Can we REALLY leave our escorting life behind and go back to how we were before?

[Rodney69]

i see it in a whole new light. But i have the utmost respect for escorts now, i used to think this was an easy way to make money! not in the slightest! men have no idea, the physical, emotional and mental effects it has on a women! it takes a courageous strong women to make the decision to enter this profession and be able to handle it! fair play to all the ladies here!

Summed up very well Alex. With more years comes more experience of course, but age is just a number. It doesn't determine how strong you are. There are lots of escorts here who post regularly and appear to be strong and independent and in control.
But there are over 700 escorts working on this site tonight . can the same be said of all?

I really do admire you. Good luck to all of you.

[hd7055]

My thanks to all posters on what is a really interesting and insightful thread.

My 2 cents?

Am an ex-punter - I just couldn't separate the emotional from the physical and found trying to do so made feel like a complete s**t. For some people sex without connection or commitment is their ideal - I found that, for me, this was not the case.

Any lady working as an escort has my ultimate respect - I don't know how you do the job you do. Please accept that's in no way a judgmental comment - we have all wound up where we are for different reasons and am in absolutely no position to judge anyone.

Going back to the original question of whether escorts can go back to their 'original' lives - absolutely yes, but, and it is a big BUT, before they have found themselves changed by this business - both in their attitude to men (here I mean non-punters) and, more importantly, themselves.

Hope this makes some sense.

hd.

[hd7055]

My thanks to all posters on what is a really interesting and insightful thread.

My 2 cents?

Am an ex-punter - I just couldn't separate the emotional from the physical and found trying to do so made feel like a complete s**t. For some people sex without connection or commitment is their ideal - I found that, for me, this was not the case.

Any lady working as an escort has my ultimate respect - I don't know how you do the job you do. Please accept that's in no way a judgmental comment - we have all wound up where we are for different reasons and am in absolutely no position to judge anyone.

Going back to the original question of whether escorts can go back to their 'original' lives - absolutely yes, but, and it is a big BUT, before they have found themselves changed by this business - both in their attitude to men (here I mean non-punters) and, more importantly, themselves.

Hope this makes some sense.

hd.

[alexis]

I do constantly worry about my future,I do want to retire from this profession at some stage. There are so many other areas in life i want to explore and focus on but realistically i think it will be extremely difficult to leave this lifestyle i have become accustomed to and go back to a "normal" life. I can really see myself being a MILF! lol! Of course the financial aspect,the freedom and flexibility of my work hours,being my own boss etc. will all be difficult issues to address but my biggest concern is the possibility of a future relationship (or lack of)....


This is probably the most unfortunate thing for me,but i have lost my faith in men since entering this profession. I do love men,I love their company, I love having sex and I love having fun with them! In my professional life its fantastic! Its fun ,care free and easy, there is no commitment and I truely enjoy what I do. But in my personal life, I don't think i could ever get emotionally involved with a man again.I would find it too difficult to trust a man now, like in the original post I now have this "Awareness" that i wish i didnt have. I would now be paranoid that my partner would be unfaithful to me!


perhaps its not in some men's nature to be monogamous, I know that its just sex, a physical act, a basic need so i can understand it in that sense but still my emotions are not logical! If i was in love and my partner was with an escort I could not forgive the betrayal .esp now that i am aware of how erotic and intense some of my sessions with married men are, i would find it to be so hurtful!

On another note,

i would feel ashamed to tell a future partner what i have done in the past for a living. I think if he did not understand it properly he could lose a little respect for me. I couldnt possibly keep a secret that big from him and would want to be completely honest with him but i would worry the effect it would have on our relationship and future together!

[Experienced Punter esq]

[QUOTE=alexis;305399]I do constantly worry about my future,I do want to retire from this profession at some stage. There are so many other areas in life i want to explore and focus on but realistically i think it will be extremely difficult to leave this lifestyle i have become accustomed to and go back to a "normal" life. I can really see myself being a MILF! lol! Of course the financial aspect,the freedom and flexibility of my work hours,being my own boss etc. will all be difficult issues to address but my biggest concern is the possibility of a future relationship (or lack of)....


This is probably the most unfortunate thing for me,but i have lost my faith in men since entering this profession. I do love men,I love their company, I love having sex and I love having fun with them! In my professional life its fantastic! Its fun ,care free and easy, there is no commitment and I truely enjoy what I do. But in my personal life, I don't think i could ever get emotionally involved with a man again.I would find it too difficult to trust a man now, like in the original post I now have this "Awareness" that i wish i didnt have. I would now be paranoid that my partner would be unfaithful to me!

perhaps its not in some men's nature to be monogamous, I know that its just sex, a physical act, a basic need so i can understand it in that sense but still my emotions are not logical! If i was in love and my partner was with an escort I could not forgive the betrayal .esp now that i am aware of how erotic and intense some of my sessions with married men are, i would find it to be so hurtful!

Thats a great pity Alexis I've heard that sooo much from escorts about never trusting men again I know there comes a time in life when everyone needs time to themselves to be on their own/single we get caught up in what should be love and taking care of everything & everyone but ourselves, first u must find a ''real man'' upon finding said ''real man'' determine if he is good, IF he is a ''good & real man'' u may trust him from the start, the greatest thing you'll ever learn in life is to love & be loved in return...

[Mousey]

I read Alexis' post and I was moved - it's the most honest post I've ever read from an escort on here. Powerful, praiseworthy stuff.

I'm not sure if I want to bang her anymore, though

[El Gordo]

I read Alexis' post and I was moved - it's the most honest post I've ever read from an escort on here. Powerful, praiseworthy stuff.

True.

I'm not sure if I want to bang her anymore, though

I still would, but no doubt I'm more hardened and cynical than you are.

[Experienced Punter esq]

I read Alexis' post and I was moved - it's the most honest post I've ever read from an escort on here. Powerful, praiseworthy stuff.

I'm not sure if I want to bang her anymore, though

have u nothing else to add read my quality posts on this thread u might learn something......

[El Gordo]

i really want a normal life nornal job boyfriend etc etc
but its so hard
im finding it really difficult to date at the mo, how do you trust someone,

This is probably the most unfortunate thing for me,but i have lost my faith in men since entering this profession. I do love men,I love their company, I love having sex and I love having fun with them! In my professional life its fantastic! Its fun ,care free and easy, there is no commitment and I truely enjoy what I do. But in my personal life, I don't think i could ever get emotionally involved with a man again.I would find it too difficult to trust a man now, like in the original post I now have this "Awareness" that i wish i didnt have. I would now be paranoid that my partner would be unfaithful to me!

You have to keep in mind that most men don't punt. That's hard to remember when you're meeting punters every day, but it's true. So you shouldn't assume we are representative of the rest.

[Mousey]

So you shouldn't assume we are representative of the rest.

This is true. You will never meet a man as good-looking, successful or as downright nice as Mousey. So you have to settle for as close an approximation as you can