Female orgasm?

[oddball]

Seems an odd thing to insist upon, suspect mostly that they want their ego stroked more than that bit between their legs.
I hold no illusions about my ability in bed so even if she "orgasms" I'll just assume she's faking it for my benefit, I honestly hope they do enjoy being with me but believing I can bring them that level of pleasure is just a leap of faith too far for me, internet dating has taught me that I'm clearly unattractive and in my mind if I was that great I wouldn't be paying.

[thicklanger]

I've never expected an escort to orgasm, and would be really surprised if it happened. If I'm visiting, it's for my own pleasure, I feel no obligation to facilitate her climax. Maybe that sounds selfish but it's an agreed upon, one-sided, transactional encounter, and I'm prefectly fine with that, while still being polite and respectful.

[bananabox999]

Am i delusional in that i think we should both enjoy the encounter?

Granted i understand the logistics might not always allow that? But we both should have a good time right??

Feels selfish to be there just for myself, takes 2 to tango and all that.

[thicklanger]

Am i delusional in that i think we should both enjoy the encounter?

Granted i understand the logistics might not always allow that? But we both should have a good time right??

Feels selfish to be there just for myself, takes 2 to tango and all that.

I would be concerned if they were NOT enjoying the encounter. Expecting them to O is a different thing imho. The two parties are there for different reasons - one is providing a service; the other has to pay to play. It's not a conventional 'tango'. If both parties get off great but it's not to be expected.

[kerrytipp]

It’s very simple for me, I just love eating pussy and ass. If the lady comes it’s a bonus but honestly I could spend 45 mins down there happily eating to my hearts content. I appreciate that some ladies feel the need to fake it but that’s ok. I just love pleasuring a lady before I get my jollies. If I’m honest if I didn’t go down before the main event I’d be done and dusted in 10 mins flat as the majority of the ladies I meet are stunners and I usually pop quick

[thicklanger]

If I’m honest if I didn’t go down before the main event I’d be done and dusted in 10 mins flat as the majority of the ladies I meet are stunners and I usually pop quick

That's nine and half minutes better than me then 😁

[john40]

A big turn on for me is seeing a wonan play with herself. Even more, to see/hear her cum.

However, I don’t think I have the right to expect them to or demand that they do while I'm with them. Yes, it would be nice but it's called respect

We don’t have the right to expect or demand anything.

[thicklanger]

A lot of guys really don't get it..
It's all nothing to take personally.
She's not your girlfriend.
She's not that into you most of the time and she's not in the mood (physically or mentally) most of the time.
A lot of girls will need to use Lidocaine (numbing) for their pussy/nipples in order to entertain multiple clients or for guys who aren't been careful or considerate enough.
Ever noticed your lips/tongue been numb after a session, did you not realise what that was??

You could spending hours eating her out all to no avail. Occasionally you might be dealing with a woman who's in the mood, who's attracted to you and is sufficiently relaxed to get off but this is not common, like I said it's nothing personal.

Here's some context. The porn actress Belle Claire in an interview admitted that during a decade long career, hundreds of guys/gals, perhaps a thousand scenes she came once...

Exactly that.

[Madgar]

If there are times when a professional cant get me to cum... then I can't hold myself to the standard of getting them to cum... but thats just me

[Launcelot]

I always enjoy your posts Dieve. They are witty, clever and get the point across. Anyone who has met you know you always give 100% so I don’t think it’s about favs or your energy and desire. SP’s who like what they do know what to do to make it a positive engagement but you can’t please all the people all the time.

Let’s be honesty it’s an intimate business and so much depends on “chemistry” mood, expectations It doesn’t take much to “ruin the mood”. Sometimes even seemingly little things like being late/kep waiting on either side can be mood killers.

I think high expectations and “expecting someone to cum on demand” only increases anxiety and reduces the pleasure on both sides.

A great, pleasant and positive interaction doesn’t always have to be an earthshattering orgasm where both of you shake, quiver and collapse in each others sweaty arms every time.

Going with the flow and seeing where it takes you would be my advice to everyone.

It's been on my mind lately due to a few occasions when the clients were focusing on my orgasm instead of theirs.

I was also inspired by a recent thread where clients were sharing their issues when it's hard for them to culminate.

I wanted to know your opinion on female orgasm within the context of escorts.

The first guy specifically asked me not to fake it, and wanted to watch me wank. It took me a while to get there, and I assumed we would cum together, but he asked me to do it again. The pressure made it even harder of course, so at one point I told him I don't think I can do it. He really wanted it, and I eventually got over the line, which got him there too. I wasn't happy about it though obviously, I felt drained.

The second guy only told me he wished I could cum after a long licking session, so I tried to finish myself fast, but I couldn't, and the time was up. I felt like I did a bad job for not fulfilling his request, but he assured me that I didn't.

The third guy also did a long licking before telling me that he was hoping for results from that, but instead of guilty wanking, this time I tried to be cool and made a joke which didn't land well.

The fourth guy downright cumshamed me when he thought his licking was a waste of time.
- I'm not doing it right, am I?
- What do you mean? ��
- Well, you haven't cum.
- Oh, I can't ����
- There's no such thing, every woman can cum.

So my question is, what is the right move?

■ Just fake it, babe. It's part of the job. This whole world is an escape from reality. Don't overthink it. Don't feel guilty about it.
■ Put it in your advertisement that you are cumdisabled to prevent misleading these fine purebred gentlemen who put their heart in pleasuring you!!!
■ Ask during booking if they want female orgasm, like a bookable favourite.
■ Ask in bed after some licking if they want to see you cum if you're in the mood.
■ Ask in bed after some licking if they want to see you cum regardless of whether you're in the mood.
■ Compulsively cum with every client. Take your job seriously, girl. All these awards, and no cum? Ridiculous. Make mama proud. Cum!
■ Nothing, they gotta be mature enough to understand that your inability to cum has nothing to do with their technique.

P.s.: The guy who booked me for 3 hours and ate pussy for 2.5 hours didn't care whether I came or not.
This is why whenever guys eat my pussy, I assume they like the sensation of doing it, my orgasm is just cherry on top.
I like the sensation too, and I always make sure I show it. I just think that machines are better for my clit than people. That's all.