Meaning of Life

[Dieve]

Dieve, I don't think a long term relationship can really work, unless it is exclusive. Trying to manage multiple relationships ,on top of all of the various pressures of life is just too much. Your 'right ( long term ) partner ' is most unlikely to value your work as an escort for too long.

I tell all my dates early on before we meet that I'm an award-winning slut. If they react anything less than wow, I wish them good luck finding their wow with someone else, and fuck off.

Happy open relationships exist. Predominantly polyamorous people would feel trapped in monogamy, and overwhelm their partner with their excess need for intimacy they cannot quench elsewhere. Just like you can manage your friendships, poly people can manage their relationships the same way. They can usually tell if they're polysaturated.

Being lonely is the biggest pressure for me.

[DamoEI]

Sure after the referendum next week, and some recent high court decisions, there will be no reason to get married.

LOL, yeah, the meaning of life is a "durable relationship"...whatever the feck that means!

[DamoEI]

Sometimes i find it hard to understand why anyone would choose marriage over a steady escort life and maybe a low maintenance girlfriend.

My rather nihilistic but genuine thought on life is that, if you aren't gonna have kids, then just do whatever the hell you want. Nothing else actually matters a jot really; money, government, law, legacy, morality - they are all just mental constructs that we collectively agree are real and significant. We will all be gone in 100 years so why else do we give a shit?!

[Harry68]

My rather nihilistic but genuine thought on life is that, if you aren't gonna have kids, then just do whatever the hell you want. Nothing else actually matters a jot really; money, government, law, legacy, morality - they are all just mental constructs that we collectively agree are real and significant. We will all be gone in 100 years so why else do we give a shit?!

Interesting view point but I suspect you are still constrained by something (whether the law, legacy or morality) in your day to day life as I'd like to think for example you don't have a bundle of bodies under your floorboards or you don't spend your day thinking about how to defraud the orphans and widows pension scheme at work. What you are describing above veers into sociopathic territory. In my view anyway.

[Moocher]

I tell all my dates early on before we meet that I'm an award-winning slut. If they react anything less than wow, I wish them good luck finding their wow with someone else, and fuck off.

Happy open relationships exist. Predominantly polyamorous people would feel trapped in monogamy, and overwhelm their partner with their excess need for intimacy they cannot quench elsewhere. Just like you can manage your friendships, poly people can manage their relationships the same way. They can usually tell if they're polysaturated.

Being lonely is the biggest pressure for me.

Some day, you can fill me in on their reactions.i'd say that you have had some fun and laughs. ( P.S. I had to google 'polysaturated' .... Shows my age ! I thought it was something to do with the spread of Flora margarine .)

[jessicabp]

I think first you have to find out who you are and then you can know who can be your matching partner.
Getting married at young age is not always happy.

[Moocher]

I think first you have to find out who you are and then you can know who can be your matching partner.
Getting married at young age is not always happy.

Yes, getting married very young is particularly risky. We can spend a lifetime trying to find out who we are but I would advise not getting married before your late 20s anyway.

[jessicabp]

And the family/society … ohhh my Father always said I need a husband, how many years I was listening his speeches …
He just started to understanding I am fine living alone.

Yes, getting married very young is particularly risky. We can spend a lifetime trying to find out who we are but I would advise not getting married before your late 20s anyway.

[EscortInspector]

Life is meaningless. It's an endless series of clusterfucks, and it boils down to sheer luck and coincidence where/who/how/when/etc you're born.

All life on this planet could be wiped out tomorrow, and it wouldn't make a difference to Earth. All it is is a barren rock with a temporary blue and green jacket. Whether it happens tomorrow or in 5 billion years.

I agree that life is inherently meaningless but have to disagree that there is absolutely no meaning whatsoever. Our brains function as pattern detection devices; we see faces where none exist, we connect two separate events because they happen at the same time, we ascribe significance if we believe that some event has occurred in the same place at different times. Our brains are flooded with the fairly simple chemicals which give rise to incredibly complex behaviour, in particular those that modulate mood and motivation; preferring one thing over another, wanting to go somewhere or see someone, having a good time or a bad time. To put it concisely, our brains necessarily generate meaning.

I’m currently watching cartoons from the 80s and eating chocolate and jellies for lunch. The gf is in bed, we had a great little date night last night and I’m looking forward to part two tonight. The sun is shining and it’s not even noon yet. Life is good.

[DamoEI]

Interesting view point but I suspect you are still constrained by something (whether the law, legacy or morality) in your day to day life as I'd like to think for example you don't have a bundle of bodies under your floorboards or you don't spend your day thinking about how to defraud the orphans and widows pension scheme at work. What you are describing above veers into sociopathic territory. In my view anyway.

Oh yeah, but it is purely for your own mental and/or physical comfort that you don't upset the status quo. You don't wanna have hassle, or go to jail, or be burdened with nasty memories, so you choose not to whack that annoying neighbour!
But when kids are on the scene, now you are living for them, and all these institutions like laws and morality have a purpose and give a framework for their life. Without kids, well you can basically just do whatever you are comfortable with as it really only affects you, as far as you're concerned.