Have never gone out with an escort, but have gone out with a adult web cam girl. The more the relationship progressed and the more intense my feelings grew, the more her job did my head in. I think when things like emotional involvement and love are factored in, sex becomes more of a mutually exclusive thing between two people. I couldn't bear the thought of her getting intimate with other men even thru the internet, even though she told me it was meaningless and just her job - I knew she had her regulars and favourites. Similarly she forbade me from coming on to her site and chatting to other girls. I think it takes a very strong couple to be able to maintain their relationship while one or both are working in the sex industry. I know we weren't able to manage it.
I don't think I would, but of course, you can say that now, but what if you encounter an escort that you actually fall in love with? I know, the guide on this site says that you shouldn't, but falling in love is an emotion that is very hard to control for most people. I, personally, always look at it very rationally, weighing pro's and cons and then decide if I would let it happen or not...
This might seem like something impossible or people who are really into the love thing would say "Bullshit, you cannot control that" and then I would say "Bullshit, of course you can..."
But yeah, it can happen that you have a very strong connection with a certain escort, but then it's always in the back of my mind: "who says that this is not part of the act..."
I might, or I might not. Really depends on the person. And I think that if you don't think about it or talk with her about her job, it could be possible... Escorts are not robots after all...
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I did - picked up a UK girl about 11 years ago on the corner of Fitzwilliam Square (working name Terry, worked from an apartment in Rathmines) fell in love, and went out with her for 11 months until she retired, still in touch with her ie. Christmas cards, birthdays,
and the odd email. Girl now teaching English in Denmark.
...I dated an escort once ,everything was great at the begining,then we had our first row over owo,she didnt like it,I said but its on your favourites,things got from bad to worse when she had her headaches,and I would submit a negative review,in the end I didnt recognise her anymore she had photoshopped her pics
a thousand kisses deep..
You mixed business with personal and thats alway a big nope. She did it with those guys to make money ,nothing else and you should have seen that. All you were short doing is asking her how much she wanted. What guys dont realise at times is maybe some of these girls get a little sick of OWO or anal for sex positions. Maybe its just acceptance , love and emotional feelings of being appreciated as an individual outside of sex and not seen as someone just to keep a mans dick happy. Theres a little bit more it than that.
I cant understand why ppl get all serious so quickly anyway. Let things take their course , no pressure and if given a chance ,maybe things might just work out just fine. With a whole load of pressure and a whole load of conditions attached ppl might as well break up on the first night because they will only make a miserable time for each other in the end.
Westside.
PS you would have got owo in the end anyway when she felt the time was right for her not for you.
Ric Hardgear (05-10-10)
Tip - everyone has things that mean alot to them and everyone has things that dont mean much. Telling a good looking woman that she is good looking is waste because she heard it before. The thing is to find out what a person holds dear and going along that route. 9 times out of 10 talking about sex with a girl who is working as an escort isnt a bright idea as it could make her think "this guy is no different from any of my customers. If you like an escort and want to know her better and have the chance to ,dont be talking about sex to her. If it comes from her then well and good but let it come from her,otherwise you risk driving her away.
not in your car though,
Westside.
PS i said 9 out of ten. there are always exceptions.
Last edited by Westsidex; 05-10-10 at 17:04.