So .. I'm going to throw this out there to see what people feel as personally, it has been bothering me. Guilt has overtaken my mind![]()
Do you guys feel any sense of guilt towards your partner / significant other when punting ?
So .. I'm going to throw this out there to see what people feel as personally, it has been bothering me. Guilt has overtaken my mind![]()
Do you guys feel any sense of guilt towards your partner / significant other when punting ?
angelbrasil (27-02-24), IAmLIAm (28-02-24)
I'll bite this.
No, I don't feel any guilt. I have had sex with my SO once in the last 15 years. I am currently trying to figure out why from her end. Any views , of the ladies in particular on this , would be very welcome. It's serious, so no 'craic ' please.![]()
Dieve (26-02-24),
FetishCherry (26-02-24), IAmLIAm (28-02-24)
Once in 15 years!!!
your well overdue a sit down and conversation about your relationship!!
But with so much time lapsed that's probably not a realistic option anymore!?
I'd have had a heart to heart and if I couldn't see a future I'd have been well gone!!
Probably why I'm currently happily single![]()
I would have never gone to any of these girls had my partner given what she ought to give me. Going to the bed with a lot of expectations and always getting some lame excuses. We have only one life so I turned to other alternatives and the as the say goes, a tiger who tasted the human flesh will not go back. That's it. I want my children so, they need their mother too. I don't want to make them sad. That's it.
short answer...hellll no, it's a bit of craic and is totally separate from my relationship, I'm certainly not going to blame my wife, we have a fairly decent sex life, its average at worst, a tumble every few weeks when we both aren't wrecked or busy or both.
The thing is, hands up here , I've a bit of a weakness for the ladies...shocker, I know I know but that's just the way it is, this has got much worse or better maybe since I discovered that no strings fun is only a WhatsApp away when I'm overnight in a strange city.
My time with a gorgeous hot young lady is "me" time, some guys spend fortunes on golf, I spend it on escorts, no one gets hurts, no one loses....it's just fun.
I'm not going to overthink it or agonize over the morality of it, hopefully the fee i provide can help a young woman in life, help her achieve her goals, basically make her life better and if I end up with a big smile and some memories then that's good enough for me.
I used to have guilt at the start and often mentioned it to the ladies afterwards as some form of excuse for coming but then I realised it really doesn't matter to me. I go see escorts when I want something that I am not getting at home. I love my wife and she's beautiful to me in every way so what I do outside of the marriage is completely separate to it. But I have needs and I don't like nagging her to fulfil them when she's not in the mood. Obviously she would leave me if she found out but I still risk it because urges are hard to fight. Plus I feel like I am good at covering up and making sure there wont be any way for her to figure it out. Its not like I have developed an emotional attachment to any of these ladies. They are here to provide a service and most of them do a great job.
Like someone else on this thread mentioned, what I want is only a whatsapp message away. I go see them, I have a good time, I come home and clean, then I kiss my wife and tell her I love her![]()
angelbrasil (27-02-24), bmw528 (27-02-24), guitarhero (01-03-24), IAmLIAm (28-02-24), whiteball (27-02-24)
I have no sense of guilt.
This way my other senses are enhanced.
Nononsense111 (28-02-24)
Been doing this hobby the last 12 years, my current SO the last 8 years, she knew i seen lady’s very early on in our relationship.
Still in the scene, sometimes go 4 months between visits, sometimes I’d see my chosen lady within 4 days.
One difference between being single and in a relationship and doing this is I’m very choosy of the lady’s I see, I tend to go for higher end lady’s when I’m in a relationship, whereas when I was single I’d regularly see the lower rate girls.
We’ve a lot to loose and being seen at a location that has a high customer turnaround is asking for trouble IMO.
It is cheating no matter what way you look at it, it’s just a victimless crime until you’re caught, you just have to know the risks and take your chances.
One thing I do regular is get tested your SO should never have the distress of you bringing something home, sh24 do a great postal service that I’ve used before and find them great https://sh24.ie/
This scene is better than being caught with your SOs best friend I suppose! Lol
I foresee marrying a lady for companionship and still visiting a certain lady for fun and frolics in the times ahead,
I appear to have got over any guilt (I did feel that way at one point) for the time being at least.
If I do marry the love of my life- and I can say with no doubt I love her and always will-
would I still visit the other friend for fun and frolics,
you all know the answer,
Y.
A dangerous weakness of mine- "an attraction for fast women and slow horses"
IAmLIAm (28-02-24)
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One of the truths of relationships is that is about compromise, if you are happy with everything else. One person can't be everything to you. It's an unrealistic expectation and a balancing act is required, attraction is essential though, may I ask are enough of both your needs being met in other aspects to make that compromise worthwhile ?
Once in 15 years is indicative of underlying issues though, it's a subject that needs to be broached one way or another. Apologies if this comes across as preaching , not my intention
IAmLIAm (28-02-24)