Why'd ya go and say that..............
No you're not a horrible user but would you not at least have preferred to have her as a friend you could stay in contact with that have no contact at all???
That's what made to seem shallow...............
You never know, you might have make her fall so deeply in love with you that she may have given up her job and moved over here just to be with you..............
And if you're talking to her, FFS, don't tell her you visit escorts, we all know what happened the last time..........
PS - any pics???............