Question for sex workers [female, male & trans]

[IrishSarahBarra]

P.s. you're asking the wrong questions Cal.

[Thoreau]

Your one & only post, are you a journalist, a student . . .???

Brilliantly caustic!!!

[Thoreau]

Freedom and a little extra money sometimes, but considering that there are also additional expenses compared to having a regular job. For example, you have to pay by yourself the rent , which can cost over 2,000 a month, while touring can be extremely expensive, reaching up to 950 a week(on top of paying and your own rent for your own place 2000+) or 250 per day for hotels, advert 500 a month ,income tax for those who pay tax (many of us do) and other expenses, you can't really say you are blessed with lots of money, contrary to what the general public might think about this job and the earnings

The downside includes being far from your parents, children, siblings, and family, as well as exposing yourself to potential dangers when meeting strangers who could harm you or worse. Like any job, there are pros and cons, but the freedom is the best part of this job, not the money. The earnings are not as high as people might assume, and after covering expenses, you might not have much left.

----changing opinion about man

No, why would your perception of the opposite sex change? But what I learned about them, that I didn't know before taking this job, is that just like us, they are curious to experiment with their bodies and discover new pleasures. I think women should pay more attention to their partners and experiment more together.

-----getting lonely


Feeling lonely depends on the girl, really. You can still have friends and find things to do to occupy your time. You only get lonely if you stay isolated from the world, I think.

Wonderful perspictive with brutal honesty - oh and good luck from someone who's rather POSH!!!!!

[Cal1988]

These are such beautiful responses. Genuinely.

Thanks so much.

[Scrumhalf9]

Hello

I'm just wondering if you could tell the world one thing about sex work, what would it be?

It could be anything.

Do people think you make much more money than you do in reality? Has it affected your perception of the opposite sex? If so, for better or worse? Even though you're with people, does it get lonely sometimes?

There's lots of examples but if the wider world could only know one thing about your life as a sex worker, what would you like it to be?

Many thanks!

Why do you wonder?

[Palatine]

Sex is like the daily bread, one of the most elemental part of Maslow's pyramid of needs.

I've heard some lads like to self-actualize to your profile pics.

[Cal1988]

@Scrumhalf

I'm writing a fictional character who is a sex worker.

I read Mia Doring's book and it's so fecking lazy. It sets the culture back years. Sex workers = victims + men who pay for sex = rapists. That's the message for 300 pages and it's just absurd. Her experiences were awful but she did have a responsibility to point out just that, that they were her experiences and her experience isn't the universal one. It's irresponsible and as I said, completely lazy. It's 1 side of a very complex world and although that side is ugly, I think there is a lot of hidden beauty in the other side of this world and it's so much more interesting to me. Probably only 8 people will eventually read about my character but I would like to think they'll at least read something that tried to be honest and balanced and didn't rely on themes like drug addiction or being pimped or working outdoors or any other trope that's been done a tousand times. I believe there's a wealth of humanity to be found in this subject and the reason it rarely gets depicted in books tv + film is because nobody really looks. Same way Irish men in old American films were portrayed as drunks. It's easier to portray a character the way you think people already see them rather than portray them as they really are.

[ClientX]

P.s. you're asking the wrong questions Cal.

Would you mind listing a few of the questions Cal should be asking? Your previous post on this was so interesting, it's fine if you don't feel like doing so.

@Scrumhalf

I'm writing a fictional character who is a sex worker.

I read Mia Doring's book and it's so fecking lazy. It sets the culture back years. Sex workers = victims + men who pay for sex = rapists. That's the message for 300 pages and it's just absurd. Her experiences were awful but she did have a responsibility to point out just that, that they were her experiences and her experience isn't the universal one. It's irresponsible and as I said, completely lazy. It's 1 side of a very complex world and although that side is ugly, I think there is a lot of hidden beauty in the other side of this world and it's so much more interesting to me. Probably only 8 people will eventually read about my character but I would like to think they'll at least read something that tried to be honest and balanced and didn't rely on themes like drug addiction or being pimped or working outdoors or any other trope that's been done a tousand times. I believe there's a wealth of humanity to be found in this subject and the reason it rarely gets depicted in books tv + film is because nobody really looks. Same way Irish men in old American films were portrayed as drunks. It's easier to portray a character the way you think people already see them rather than portray them as they really are.

Good for you. How do you think your character will differ from the Belle character in Dr Brooke Magnati's account of her time as an escort in Secret Diary of a Call Girl?

https://www.theguardian.com/society/...rooke-magnanti


or The Girlfriend Experience, either the film or series?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gi...ce_(TV_series)


or Helen Wood's "A Man's World" ?

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mans-World-.../dp/190667051X

[IAmLIAm]

I've heard some lads like to self-actualize to your profile pics.

If PotM was still a thing, this would get a nomination...

[MistressMonique]

I've heard some lads like to self-actualize to your profile pics.

Ah the beautiful Pyramid of Need ... Didn't think Maslow would get a mention on EI