Managing your expectations- how often is too often?

[Harry68]

I’m curious as to how people (men) who would be seeing the same person a lot over an extended period of time manage to deal with the idea / possibility of them becoming overly dependent on that particular person. By extended period of time I mean a minimum of 3 months and “a lot” I would define as a minimum of a fortnightly visit of at least an hour at a time. I’d throw in the possibility you’ve done something of an activity that extends beyond the bedroom into “the real world” during that period. On a paid basis.

I would think at this point you like the person at least beyond other people you’ve seen in the past or may be seeing sporadically. You’re old enough to know warning signs that you are basing too much of your personal happiness and emotional well being on something that lets be honest in all bar a handful of cases is a fantasy however much “real” affection exists between the parties.

It’s quite easy to fall into dependent or Co-dependent relationships. Our obsessions as Ballard said often define us . I’m sure much depends on your personality and for some it’s not an issue but I suspect for quite a few it is.

Anyone been there? Anyone any thoughts and ideas of how to deal with a scenario like this? Putting on my rational and pragmatic hat I’d suggest folding your hand while you’re still ahead and enjoying the happy if maybe slightly bittersweet memories would be the way to go.

[irishjp]

It happens at times.
When I start feeling like that I run away.
Pay for no strings attached.

[Nononsense111]

Era sometimes friendships or romances can materialize from this, but it is quite rare I'd say

Just remember the nature of the business. Girls are in this to make money. Guys are in it for a release and their own personal motives

Don't let a real good GFE experience have you thinking there's a real connection

[Obbyone]

Im guilty of this big time .It only takes a peek at my reviews to see who im talking about i i seen them way more than i reviewed.Anytime this particular lady was within an hour of me i wanted to be there.

We had a really great relationship that went beyond the average service,She helped me through a difficult time and i was there when she needed same.I knew it would never work out as a relationship and i was devastated when she left.

Im not saying i was in love with this girl but she made me feel get inside and outside the booking its really cheesy but when you have a really good connection with someone its a feeling thats worth chasing.
It reminded me of how it was to actually be in Love.

I spoke to her this past valentines day and she is doing good and happy.She says she will never return to escorting but i still selfishly sometimes wish to see her picture on the list again but i know it for the best.

So very very true and I’ve been there and find myself there again.

[philipkntz]

I've got a bit too clingy in the past, so I imposed a rule on myself. I don't visit the same lady more than 3 times.
Unfortunately, I'm not always good at obeying that rule.
There's one lady in particular that I've asked to not answer the phone to me more often than once a month.

[Harry68]

Thank you for the replies. It doesn’t seem to be situations where there are many happy ends for those who wander into this particular minefield.

[Nononsense111]

Thank you for the replies. It doesn’t seem to be situations where there are many happy ends for those who wander into this particular minefield.

Dead right lad.

Seen a few soppy eejits on here lose the run of themselves putting the fear of god in women shocking stuff

[Averageatbest93]

It only ends in one way for the punter and that's disappointment , if you find it happening , cut ties. It has happened to me in the past where I became emotionally invested in them , would talk to them almost daily and visit at least once monthly for about 6 months, I cut out the professional side and kept them as friends. Much healthier relationship that way.

[64west]

I've got a bit too clingy in the past, so I imposed a rule on myself. I don't visit the same lady more than 3 times.
Unfortunately, I'm not always good at obeying that rule.
There's one lady in particular that I've asked to not answer the phone to me more often than once a month.

Ok, you self-impose a rule where you won’t visit any escort more than 3 times (with that one exception).

Does that not create a situation where you are having less meetings with an established “connection” and instead having (let’s say 5 times out of 10 ) more luck-warm first time meetings with a “stranger” where that rapport between each other is not created yet (Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy meeting new people and there’s more than enough exceptional escorts to meet). I just fail to understand why you would let something you know is good go ?

If you find those people you click with and more importantly the click with you, why not revisit without limiting??. I think you have it backwards mate.

[Obbyone]

Dead right lad.

Seen a few soppy eejits on here lose the run of themselves putting the fear of god in women shocking stuff

The only eejits are all of us including your good self no offence intended but thats just the way it is.