Is there a nice way to say it?

[Westsidex]

I've a close female friend whose gone through a very rough period in her life with divorce custody of the kids etc but over the last few months she has ballooned totally I mean u could carry a bag of coal home on her arse like from hot to not she brings up the subject of weight & what do I think I always change the subject but I'm too straightforward shes asking it more & more she'll ask me again tonight, how do I tell her nicely to lay off the swiss rolls?

Dont tell her. Let her ask. If she asks then answer her honestly and if she doesnt then dont bother with the issue. This way you wont step on her toes afterall you are only answering her qs.

One other thing. Does she ask you a lot of things about herself and are you the kind of guy that gives an answer because its nice rather than the truth? If so i would stay clear of the issue anyway because she might simply be asking you these things in order to get a soft answer back that justifies her doing it. Not saying that this is the case but just be careful if it is because you will end up falling out.

Sincerely,
Westside.

[Experienced Punter esq]

One other thing. Does she ask you a lot of things about herself and are you the kind of guy that gives an answer because its nice rather than the truth? If so i would stay clear of the issue anyway because she might simply be asking you these things in order to get a soft answer back that justifies her doing it. Not saying that this is the case but just be careful if it is because you will end up falling out.

Sincerely,
Westside.

no West I'm gonna empathise with her situation I said this earlier I wanna be rational nodding my head smiling giving her sympathy is not my style unless its a situation in life u have no control over, pity only has the result of making people home in on their own negativity - straight talker me....

[Westsidex]

no West I'm gonna empathise with her situation I said this earlier I wanna be rational nodding my head smiling giving her sympathy is not my style unless its a situation in life u have no control over, pity only has the result of making people home in on their own negativity - straight talker me....

Well if your a straight talker then only answer what she asks you and let her bring up the qs. This way youll avoid putting your foot in it.

Westside.

[dark-knight]

Tell her "your beautiful and sure we all could spend a little more time in the gym".

[Experienced Punter esq]

thanks for the advice everyone shes on her way over to my place must log off dont wanna be seen logged inhere.....

[lovethegirls]

If she keeps on asking you are going to have to tell her eventually. Just be honest and nice about it.
Different scenario i know but a few months back one of the lads in work came to me about a guy that smelled quite bad.
Had to take him aside to tell him. Horrible thing to do but the right thing to do.

[click n pick]

Tell her the weight suits her!

[alexis]

all men pease take this advise! i thought you all knew the golden rule! NEVER COMMENT ON A WOMENS WEIGHT!!you could end up giving her a complex!

im reasonalble comfortable with my body and yet i still feel a bit concious and insecure when clients comment on my weight." its great to see a girl whos not afraid to eat" or " your lovely and curvy its great that you dont feel any pressure to be skinny" these comments make me feel like "oh god, am i fat?" even tho i know im not, its completelyillogical but its the way womens minds work!

Dont say a thing to her believe me, coming from a man it will be extremly upsetting for her.Even if you say something and she does something about it and loses the weight she will always remember that you thought she was overweight and be concious of the fact!!


she is going thr a divorce the last thing she needs is to be told she is fat!!