Is this weird or common

[Thehappypenls]

Im struggling with the right way to say this its just something ive been thinking of abit.
Ive always had abit of a thing with cumming.

If im with an extremly attractive lady i can take forever to get over the line not all the time but more often than not and while most guys may think thats great ,its not.Ive noticed fustration on girls faces most are pros and dont say anything but you can tell,theyre thinking what the hell is going on.

But ive noticed if i see a girl and im not as into it or as turned on by her i can do it very quick,Is that my bodys way of telling me i dont want to be there.

Ive only finished once in my life from a blowjob and ive had alot and also if the girl is too wet or too much lube its not going to happen i do need that friction and ive often stopped of my own accord.

(Now there is a couple of exceptions one or two ladies who seem to have me figured out)

Im just wondering if others have similar issues or any advice.

Twice in one booking is like winning the lotto

[philipkntz]

Hey, I know what you mean.
I find that there's 2 things going on here.
Firstly, if a girl is waaaay out of my league, or my age group. I'm thinking, this is just so wrong.
Secondly, some of the really hot girls rely on their looks a bit too much, they just don't put in as much effort as the average girl.

[Thehappypenls]

Its not that theyre not putting in the effort most are usually brilliant and im a fairly confident guy and im not old either so its not an age thing for me.I dont know what the hell it is.

[Rogue111]

If you're really into her your focus is gonna be on her. If your not then it's business as usual.

[Harry68]

Has the OP been reading my diary?

I put my “issues” (it doesn’t bother me unduly) down to age. I didn’t have when I was younger. Monogamous me started having as I hit my late 40s/early 50s. Polygamous me you are describing pretty accurately.

Like you with a very very small number of ladies not an issue but they tend to be repeat visits which is one of the reasons I go back to people. I’m not sure what the average time to ejaculate actually is (I might prefer not to know) but I don’t see if you’re getting there in the end why it should worry you. It may as you said not be appreciated by some but such is life.

If you’re worried about it you should get checked out and not rely on the well meaning but let’s face it not possibly the most accurate medical / psychological advice from your fellow callers.

I’ve learned personally from another context that kicking possible medical issues to touch is a bad idea.

Best of luck now send back that secret diary of Harry F (aged 56 and a bit)

[philipkntz]

I would like to add that some of the appointments where I struggled to perform, actually stick in my mind as very enjoyed appointments. Much better than appointments where it's all over in a few minutes and shown the door.

[thehighwayman]

Your not alone. It takes me forever to cum too. I had some poor girls frustrated trying their hardest over the years. I eventually get there. That is why I always make longer bookings to allow for this! I have just accepted it and enjoy it for what it is. The advantage of this it's good if I have a duo or more. I find going to the same girl regularly she gets to know my ways better. Sometimes I do cum quicker. That can be down to the girl & the level of sexual desire. There will be guys on the other extreme that cum in seconds & would love our problem!

[Thehappypenls]

Its not a so much a worry i still enjoy it but when girls are finding it fustrating im put off.But thats it really ,im happier im not the only one by the sounds of it.

[Boobsandbumlover]

For me it has everything to do with the escort’s underlying attitude and style. I’ve been with the most stunning women, but relatively cold and it won’t happen. But then you meet someone who is not only sexy and desirable in looks but their whole attitude, style and aura is sex….that’s when I don’t have a problem at all.

[Atreyou]

Glad you've brought that up and i can read through comments that it's nothing unique in some struggles
I would describe myself as a romantic type and when i see a real beauty my focus drifts away and i'm melting... well... then it's very awkward, i'm panicking, analyzing, some partners know what to do and how to restart the action, some thinks that's their fault (which is even more embarrassing). 2nd, 3rd meeting with same partner - all issues gone.

Anyway, what i wanted to say is that i'm glad i can read some other stories which gives me bit more confidence and faith in better tomorrow