Can we REALLY leave our escorting life behind and go back to how we were before?

[Heidi Baby]

I totally agree Kelly.....n a way I wished I had escorted in the 80's when I was a curvy size 12 and young enough and free enough to travel and work....doing what I wanted when I wanted but I am also glad that I did the "college, marriage, family thing" first because I think that if I had been an escort in my 20's I would not have been wise enough to cope with all the shit we have to deal with. No one can teach you the book of life and knowledge is valuable. I am glad I left it till I was "mature" enough to be able to make sensible decisions........

I feel now I lcan deal with this "crap"! Difficult, but somehow we have to survive the life too! Maybe I'm only 21 years old, but I can appreciate the life! Sometimes I dont make the right choices, but God,humans we are! Everyone makes mistakes and we learn from our owns! So do not tell me that just because you are old enough, you make better decisions! It does not matter how old you of the calendar ...
matters what is on your mind hun

[Finbar]

i also think punting when one is young is a bad idea
as when your young thats when you develop social skills, learning how to pick up wemon etc etc if you dont get theese skills how do you manage to get a wife when your older

also i dont like the idea of a young person visiting stunning ho's and then how his he in the future going to be satisfied with a bog standard wife

I have to disagree with you here Kelly, speaking from the experience of a young punter. I started visiting escorts when I was 19. The first experience kind of sought me out rather than the other way around, as I met an escort socially when I was working abroad and kind of thought 'if they are all like her this might not be too bad', which I know is a bit naive. When I came home I sought out escorts on here, I suppose because it was quite an easy solution to being quite a shy person and maybe lacking in self confidence. Which sounds quite pathetic.

In the last couple 6 months I've got past this and I've been thinking of giving it up and haven't visited any girls for the last couple of months. I guess it really isn't what I'm looking for. I'm 21 now and probably wouldn't change my time over if I could. I think escorts helped me get over any issues I might have had - especially the last couple of girls I saw, just through little comments they made etc. Now I just feel a bit more confident around women. In saying that I would never advise any young person to start this as it could evolve in a quick fix for them and ruin future relationships for them.

I can understand your point about the meeting the stunning women too but I think a connection with a person is probably worth a lot more than a physicial attration, or maybe I'm just attracted to the bog standard woman!

[Sam Spade]

Speaking from an older guys perspective (47 years), I am glad I didn't punt when I was young.
My expectations would be too high.
Most of the ladies I have seen lately are gorgeous. Even the average looking ladies would look stunning if you passed them on the street.
I sometimes read reviews commenting on the ladies looks. I wonder which perspective the punter is looking at her?
As an experienced punter looking for perfection, or as the normal guy?
Trust me I see hundreds of girls passed my premises each day - and only a few would match up to the beauty of the escorts on this site.
Do I think these ladies charge too much for their time - no way. I think we should be so lucky to experience their company for such small amounts.
I may be glad I didn't put when I was young, but I am so glad now I am enjoying the fruits of such punting.

[Lucy Chambers]

i really want a normal life nornal job boyfriend etc etc
but its so hard
im finding it really difficult to date at the mo, how do you trust someone,
when im working i get used to the whole getting a text after saying how fantastic i am (its good as it helps to know your doing a good job) but when you date you see someone for a few weeks then you sleep with them then they dont ring text or anything till the following week, its bloody head wrecking
if you working in a normal job you boos wont send messages saying your good at your job, how will i coupe, id be a nervous ass all the time

I think you will meet the right person. You just haven't yet. I gave up escorting for four years, surprisingly it is easy to do. It was very hard to come back, however.

[Westsidex]

i really want a normal life nornal job boyfriend etc etc
but its so hard
im finding it really difficult to date at the mo, how do you trust someone,
when im working i get used to the whole getting a text after saying how fantastic i am (its good as it helps to know your doing a good job) but when you date you see someone for a few weeks then you sleep with them then they dont ring text or anything till the following week, its bloody head wrecking
if you working in a normal job you boos wont send messages saying your good at your job, how will i coupe, id be a nervous ass all the time

So whats harder? Not getting texts from a boss saying you are good at your job or sitting in a hotel room or an apt waiting for someone who never saw or knew knocking at the door to come in? Wouldnt this be harder than going to work, doing your work and going home again and who cares what this boss thinks as you think you did your best? In a job your work standard is the bosses problem, not yours. Just do your best and thats that.

If you go along the road of how can i trust anyone then you will only do everything in your life once and that would be all.Is that worth the risk? Is it really worth the risk? Remember when you dont trust someone you give off a false sense that the other person might pick up on and may be thinking the same thing that you are.

At the end of the day doesnt enough come along in life to try to kick us in the ass besides kicking ourselves in it?

Westside.

[Lucy Chambers]

maybe im strange but i love that part of my job i find it exciting and a rush

I don't find that strange. Superquinn does seem a little boring after you have wandered around a few five star hotels. I think we all have our own reasons.

[Westsidex]

maybe im strange but i love that part of my job i find it exciting and a rush

Nothing at all wrong with that but im telling you that you love the hardest part of your job thats nothing compared to other jobs so you wont have a problem in any other job unless your a hairdresser trying to perform open heart surgery.

The part of your job you dont like is actually the easiest part to sort out if, your willing to let the past be ,the good ,the bad and the inbetweens. Escorts can trust guys but obviously would find it harder to trust guys that punt.

I think its very important for an escort to be around guys that dont punt. Likewise i think its very important that punters are around girls that arent escorts. I dont think its healthy to be otherwise.

Westside.

[magicalman9357]

Can only give my view here as not an escort. I believe we all sell part of ourselves every single day of life whether it be through work and most other things. The only difference here is the sex element but even looking at that do married people or people who are engaged or in relationships not sell themselves to one another? I believe we do in one way or another through courtship and attempting to impress the other partner and in particular the sex element in many relationships where the male sells himself by being particularly nice to the female in an attempt to get her to bed. Yes I do realise this is not always the case but it does happpen. When I go for a job interview it is not just my talents qualifications and skils I am selling but also my appearance so we are really in a sales orientated world. I am not missing the point here I believe as I do understand that emotions and feelings play a vital role in any persons well being but I am saying it really depends on the person doing the selling and their own perspective of things. I guess the term 'hardened from working' applies to many of us as I have had suffered emotional effects from some jobs I have worked in and seen the damage psychological abuse can do but continued for the same reason in that I had to pay the bills and survive. I also think that whilst I have sold part of myself and can't buy it back it's also a learning experience and I have come to realise that it is work end of story which I separate from the rest of my life wherever possible. Once again I am not in a position to say how any escort feels but the to answer the question I do not believe it is possible to 'resume a normal life' without being affected as life experiences affect us all and carry on throughout our lives.

[Westsidex]

I was reading a blog yesteday and I have been wondering if it really is possible to not be "hardened" from escorting and to resume a life with a "normal" job and regain relationships without my last job effecting me?????

This is what the blog said-

"I am hardened from working. I am not exactly sure how to explain the feeling, but it is an awareness that i wish i didn't have. The knowledge of what its really like inside the world of prostitution is not pretty.
Yes, you can make it, you can pay your bills and get what you need, but you are going to walk away ( if your lucky enough to) feeling terrible. You've sold a part of yourself and you cant buy it back"

I know my view......but whats yours?

I know a few girls who have stopped escorting and gone on to be fine and doing very well. I said it before that the whole trick (bills or otehrwise) and this goes with anything in life ,is if it starts going against you, get out. This goes for anything.

I think the part about giving a part of yourself away comes down to a girls perception of the job and her own self esteem. I think a girl with natural higher self esteem will find it easier than a girl with naturally lower self esteem.Doesnt mean that a girl has low self esteem but some have higher.

If you built a wall and a block fell out what do you do? You can leave it as it is or fill the hole with another block or similar. This is the way an escort should look at it. How does she fill that void or in your own words that part you give away? Find someone to put it back.

If an escort is giving up escorting then give it up. No taling to punters you saw or knew. No hanging around places you worked etc. If your out then your out. This way along with simply seeing it as the beginning of a new phase of life ,i believe any escort can do well and very well too as she would have learned quite abit from her experience of being an escort. The trouble is ,is if you half do it. You half stop, half go around ppl that you met through it. Then its like a halfway house. Neither coming or going.

I think the danger for an escort is thinking all guys will see them as just someone for sex and this simply isnt true at all. I spent two bloody hours of my life trying to drill this into a girls mind one night. Oh all men just want sex, no such thing as love. Bullshit. Men need to be loved just as much as women and any guy that says otherwise is talking through his ass.

So if a girl is out she is out, make a fresh start, dont think all men just see you as someone for sex and more importantly understand that the past is just the past and only happened because its what you needed or had to do at that time.It has no further relevance to the future.

Westside.

[robijntje]

I know a few girls who have stopped escorting and gone on to be fine and doing very well. I said it before that the whole trick (bills or otehrwise) and this goes with anything in life ,is if it starts going against you, get out. This goes for anything.

I think the part about giving a part of yourself away comes down to a girls perception of the job and her own self esteem. I think a girl with natural higher self esteem will find it easier than a girl with naturally lower self esteem.Doesnt mean that a girl has low self esteem but some have higher.

If you built a wall and a block fell out what do you do? You can leave it as it is or fill the hole with another block or similar. This is the way an escort should look at it. How does she fill that void or in your own words that part you give away? Find someone to put it back.

If an escort is giving up escorting then give it up. No taling to punters you saw or knew. No hanging around places you worked etc. If your out then your out. This way along with simply seeing it as the beginning of a new phase of life ,i believe any escort can do well and very well too as she would have learned quite abit from her experience of being an escort. The trouble is ,is if you half do it. You half stop, half go around ppl that you met through it. Then its like a halfway house. Neither coming or going.

I think the danger for an escort is thinking all guys will see them as just someone for sex and this simply isnt true at all. I spent two bloody hours of my life trying to drill this into a girls mind one night. Oh all men just want sex, no such thing as love. Bullshit. Men need to be loved just as much as women and any guy that says otherwise is talking through his ass.

So if a girl is out she is out, make a fresh start, dont think all men just see you as someone for sex and more importantly understand that the past is just the past and only happened because its what you needed or had to do at that time.It has no further relevance to the future.

Westside.

I definitely see your point here, West, and I agree with you.

However, severing all ties with the past, and also past clients... I'm not saying everyone should or shouldn't, that's your own choice, but what if you developed a friendship with one of your clients? Should you also give that up?

I know that is maybe very rare, but it happens, we're people in the first place.