Escort for in-depth lessons to improve technique (multiple sessions, Cork)

[ArcaneAlex]

I'm aware a post like this bound to draw a few comments taking the piss. This is a serious post though. Please be kind.

My request is pretty much as in title: I'm looking for escort to do sessions with on a regular basis to improve what I bring to the table for a woman in bed. Basically mentorship on my technique.

I'm not some virgin twentysomething. I had a previous long term relationship that spanned many years. Things were fairly vanilla but we were both content in the sex department as far as I could tell (she initiated often so I assume it was alright). Now i'm back dating for the first time in a decade and it seems that the world has changed dramatically. Everyone seems to have a lot of experience with many partners.

A lady friend and I are hooking up at the moment, purely for sex until we both find new relationships. Last night she happened to say something that left me reeling. I joked that our situation was great so I don't get rusty, that she's keeping me in practice. She laughed and said don't worry, no women will be won over with my skills in bed, but because of everything else i bring to the table. I responded that it was good enough for her to hit me up. She said in a very matter of fact way, that I don't need to overthink it, that most guys are average in bed like me and it's not a big deal. I couldnt resist follow up questions. She went on to say she's had better than me - much much better - and that its best to not compare with something i can never hope to match.

Suffice to say, ego is fairly bruised today. It wasn't a heavy conversation at the time. But it's been living rent free in my head. I think it stung so much because it was a light hearted conversation and she wasn't saying any of this to hurt me. There was genuinely an element to truth to her remarks.

So after a day of reflection, I think that its worth taking her feedback in earnest and working to do something about it. And I would much rather work on improving myself with a woman that is non-judgemental. I met with a few ladies on EI post-breakup and it's always been positive. However, i honestly dont think most of them would be compatible with the experience I am looking for. As lovely as they are, they are usually keen to get me off and a language barrier occasionally limits meaningful communications.

So with all that said, does anyone have any recommendations of a patient lady with good communication skills that could help me work on my technique in the bedroom? (Or any ladies that read to forum and would be up for such a task). I am based in Cork but would be up for traveling, depending on distance. I could see this as being something like 10x 1 hr sessions. Any sincere advice appreciated!

[WellDressed]

I'm aware a post like this bound to draw a few comments taking the piss. This is a serious post though. Please be kind.

My request is pretty much as in title: I'm looking for escort to do sessions with on a regular basis to improve what I bring to the table for a woman in bed. Basically mentorship on my technique.

I'm not some virgin twentysomething. I had a previous long term relationship that spanned many years. Things were fairly vanilla but we were both content in the sex department as far as I could tell (she initiated often so I assume it was alright). Now i'm back dating for the first time in a decade and it seems that the world has changed dramatically. Everyone seems to have a lot of experience with many partners.

A lady friend and I are hooking up at the moment, purely for sex until we both find new relationships. Last night she happened to say something that left me reeling. I joked that our situation was great so I don't get rusty, that she's keeping me in practice. She laughed and said don't worry, no women will be won over with my skills in bed, but because of everything else i bring to the table. I responded that it was good enough for her to hit me up. She said in a very matter of fact way, that I don't need to overthink it, that most guys are average in bed like me and it's not a big deal. I couldnt resist follow up questions. She went on to say she's had better than me - much much better - and that its best to not compare with something i can never hope to match.

Suffice to say, ego is fairly bruised today. It wasn't a heavy conversation at the time. But it's been living rent free in my head. I think it stung so much because it was a light hearted conversation and she wasn't saying any of this to hurt me. There was genuinely an element to truth to her remarks.

So after a day of reflection, I think that its worth taking her feedback in earnest and working to do something about it. And I would much rather work on improving myself with a woman that is non-judgemental. I met with a few ladies on EI post-breakup and it's always been positive. However, i honestly dont think most of them would be compatible with the experience I am looking for. As lovely as they are, they are usually keen to get me off and a language barrier occasionally limits meaningful communications.

So with all that said, does anyone have any recommendations of a patient lady with good communication skills that could help me work on my technique in the bedroom? (Or any ladies that read to forum and would be up for such a task). I am based in Cork but would be up for traveling, depending on distance. I could see this as being something like 10x 1 hr sessions. Any sincere advice appreciated!

I'm sure you will find a provider to fulfil what you need and you'll learn a few hints and tips but remember that no two people fuck the same, what works with one partner will not with another. You shouldn't let the comments from your fuck buddy get to you. Just keep improving by effectively communicating and finding out what turns them on with any women you are sleeping with

[Shyguy2200]

I was actually looking for something along those lines at one point too. If you get any recommendations could you PM me? Thanks

[JennyIrish]

I'm aware a post like this bound to draw a few comments taking the piss. This is a serious post though. Please be kind.

My request is pretty much as in title: I'm looking for escort to do sessions with on a regular basis to improve what I bring to the table for a woman in bed. Basically mentorship on my technique.

I'm not some virgin twentysomething. I had a previous long term relationship that spanned many years. Things were fairly vanilla but we were both content in the sex department as far as I could tell (she initiated often so I assume it was alright). Now i'm back dating for the first time in a decade and it seems that the world has changed dramatically. Everyone seems to have a lot of experience with many partners.

A lady friend and I are hooking up at the moment, purely for sex until we both find new relationships. Last night she happened to say something that left me reeling. I joked that our situation was great so I don't get rusty, that she's keeping me in practice. She laughed and said don't worry, no women will be won over with my skills in bed, but because of everything else i bring to the table. I responded that it was good enough for her to hit me up. She said in a very matter of fact way, that I don't need to overthink it, that most guys are average in bed like me and it's not a big deal. I couldnt resist follow up questions. She went on to say she's had better than me - much much better - and that its best to not compare with something i can never hope to match.

Suffice to say, ego is fairly bruised today. It wasn't a heavy conversation at the time. But it's been living rent free in my head. I think it stung so much because it was a light hearted conversation and she wasn't saying any of this to hurt me. There was genuinely an element to truth to her remarks.

So after a day of reflection, I think that its worth taking her feedback in earnest and working to do something about it. And I would much rather work on improving myself with a woman that is non-judgemental. I met with a few ladies on EI post-breakup and it's always been positive. However, i honestly dont think most of them would be compatible with the experience I am looking for. As lovely as they are, they are usually keen to get me off and a language barrier occasionally limits meaningful communications.

So with all that said, does anyone have any recommendations of a patient lady with good communication skills that could help me work on my technique in the bedroom? (Or any ladies that read to forum and would be up for such a task). I am based in Cork but would be up for traveling, depending on distance. I could see this as being something like 10x 1 hr sessions. Any sincere advice appreciated!

What a nasty, hurtful thing to say!!!!! Shes had "much much" better than you, then why isn't she ringing them up for a fuck??

For a woman, it's the easiest thing in the world to arrange a hook up so you cant be than bad if she keeps coming back to you.

She dosnt sound like any sort of a bedroom Queen herself because a sexually confident lady wouldnt feel the need to put you down, she would simply say "I would love it if you would do this" or "let me show you what really drives me wild".

Some women can be such bitches and don t realise the hurt words can cause.

You wouldn't even need 10 sessions, hopefully you can find a lady you can connect & chat with, I'd say it's more about building your confidence moreso than skills after a put down like that.

You should stick with palm and her five sisters in the meantime rather than a woman who would be so hurtful go you, let her call her "much much" better lovers. Smh.

[Irelandbeautyyy]

Iam not a lady who you are looking for… but i just want to say you shouldn’t take anything from this. You can be average in bed for her but there is so many other ladies who would tell something opposite about you. Everyone has different preferences.

Anyway in her opinion you are average in bed. Hmmm but she is still seeing you. So next time you can answer her with same smile something like she is probably desperating if she is interested about average sex. As how Jenny said, it’s simle for us ladies to have a sex. Or we can use the toys instead of average sex.

Lol do you want to meet her later after your lessons? And show her something? And who is saying your ex likes same things like your future teacher? It’s all about your ego.

[ArcaneAlex]

What a nasty, hurtful thing to say!!!!! Shes had "much much" better than you, then why isn't she ringing them up for a fuck??

For a woman, it's the easiest thing in the world to arrange a hook up so you cant be than bad if she keeps coming back to you.

She dosnt sound like any sort of a bedroom Queen herself because a sexually confident lady wouldnt feel the need to put you down, she would simply say "I would love it if you would do this" or "let me show you what really drives me wild".

Some women can be such bitches and don t realise the hurt words can cause.

You wouldn't even need 10 sessions, hopefully you can find a lady you can connect & chat with, I'd say it's more about building your confidence moreso than skills after a put down like that.

You should stick with palm and her five sisters in the meantime rather than a woman who would be so hurtful go you, let her call her "much much" better lovers. Smh.

Thank you. I’m glad to know I’m not alone with my assessment of her words.

It’s definitely going to make things awkward going forward. It’s a pity cause I know that person as more than just a fuck buddy.

I actually don’t mind criticism if it’s constructive (hence my post). She just made it sound out of reach.

And yes, I know a lot of this is probably about confidence. But i like self improvement and this has very much lit a fire in my belly. At the bare minimum, it will have me back in the gym.

But since having experiences with women of EI over the past year, it’s really opened my eyes just how skillful a person can be at giving pleasure. I feel like a few hours of guidance (where it’s not about my pleasure) would do me the world of good

[MistressMonique]

Women also say things they know will hurt even if untrue and that can stay with a person for so long ... Criticism isn't wrapped up in a bomb it's given as a gift.. honesty is important but so the delivery

[ArcaneAlex]

Iam not a lady who you are looking for… but i just want to say you shouldn’t take anything from this. You can be average in bed for her but there is so many other ladies who would tell something opposite about you. Everyone has different preferences.

Anyway in her opinion you are average in bed. Hmmm but she is still seeing you. So next time you can answer her with same smile something like she is probably desperating if she is interested about average sex. As how Jenny said, it’s simle for us ladies to have a sex. Or we can use the toys instead of average sex.

Lol do you want to meet her later after your lessons? And show her something? And who is saying your ex likes same things like your future teacher? It’s all about your ego.

I agree Michelle that it is very much about my ego

I actually don’t want to get back at her or learn something new to try impress her. She was an acquaintance long before we got in bed together. It was a stupid thing for her to say (and can’t be unsaid). I think out of self-respect, I just won’t sleep with her moving forward.

That said, I do think that I can improve and I will hopefully find a lady here to help me work on myself.

Also thank you for your response. I don’t post much but enjoy reading the forum sometimes. Both you and Jenny always bring such interesting (and sometimes fun) commentary. I know you said you aren’t the women for this task but I would love to visit ye sometime due to your forum posts alone

[ArcaneAlex]

Criticism isn't wrapped up in a bomb it's given as a gift.. honesty is important but so the delivery

A very apt statement. Something to always keep in mind.

[AmorInfinito8]

I joked that our situation was great so I don't get rusty, that she's keeping me in practice

I think you need to go back to the root cause of this problem ( pardon the pun )

You hurt her feelings first!!?
she responded in kind!!
Insinuating your not God's gift!?

If you think about it logically ( although I believe you've already over thought the conversation without using logic)

she may are may not have developed feelings for you but either way your comment was you giving her notice that your arrangement was temporary and basically she's not worth the effort of anything other than that!?

My advice when you next meet
bring her a big bunch of her favourite flowers or some other gift
Apologize and tell her you have realised your previous comments were extremely insensitive and ask her to forgive you

Then ask her to help you become a better lover
although I'd imagine your technique in bed is fine it's your technique out of it that you need to work on?

What you have right in front of your nose if you could only see past it
is the solution to your problem

Fuck buddy or not you can't be insensitive to her feelings or obviously you'll pay the price!!

Men and women work on totally different levels when it comes to intamcy/sex
women want to feel special even in a temporary arrangement
after all everything in life is temporary

I may be wrong in how I'm reading into this but human nature is human nature

Grab yourself a copy of the Kama Sutra
While you're picking up those flowers who knows it might give her a giggle
and have yourself some fun with it

Lifes to short

Good luck either way