully aware of this.I can only speak from my own experience. i dont fall in love easily but when i am in love with a person! THEY ARE MY WORLD,they mean everything to me! most married men seem so respectful of their wives they speak about them in such high regard and i know that they love them so much so it worries me when i think about my future relationship,As i said some of my sessions with married men are so intense, pleasurable and erotic and to think that my man was having such an amazing experience with another women could cut through my heart like a knife!


Escorting has thought me not as naive and gullible as i once was and therefore i dont trust people as much as i used it! that can be a good thing in a way as i can protect myslef from getting hurt or from being taken advantage of.

I have to reply. Alexis I must say that was a well written post. But in defence of the male gender everywhere may I just remind you that its only a small proportion (I hope ) of men that use escorts. Im sure much more cheat as well but I still thing because your working with mans darker side (infidelity) it has clouded your opinion of us.

Not every man is a cheating bastard

[anon361]

Wow, what a thread! I genuinely do feel sorry for ladies that do this job as I am sure it must be very difficult for them to lead a normal life either during or after they decide to take a different path, how could they trust men when they have seen the darkest side of us but surely they must realise or hopefully come to realise that they have only seen the dark side of a select proportion of men, I have worked with many men and know hundreds yet I am only aware of a handful that has actually seen an escort whilst in a relationship.
I do think we all have the capacity to be unfaithful but that is a failing (if you believe in monogamy) as a species and the fact you were or are an escort doesn't change that but surely gives you a warped ratio of how many actually act on that capacity.
There are a lot of good decent men out there but you won't meet one whilst you are in this profession or should I say through this profession. Of course you are going to be hardened towards a relationship especially if you close your heart completely in case it gets hurt but then you will never be happy, like you train for a new career I also think you need to re-train your emotions to accept genuine affection and not the false type you receive while with a client, IMO that is just lust fuelled affection which is frivolous.
I know how the ladies feel when they say financially it is hard to give it up, I hate what I do, I was steered into what I do for financial reasons but it is far from what I want to do, I would dream of having a 9-5 job in Tesco but financially I could never do it so on that level I sympathise but it shows you that it's not just in escorting it happens. As Bronte has stated when you build your life around your income it is very difficult to change to a job you like but a lower income. Unfortunately what I do is in a very niche market and my skills are based on that so if I were to re-invent myself it would be a very labouring task, not to mention I have also the careers of dozens of people resting on my shoulders as to change direction would mean closing or selling a successful business which in this climate is not easy to do.

[Doozer]

Wow, what a thread! I genuinely do feel sorry for ladies that do this job as I am sure it must be very difficult for them to lead a normal life either during or after they decide to take a different path, how could they trust men when they have seen the darkest side of us but surely they must realise or hopefully come to realise that they have only seen the dark side of a select proportion of men, I have worked with many men and know hundreds yet I am only aware of a handful that has actually seen an escort whilst in a relationship.
I do think we all have the capacity to be unfaithful but that is a failing (if you believe in monogamy) as a species and the fact you were or are an escort doesn't change that but surely gives you a warped ratio of how many actually act on that capacity.
There are a lot of good decent men out there but you won't meet one whilst you are in this profession or should I say through this profession. Of course you are going to be hardened towards a relationship especially if you close your heart completely in case it gets hurt but then you will never be happy, like you train for a new career I also think you need to re-train your emotions to accept genuine affection and not the false type you receive while with a client, IMO that is just lust fuelled affection which is frivolous.
I know how the ladies feel when they say financially it is hard to give it up, I hate what I do, I was steered into what I do for financial reasons but it is far from what I want to do, I would dream of having a 9-5 job in Tesco but financially I could never do it so on that level I sympathise but it shows you that it's not just in escorting it happens. As Bronte has stated when you build your life around your income it is very difficult to change to a job you like but a lower income. Unfortunately what I do is in a very niche market and my skills are based on that so if I were to re-invent myself it would be a very labouring task, not to mention I have also the careers of dozens of people resting on my shoulders as to change direction would mean closing or selling a successful business which in this climate is not easy to do.

I have to agree with all that Anon (bar the working in tescos bit)