depression

[Footballmad1974]

I'm sorry to hear you are in the dumps Harry.. I have a few thoughts on the subject.. I dont know you.. but hope you wont mind my post..

Depression is a strange thing.. Its to me the body and mind trying to tell you something in your life is not right.. You may be trying to pretend everything is ok.. but the reality is that you cant fool yourself like you can fool others.. It could be that the job you do is completely unfullfilling.. You spend a huge ammount of your life there.. If its not a happy place to be.. then it might be time for a change.. That could be tougher to make a reality than just swapping jobs.. We all have commitments that tie us into jobs, relationships etc.. It might be that you can set your mind free by simply taking the first steps towards a change.. Maybe its deciding what you would really love to do and taking a beginner course on the subject and accomplishing a simple first step on a new road will brighten your days.

If your in a realtionship with someone long term and there are difficulties.. Maybe deep down punting is just not the right answer to other problems in a realtionship? This is something that you can help yourself with I would think.. Of course I may be way off the mark..

The other thing that comes to mind is a little more tricky as it is a difficult and willpower required area... Its fitness...
Are you a fit and healthy guy? I am not the most fit person in the world.. but I do find that excercise is a wonderful way to make someone feel good about themselves.. just knowing that you ran 5 miles today instead of the 4 you were able to do last week... The sense of accomlishment.. of doing something good for yourself.. Should help alot...

But at the end of the day.. I agree with what the others have said... There is no shame in speaking to a proffesional and getting help.. Everyone needs a helping hand sometimes.. thats why these guys work in the field they do.. You may think you are week for going to see a counsellor but in reality you are a stronger man and far healthier of mind if you are able to take that step towards getting the help you need!

Went on a bit there.. Sorry the post is so long..

[debest]

I think suggesting getting professional help is good advice, but I don't see a problem with asking about issues like this on E-I. Different things work for different people. Obviously this is not the place to get professional help and that is often what is needed most in a situation like this, but I would hate E-I to be a place where people can't share things like this, because it is too hostile and unfriendly an environment. By posting here Harry is recognising that he has a problem and sharing his experience. Others here can probably understand his situation some or relate. It may even lead to others here evaluating their own situation and realising they too are struggling with a real problem. I hope Harry gets some advice which is useful or at the least some friendly understanding.

I was just querying that this wasn't his only outlet for his problem.

Although I wouldn't personally post anything like this here as there can be some serious assholes in this place, I wouldn't criticize anyone who does.

[aml]

I would like to believe that the majority of people on this would be sensitive to these problems but there will always be a few out there that will not be...however he has taken the first step which is generally the most difficult that he has a problem but this is where the hard work begins.

[Dirty Harry]

thanks to everyone this dose help and EI is a good place to talk about things like this i just wished i did it sooner i am on medication and its working at the moment but as the doctor says any type of anitepressant drugs or sleeping pills are not to be taken long term as they can be additive .....i don't like taking tablets but now i have no choice in the matter but don't want to rely on pills i was drinking heavy being a nasty person and lashing out at people that was trying to help jesus i'm so sorry i did that thank god i'm sober and can start to focus on getting my self sorted thanks everyone

[poggo]

You have taken the right step by admitting that you may have a problem with depression, so now you have to decide how to move forward, my advice, its based on experience, is to seek out a Cognitive Behavior Therepist, this in my opinion is the best form of professional help you can get. Also I agree with those who say posting here is a good thing. Of course drink is the most deprssive drug out there, so staying away from that will help greatly. Dont be to hard on yourself, self analysis in a state of depression is counter productive. Take care and good luck.....

Poggo............

[JessicaJessy]

depression has anyone here ever being suffering from depression i have been in a bad way over the last few weeks up's and downs crying for no reason knowing to myself not being able to concentrate on my job it got so bad that i had to take sick leave untill further notice the worse thing i did was to drink with my medication and i became somone that i didn't like i lashed out at people that was trying to help me i am sober now and just wanted to talk about this and i am very sorry to the people that i hurt you know who you are anyon ever feel like this please talk about it and don't bottle it up inside for too long i hope to be back on track again soon...........

Hello Harry,i think most of the people suffer from depression in a way or another,but not all of them are able to accept that!In my opinion,if you've been strong enough to recognize it,half of your problem is solved and if you are able to talk about it,then you are strong enough to find a solution for it.I think that more then professional help,is everything about you!You are the only one that can change this.I imagine that you know yourself very well,so you should start to change something in your life,even if is a small thing.Do something that would make you happy.And don't stop to talk about it,keeping this just for yourself is the worst you can do!
This is just my opinion!Hope you will be fine very soon!

[Dirty Harry]

I think suggesting getting professional help is good advice, but I don't see a problem with asking about issues like this on E-I. Different things work for different people. Obviously this is not the place to get professional help and that is often what is needed most in a situation like this, but I would hate E-I to be a place where people can't share things like this, because it is too hostile and unfriendly an environment. By posting here Harry is recognising that he has a problem and sharing his experience. Others here can probably understand his situation some or relate. It may even lead to others here evaluating their own situation and realising they too are struggling with a real problem. I hope Harry gets some advice which is useful or at the least some friendly understanding.

thanks patricia i have been taking thing on the boards to seriously as well this is part of my problem i have so you can imagine how seriously i have been taking my work in my professional life..the boards is a great place for fun and we should be able to talk here but there is some people that are trying to turn it into a hostile place i got good advice from some board members and escorts and i threw it back in there face i didn' want to face up that i had a problem so now i am going to get myself sorted i wont be punting for a few weeks

[Blond chick NIKKY]

Hi Harry, i am very sorry to hear how you feel. I know the feeling. I hope you will feel better soon. Sometimes the medicaments are the best solution. But the combination with alcohol is killing. Please don't risk too much. It's not worth it. I will think of you, be strong. You can send me pm any time or txt if you would like to or need to talk.
Take care Nikky xxx

[thehighwayman]

Your a good guy Harry and this thread shows that your not alone. Anytime your feeling down or need advice theres plenty of us here if you want to talk. It's a good step to come on here and talk about it. You probably need some professional help.When you go to a doctor or whatever be as honest as possible so you can get to the root of the problem. I think if you change some things in your life like Jessy said it will help. Remove as much stress as you can from your life. If theres people been assholes on here to you ignore them. I think your doing alot of things ti help already by coming on here and giving up drink. Drink is never the answer and only makes it worse. If you change your lifestyle a bit it could help. Maybe eat more healthy and do a little excercise everyday. Even just a half hour walk everyday would help. Whenever I do some excercise I feel great afterwards. Sleeping could be a factor too. Broken sleep can be bad for depression and very late nights. Your not going to see escorts you say but it might be an idea to see one of those that do a nice body to body massage. I notice more escortts offering this service and it looks very tempting and I'm sure it would be very relaxing.

[Mr Magoo]

'This too shall pass'.


Nothing in life is permanent Harry, nothing.

Rejoice in the knowledge that the way you feel now will pass and be replaced by something marvelous.