johnmurphy (04-08-10)
you see ladies and gentlemen when a marriage breaks up and a lot of them usually do it causes so much hassel and pain especially the house it has to get split down the middle ....the man gets the outside of the house and the woman gets the inside.....another good reason to stay single
johnmurphy (04-08-10)
johnmurphy (04-08-10), Taylor of Manchester (04-08-10)
That's true as well but I am actually surprised about that living together for a long time doesn't seem to help in your case.
I was living together with a few guys back home (not with all in the same time, lol).
For the very best of them, the average time I needed to really get to know them and make up my mind I never want to marry them was about 2 years. With the others, I would realise much faster they are not really for me.
Maybe is just my mind working differently here.
johnmurphy (04-08-10)
I know what you mean. Usually at least one of the pair is expecting things to change in some way after the wedding. Otherwise why would they have bothered to get married? The problem is that often they have different assumptions about how things will change, which they may not have discussed in advance.
“I wish you wouldn’t keep appearing and vanishing so suddenly; you make one quite giddy!”
“All right,” said the Cat; and this time it vanished quite slowly, beginning with the end of the tail, and ending with the grin, which remained some time after the rest of it had gone.
johnmurphy (04-08-10)
I'd say you're right on the money there Ber.
Back at Christmas time I was home, and got to meet up with a few mates from secondary (been 10 years gone since we've finished), and I was sitting with 3 friends (1 guy, 2 girls), and they were all married, save for me. The gug had been married for 2 years beofre things got to the point where she moved out, and the divorce was nearly finalized, after a year of separation. One of the girls, who'd tracked me down on Facebook after not seeing or hearing from her in years, said that her husband was moving out in a weeks' time. The other girl was the only one that was happily married, ann she'd been with the guy for 2 years before they were married, so it's going on over 4 years together for them.
The 2 whose marriages were breaking up, especially the girl, said that something in the relationship really changed, and obviously for the worse, since they got married. they'd lived together for a good while before getting married, adn all was well for them. There was just something about actually getting married that changed things for them, and they really couldn't place it exactly. But I'd say they were agree with the things you've said here.
My brother is getting married in November, and I'd be trying to talk him out of it (if he wasn't such a %$@)! Oh well, maybe he'll just have to learn the hard way...
johnmurphy (04-08-10)
johnmurphy (04-08-10), MILF Hunter (04-08-10)
fcuk marriage...I'm solo, I'm riding solo.....Yeeeeeyeeeah, yeah, yeahhhhhhh
♫ I'm feeling how I should, never knew single could feel this good, oh, ♫
♫ Stop playing miss understood, back in the game, who knew I would, oh, ♫
♫ So flex how I spread my wings, loving myself makes me wanna sing, oh, ♫
♫ Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, .... ♫
Who do I trust? I trust me!
Marriage? Been there, done that, still paying the debts off!
Such is life