johnmurphy (04-08-10)
Blatant promotion should be outlawed
but
Vincent Browne is a Hero
johnmurphy (04-08-10)
Kierkegaard wrote:
"Marry, and you will regret it. Do not marry, and you will also regret it. Marry or do not marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the stupidities of the world, and you will regret it; weep over them, and you will also regret it. Laugh at the stupidities of the world or weep over them, you will regret it either way. Trust a girl, and you will regret it. Do not trust her, and you will also regret it. Trust a girl or do not trust her, you will regret it either way. Hang yourself, and you will regret it. Do not hang yourself, and you will also regret it. Hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret it either way."
from Either/Or 1843
It is probably true.
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johnmurphy (04-08-10), Lucy Chambers (04-08-10), luther (04-08-10)
johnmurphy (04-08-10)
I've been in this situation. I didn't go along with it. I respected her much more than that. I'd rather see her happy with one of the other 80% that perhaps wouldn't have had the regrets that perhaps I would have had...........
It wasn't so much the not loving her part, I did, for me it was issues with myself, my own self confidence, my uncertainty about if I was good enough for her, if I'd be a good husband, etc. etc. etc. etc.............
I let the best one ever go because I thought she's be better off without me.........
She probably is..........
"It's far easier to fight for principles than to live up to them."
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johnmurphy (04-08-10)
johnmurphy (04-08-10)
You could always live together with a partner before deciding to get married or not.
Long enough to see if your relationship is better for it or not - or at least worth the troubles or boredom that's going to bring.
The way some of you are talking here is like you just take the woman on a few dates and then you go straight ahead and marry her. What are the chances for that to work I wonder
But when you live with someone for more then 6 months, sometimes much longer, you get to know the real person.
Not the one that you think she / he is, the actual person. If you don't like what you see, just leave or demand the other person to leave, whatever the case might be. There is no alimony to pay, no goods to split, no mortgage etc ...
If it's all good, nothing is stopping you to plan your marriage, which has now much better chances to work. I am not saying it will work 100% because nothing is guaranteed in this world (other then dying ) but you will have actual real chances to never regret your doing.
Even if you decide not to get married, it doesn't matter much in this ideal compatible situation. Unless maybe a child comes along and you want to give the kid a proper family and a sense of security.
Cable87 (04-08-10), johnmurphy (04-08-10)
johnmurphy (04-08-10)
johnmurphy (04-08-10)
I think the problem her is the actual finality of marriage, many of the people in the survey im sure were already
cohabitating but once u put on that ring it changes the whole thing. In reality escape from the relationship was
but the packing of a bag away before marriage afterwards not so easy. Ure after totally committing to the relationship
now. I think u also have the scenario where partners expect different things from each other once they marry,it ups
the ante so to speak and they may feel now that they are entitled to more input into even the other partners
personal decisions. Personally i know of several relationships where people seemed to living happily together until
the ring went on and then the cracks started to appear. I reckon maybe people dont work as hard as they should
at the relationship either because they kinda relax and say sur i have him/her now. As they say familiarity breeds
contempt
Blatant promotion should be outlawed
but
Vincent Browne is a Hero
johnmurphy (04-08-10)