Guilt with punting / significant other

[denisthemenice]

So .. I'm going to throw this out there to see what people feel as personally, it has been bothering me. Guilt has overtaken my mind

Do you guys feel any sense of guilt towards your partner / significant other when punting ?

[Moocher]

I'll bite this.

No, I don't feel any guilt. I have had sex with my SO once in the last 15 years. I am currently trying to figure out why from her end. Any views , of the ladies in particular on this , would be very welcome. It's serious, so no 'craic ' please.

[AmorInfinito8]

I'll bite this.

No, I don't feel any guilt. I have had sex with my SO once in the last 15 years. I am currently trying to figure out why from her end. Any views , of the ladies in particular on this , would be very welcome. It's serious, so no 'craic ' please.

Once in 15 years!!!

your well overdue a sit down and conversation about your relationship!!

But with so much time lapsed that's probably not a realistic option anymore!?

I'd have had a heart to heart and if I couldn't see a future I'd have been well gone!!

Probably why I'm currently happily single

[Xany8732]

I would have never gone to any of these girls had my partner given what she ought to give me. Going to the bed with a lot of expectations and always getting some lame excuses. We have only one life so I turned to other alternatives and the as the say goes, a tiger who tasted the human flesh will not go back. That's it. I want my children so, they need their mother too. I don't want to make them sad. That's it.

[TommyH123]

short answer...hellll no, it's a bit of craic and is totally separate from my relationship, I'm certainly not going to blame my wife, we have a fairly decent sex life, its average at worst, a tumble every few weeks when we both aren't wrecked or busy or both.

The thing is, hands up here , I've a bit of a weakness for the ladies...shocker, I know I know but that's just the way it is, this has got much worse or better maybe since I discovered that no strings fun is only a WhatsApp away when I'm overnight in a strange city.

My time with a gorgeous hot young lady is "me" time, some guys spend fortunes on golf, I spend it on escorts, no one gets hurts, no one loses....it's just fun.

I'm not going to overthink it or agonize over the morality of it, hopefully the fee i provide can help a young woman in life, help her achieve her goals, basically make her life better and if I end up with a big smile and some memories then that's good enough for me.

[spacernova]

I used to have guilt at the start and often mentioned it to the ladies afterwards as some form of excuse for coming but then I realised it really doesn't matter to me. I go see escorts when I want something that I am not getting at home. I love my wife and she's beautiful to me in every way so what I do outside of the marriage is completely separate to it. But I have needs and I don't like nagging her to fulfil them when she's not in the mood. Obviously she would leave me if she found out but I still risk it because urges are hard to fight. Plus I feel like I am good at covering up and making sure there wont be any way for her to figure it out. Its not like I have developed an emotional attachment to any of these ladies. They are here to provide a service and most of them do a great job.

Like someone else on this thread mentioned, what I want is only a whatsapp message away. I go see them, I have a good time, I come home and clean, then I kiss my wife and tell her I love her

[TonyB]

I have no sense of guilt.
This way my other senses are enhanced.

[Paddy739]

Been doing this hobby the last 12 years, my current SO the last 8 years, she knew i seen lady’s very early on in our relationship.

Still in the scene, sometimes go 4 months between visits, sometimes I’d see my chosen lady within 4 days.

One difference between being single and in a relationship and doing this is I’m very choosy of the lady’s I see, I tend to go for higher end lady’s when I’m in a relationship, whereas when I was single I’d regularly see the lower rate girls.

We’ve a lot to loose and being seen at a location that has a high customer turnaround is asking for trouble IMO.

It is cheating no matter what way you look at it, it’s just a victimless crime until you’re caught, you just have to know the risks and take your chances.

One thing I do regular is get tested your SO should never have the distress of you bringing something home, sh24 do a great postal service that I’ve used before and find them great https://sh24.ie/

This scene is better than being caught with your SOs best friend I suppose! Lol

[TheFalcon]

I foresee marrying a lady for companionship and still visiting a certain lady for fun and frolics in the times ahead,

I appear to have got over any guilt (I did feel that way at one point) for the time being at least.

If I do marry the love of my life- and I can say with no doubt I love her and always will-

would I still visit the other friend for fun and frolics,

you all know the answer,

Y.

[Silvergrey25]

I'll bite this.

No, I don't feel any guilt. I have had sex with my SO once in the last 15 years. I am currently trying to figure out why from her end. Any views , of the ladies in particular on this , would be very welcome. It's serious, so no 'craic ' please.

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One of the truths of relationships is that is about compromise, if you are happy with everything else. One person can't be everything to you. It's an unrealistic expectation and a balancing act is required, attraction is essential though, may I ask are enough of both your needs being met in other aspects to make that compromise worthwhile ?
Once in 15 years is indicative of underlying issues though, it's a subject that needs to be broached one way or another. Apologies if this comes across as preaching , not my intention