Meaning of Life

[rickrockrack]

Sometimes i find it hard to understand why anyone would choose marriage over a steady escort life and maybe a low maintenance girlfriend.

[Dieve]

The problem starts with most people equating marriage with monogamy. The right partner should value the same lifestyle as you do, that's what partnership is supposed to be about.

[Harry68]

In not sure how you define “a steady escort life” but looking at it from a financial point of view strictly if you are a say sexually active under 40 year old male it makes more economic sense to have a steady partner to have for sexual relations than visiting an escort weekly. It can be an expensive avenue and I would imagine the majority of callers here are on the wrong side of 40 (if not 50) and are relatively financially secure.

Societal and peer pressures steer people towards marriage. The tax code is more favourable to married people. Succession rights are. History moves people that way. Marriage is right for some people but for others it’s something they should never have entered or entered with another person. The problem of course is once you’re there the financial and societal forces that bought you there may have been added to by children and long term financial commitments that are difficult if not impossible to leave.

My smallish hometown has a run down apartment complex nicknamed “batchelors walk” so many divorced and seperated men live in it. Coincidentally or not it’s once of the 2/3 spots for escorts there.

I think personally everyone should be open to finding that person they wish to join their star to for the rest of their life but if they are lucky to find that person I wouldn’t necessarily join under the marriage flag though.

[Harry68]

Playing devils advocate and No disrespect to any escort but I think there are emotional and psychological supports being in a “good” stable and fairly long term relationship with a wife or partner that you will never get from an escort. Nor should you expect them either. It’s difficult to get where you want to be in your life without someone by your side and willing to go to war with you. It’s not all about sex but it’s obviously a huge factor especially as couples age and interest or desire wanes between them.

[TommyH123]

Playing devils advocate and No disrespect to any escort but I think there are emotional and psychological supports being in a “good” stable and fairly long term relationship with a wife or partner that you will never get from an escort. Nor should you expect them either. It’s difficult to get where you want to be in your life without someone by your side and willing to go to war with you. It’s not all about sex but it’s obviously a huge factor especially as couples age and interest or desire wanes between them.

100% agree, an escort should be the missing 5% of your life not the whole show, she’s brings the fun and the fantasy that you naturally lose in a civvie relationship over time.

God help them if they had to listen to all the humdrum day to day moaning that my missus has to put up with🤣

[Moocher]

The problem starts with most people equating marriage with monogamy. The right partner should value the same lifestyle as you do, that's what partnership is supposed to be about.

Dieve, I don't think a long term relationship can really work, unless it is exclusive. Trying to manage multiple relationships ,on top of all of the various pressures of life is just too much. Your 'right ( long term ) partner ' is most unlikely to value your work as an escort for too long.

[Launcelot]

I think we can have lots of friends but generally people need mutual (exclusive) commitment so that both parties know the other person has their back. We choose to make certain things as exclusive such as Sex because of that reason. There are many reasons why exclusivity is important but I think that everyone has to find out what works for them.

[IrishSarahBarra]

Future grandbabies and occasions to go to, shared pets, shared wealth, someone to share milder interests like watching telly, someone to do things for, someone to keep you on track, someone who does the things when you're bate, a housemate you don't want to kill so much because they're an extension of you...suffer together/succeed together, someone to holiday with and when you retire, body heat, shared talents...you technology, me snacks, you set alarms, me talk to customer service agents.

[IrishSarahBarra]

The problem starts with most people equating marriage with monogamy. The right partner should value the same lifestyle as you do, that's what partnership is supposed to be about.

I'd agree with up this up to a point. Problem is if people change or realise that they don't really want what they thought they wanted.

[Untamed]

Future grandbabies and occasions to go to, shared pets, shared wealth, someone to share milder interests like watching telly, someone to do things for, someone to keep you on track, someone who does the things when you're bate, a housemate you don't want to kill so much because they're an extension of you...suffer together/succeed together, someone to holiday with and when you retire, body heat, shared talents...you technology, me snacks, you set alarms, me talk to customer service agents.

Yep, companionship ❤️