she said she loves me

[luther]

sincerely,
Westside.

That's getting recycled, it's different.............Like shagging her friend afterwards..................

[Taylor of Manchester]

That's getting recycled, it's different.............Like shagging her friend afterwards..................

Or her sister....

[luther]

Or her sister....

She has a sister???..................

Good thinking T




Hey EP.............DOES SHE HAVE A SISTER???

Any pics???..................

[luther]

There are ways of saying things EP....you know 'its not you - its me'

We women are shallow creatures, couldn't you have tried abit of letting down gently.....we don't like to be dumped !

T
xxx

Hi T..........

I'm trying this at the moment. I've never even gone out with her. I'm trying to gently tell her that I don't want to..............

She's just not getting it..............

Message after message after message...........

Could be 5 in a row without me replying..............

I may have to go the direct route..................

[kelso]

based on very recent experience of 4 months dati ng a brazilian girl i think you ddi the right thing buddfy ,although you could have done it in a better way!
long distance with a younger gorgeous girl is pretty tough on you r head, in the end you either have to cut your losses or move there asnd give it a go, sounds to me like you dont love her mate, if you did, you would be on ebookers
in our case i am 8 yrs older, and discovered early on she was in a marriage of convenience in spain for papers, we got on great, i fell for her very fast and helped her out in various ways, but it was not gonna work long term, but WERE STILL BEST OF FRIENDS!

[kelso]

based on very recent experience of 4 months dati ng a brazilian girl i think you ddi the right thing buddfy ,although you could have done it in a better way!
long distance with a younger gorgeous girl is pretty tough on you r head, in the end you either have to cut your losses or move there asnd give it a go, sounds to me like you dont love her mate, if you did, you would be on ebookers
in our case i am 8 yrs older, and discovered early on she was in a marriage of convenience in spain for papers, we got on great, i fell for her very fast and helped her out in various ways, but it was not gonna work long term, but WERE STILL BEST OF FRIENDS!

[bdgre]

You are not terrible - who knows what might happen in the future.

[piggi]

...she was hysterical & said I simply am a horrible user I'm not am I?

No, but my guess is that deep down you are panicked by her declaration of love and that is why you "solved" the problem by telling her you didn't want further contact. If you accept her feelings you will have to deal with your own - that's the scary part. When we realise how deeply we have touched someone it makes the situation very real. Women like this. Men panic.

Why not contact her and apologise. Say that you were trying to spare her feelings and didn't mean to hurt her (or something like that). And if you really felt a connection with her then there is every reason why you should do the distance thing, for a while at least. From what you have written I suspect that she might decide to come back here and spend more time with you. Even if that doesn't happen it is still worth your while staying in the game for a bit. You might just surprise yourself and have a wonderful relationship!

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck and every happiness.