Cheating B****rds

[ber]

I never cheated nor ever would in a stable relationship guys trying to justify the act of cheating as something else are fooling themselves trust & respect goes out the door get out of the relationship & save the woman a lifetime of emotional damage, women whether they are escorts or whatever who say every man is a cheating bastard dont know any better its a terribly unfortunate thing for a woman to feel they can never trust a man again way due to having been cheated on..

U hit the nail on the head here Ep the big word is R-E-S-P-E-C-T in my opinion tis the most vital ingredient of all in a relationship
and guys ye can justify it anyway ye like when u have sex with a person outside the relationship u are totally disrespecting your
partner. The fact that ye justify it by saying it helps the relationship means that ye are totally selfish and its all about yere own
needs and nothing to do with the needs of yere partners. To risk causing the hurt to ure partner that they would feel if the found
out means ye have no respect for their feeling, if ye stopped and thought for one minute and put ureself in their shoes as one of
u has admitted already they wouldnt like their partner to be doing the same. This thing about not knowing how it is when ure
single is bullshit we all have been in stable relationships and I would end it before id cheat.
Its like this anyway u dress it up tis a totally selfish act just a case of having ure cake and eating it
If u want a relationship there are postives and negatives one of the negatives is u can only have sex with one person so if u feel
the negatives outweigh the postives why be in a relationship atall

[ber]

Sorry but when you are in a stable relationship for 15 years plus and you can still say you are 100% faithful then I will give you your dues till then I'll take what any single man says with a pinch of salt

So whats the time frame whenu think tis acceptable to wander ? 2yrs 5 yrs 7 yrs 10 yrs ?

[Lucy Chambers]

Iagree totally with u Dianna if u cant remain faithful do the decent thing and leave the relationship, if u arent prepared to make sacrafices for a relationship its not worth having. Dont get into a relationship if u want to act like a free agent.
Im no Angel but i feel strongly about the fact that if u cheat thats all respect gone so i wouldnt get in a relationship if i wasnt prepared to be faithful

I agree with you on one level, but there are so many shades of grey. What if one partner was ill, and couldn't maintain a sexual relationship? Would you still leave? Or, as happens to many women, they go through the menopause and go entirely off sex, should you leave then? If you spend long enough with someone and they are your best friend then surely meaningless sex with a stranger does not mean that you should leave your soulmate? There are many reasons people stay in marriages, and many devices people use to stay in that marriage.

[ber]

No I wouldn’t encourage it Ber. And yet I do visit escorts myself. As I have said before I am a greedy selfish bastard. But in a strange way I feel that my ability to see an escort actually helps me keep my marriage together. I think it would be worse if I went looking to have an affair to satisfy my sexual needs. So by visiting an escort every so often I can top up on my sex drug and return to normal life a happy man.

Unfortunately I tend to top up way to often, so maybe my argument is totally fcuked up here. Lol.

This thing of it helping the relationship is a kinda of a perverse form of justification, im pretty sure cheating has been the downfall
of alot more relationships than it has saved.

[anon361]

So whats the time frame whenu think tis acceptable to wander ? 2yrs 5 yrs 7 yrs 10 yrs ?

Not what I said nor implied, I took a figure out of my head but really what I am saying untill you die their is no way of saying you will be faithfull forever, none of us now what or who is around the corner...

[ber]

I agree with you on one level, but there are so many shades of grey. What if one partner was ill, and couldn't maintain a sexual relationship? Would you still leave? Or, as happens to many women, they go through the menopause and go entirely off sex, should you leave then? If you spend long enough with someone and they are your best friend then surely meaningless sex with a stranger does not mean that you should leave your soulmate? There are many reasons people stay in marriages, and many devices people use to stay in that marriage.

Well then what u are saying is that the relationship has reached a level where by u are for all intents and purposes ure best friends
Well then u discuss ure needs and if ure partner cant fullfill them u then decide do u end the relationship or by MUTUAL agreement
u fulfill that part elswhere. In my opinion its not the physical act as such but the deciet and disrespect that goes with it is the problem. My solution would deal with those issues

[ber]

Not what I said nor implied, I took a figure out of my head but really what I am saying untill you die their is no way of saying you will be faithfull forever, none of us now what or who is around the corner...

No we dont but i do know something if i did cheat when id look in the mirror in the morning id not be too proud of the
man id see looking back at me. This is very important to me its the same as when i give my word to someone i would
never break it regardless. My word is my bond. People are different some peoples word means nothing to them, very
same as cheating means nothing to some people

[Lucy Chambers]

No we dont but i do know something if i did cheat when id look in the mirror in the morning id not be too proud of the
man id see looking back at me. This is very important to me its the same as when i give my word to someone i would
never break it regardless. My word is my bond. People are different some peoples word means nothing to them, very
same as cheating means nothing to some people

I respect you for your view. But I also respectfully point out that life is a ever changing thing...sometimes you change with it.

[anon361]

No we dont but i do know something if i did cheat when id look in the mirror in the morning id not be too proud of the
man id see looking back at me. This is very important to me its the same as when i give my word to someone i would
never break it regardless. My word is my bond. People are different some peoples word means nothing to them, very
same as cheating means nothing to some people

We are going to around in circles with this one, I concede seeing an escort technically is cheating, how we deal / justify that is really our own business, but as far as a single man saying he will never cheat is , he doesn't know that as he hasn't lived his whole life yet knor is he in a long term relationship to prove it, you can't win that argument, Sorry but you can't...

[benin]

We are going to around in circles with this one, I concede seeing an escort technically is cheating, how we deal / justify that is really our own business, but as far as a single man saying he will never cheat is , he doesn't know that as he hasn't lived his whole life yet knor is he in a long term relationship to prove it, you can't win that argument, Sorry but you can't...

its like a person who never had a drink saying they would never be an alcoholic (a bit extreme i know)