Body count!!!

[Irelandbeautyyy]

I know you like discussing these things and sometimes your discussions make me think x

I'd call it some sort of reasoning but I wouldn't call it logical.

Hehe more of you get already used to my threads so it’s why it makes you only thinking x

In the end it would be boring if we all would be same.

[IrishSarahBarra]

Hehe more of you get already used to my threads so it’s why it makes you only thinking x

In the end it would be boring if we all would be same.

Exactly, and I like ones like these x

[Irelandbeautyyy]

I find this interesting Michelle, so what is your own opinion of yourself and your career , you say a person's past is important and its logical for a man to make his thoughts up on that, does that concern you as something for your future ? You've also expressed you think it's important to be honest about ones past so assuming you hold true to that it will come up at some stage for you, or do you have no interest in 'settling down' or retiring ?

I think it’s not much important so just in short…

Of course it’s my the biggest concern about which i was thinkinking and talking with friends a lot. I don’t know what future brings… I believe after few more years here i will start to manifest other things like my familly. Dating will start lol! I absolutely agree with most what you said so iam pretty sure it will be very difficult to find someone who will accept me with all my past. I guess people with some right mindset and attitude just have other preferences about their wifes and future mothers of their childs. But how we can see everyone has different opinion about it. Iam sure all needs time. How i said we can’t say in first moment who we are. Everything should go step by step.

Anyway i have some other thougts… how i said i also never asked about it before. But when iam getting older and i know i will be looking for someone serious one time, it makes a sense. If someone has a high body count but he had only one relationship so there is probably something wrong. Who is interested about promiscuous partner? If someone didn’t have any relationship but he has a high bodycount, doesn’t mean it he probably doesn’t know what relationship means? There are so many aspects which could be a key for satisfied relationship forever. Why there is so many divorces? Well who iam… i just want to make an attention it’s not a nonsense. It also doesn’t mean you should ask about it. It’s only interesting.

[Barney Rubble]

Oh, I make the exception for people who've chosen to be virgins until union and want their partner to be virgin too. I think that's fair enough.

I'm guessing that those numbers would be quite small ISB compared to 40 or 50 years ago.

Different times then and different expectations.

I'd imagine that the vast majority were virgins til there weddingnight but maybe I'm wrong.

50 years ago + was the time of sexual liberation so perhaps I should say 70 odd years ago...

Oh and to answer your question Michelle...

As others have posted about a genuine relationship and the act of "making love " with someone you love or at least have very strong feelings for my number is a low 3. Maybe 4...

As for a total count of "conquests"?

Not much more than above if I'm honest.

Double figures ?

Perhaps....

Badge of honour for some of my mates when we were knocking about.

And most of them were total wankers!

[IrishSarahBarra]

I think it’s not much important so just in short…

Of course it’s my the biggest concern about which i was thinkinking and talking with friends a lot. I don’t know what future brings… I believe after few more years here i will start to manifest other things like my familly. Dating will start lol! I absolutely agree with most what you said so iam pretty sure it will be very difficult to find someone who will accept me with all my past. I guess people with some right mindset and attitude just have other preferences about their wifes and future mothers of their childs. But how we can see everyone has different opinion about it. Iam sure all needs time. How i said we can’t say in first moment who we are. Everything should go step by step.

Anyway i have some other thougts… how i said i also never asked about it before. But when iam getting older and i know i will be looking for someone serious one time, it makes a sense. If someone has a high body count but he had only one relationship so there is probably something wrong. Who is interested about promiscuous partner? If someone didn’t have any relationship but he has a high bodycount, doesn’t mean it he probably doesn’t know what relationship means? There are so many aspects which could be a key for satisfied relationship forever. Why there is so many divorces? Well who iam… i just want to make an attention it’s not a nonsense. It also doesn’t mean you should ask about it. It’s only interesting.

You are your friends are talking about this. They escort too, I'm assuming?

Ok so, for example, imagine that you and your partner have been out to dinner with your friends and your friends are "out".

It's unlikely but imagine.

You two are home now and chatting casually. Tongues are a bit loose.

What would happen if he turns to you and says >> I think your friend won't be faithful, she escorted and has a high body count;

I think your friend made bad decisions and will make bad decisions in the future because she was an escort and has as a high body count;

I think your friend is not a great mother and could not be a great mother because she was an escort and has a high body count

...could you (or your friends) tolerate this? Could you move on and not wonder what else he has stored in the cupboard?

I think it sometimes easier to imagine that we (everyone) are our best friends and talk to ourselves like we would talk to them. Cause it's easier to be kind to your best friend and we never want to see them hurting, and we want them to see themselves like we see them, etc.

If you wouldn't tolerate your partner thinking this about your best friend, you shouldn't tolerate it for yourself.

If you can change his mind very quickly and it's genuinely changed - grand.

He wasn't thinking, he should have been more tolerant, he was misinformed, he couldn't be expected to understand the nuances given that he has no experience if the situation, whatever >> grand.

But it would want to be quick and genuine.

If not, you're with the wrong partner 👌

From the get go and because of my past experiences, I won't even suffer that much...I won't even try to change someone's mind when it comes to something as important as picking a partner - if someone has an issue with escorts, they're simply not for me.

(And I extend that attitude to how my potential partners view my clients. If for one second I hear a disparaging tone about my clients for no reason at all, I automatically think less of them.)

(That's it then, I think I'm pretty chill otherwise. Don't disparage me, my friends, my clients, or my work.)

[Irelandbeautyyy]

You are your friends are talking about this. They escort too, I'm assuming?

Ok so, for example, imagine that you and your partner have been out to dinner with your friends and your friends are "out".

It's unlikely but imagine.

You two are home now and chatting casually. Tongues are a bit loose.

What would happen if he turns to you and says >> I think your friend won't be faithful, she escorted and has a high body count;

I think your friend made bad decisions and will make bad decisions in the future because she was an escort and has as a high body count;

I think your friend is not a great mother and could not be a great mother because she was an escort and has a high body count

...could you (or your friends) tolerate this? Could you move on and not wonder what else he has stored in the cupboard?

I think it sometimes easier to imagine that we (everyone) are our best friends and talk to ourselves like we would talk to them. Cause it's easier to be kind to your best friend and we never want to see them hurting, and we want them to see themselves like we see them, etc.

If you wouldn't tolerate your partner thinking this about your best friend, you shouldn't tolerate it for yourself.

If you can change his mind very quickly and it's genuinely changed - grand.

He wasn't thinking, he should have been more tolerant, he was misinformed, he couldn't be expected to understand the nuances given that he has no experience if the situation, whatever >> grand.

But it would want to be quick and genuine.

If not, you're with the wrong partner ��

From the get go and because of my past experiences, I won't even suffer that much...I won't even try to change someone's mind when it comes to something as important as picking a partner - if someone has an issue with escorts, they're simply not for me.

(And I extend that attitude to how my potential partners view my clients. If for one second I hear a disparaging tone about my clients for no reason at all, I automatically think less of them.)

(That's it then, I think I'm pretty chill otherwise. Don't disparage me, my friends, my clients, or my work.)

Sarah you are right in ideal world. Iam afraid iťs not just easy like that… i would say everyone would probably agree with you but somewhere in their mind they would have an alarm saying it’s not the best way. I also think most of people can be tolerating and respecting other choices but if we are talking about their husband or wife, than there are more careful or at least they should be.

If i should choose between two guys. I would have butterflies from both, both of them make me very special, but one of him would be porn star or sexual worker who started his career in very young age and he was walking most of his life between not right people, and second one is moral person with ideal childhood, right values and good work. Iam repeating i feel the same with both. Then i would choose probably the second choice as i would feel there more potential in my partner. I think iam not the only who is thinking like this. Maybe it’s just because i was asking in escort community which i love but i know i will say my goodbye one day. Of course noone want to think the same but in fact sexual workers have a huge problem later in sociaty. It’s why most of them stay in business so long. But again who iam to talk like this. Everyone can agree or disagree.

My very close friend is not from this bussines. So iťs maybe why iam little bit unsure. People who are not from this bussiness never can completely undestand in this line and accept us in same way like others. Maybe it will change in time.

[Irelandbeautyyy]

You are your friends are talking about this. They escort too, I'm assuming?

Ok so, for example, imagine that you and your partner have been out to dinner with your friends and your friends are "out".

It's unlikely but imagine.

You two are home now and chatting casually. Tongues are a bit loose.

What would happen if he turns to you and says >> I think your friend won't be faithful, she escorted and has a high body count;

I think your friend made bad decisions and will make bad decisions in the future because she was an escort and has as a high body count;

I think your friend is not a great mother and could not be a great mother because she was an escort and has a high body count

...could you (or your friends) tolerate this? Could you move on and not wonder what else he has stored in the cupboard?

I think it sometimes easier to imagine that we (everyone) are our best friends and talk to ourselves like we would talk to them. Cause it's easier to be kind to your best friend and we never want to see them hurting, and we want them to see themselves like we see them, etc.

If you wouldn't tolerate your partner thinking this about your best friend, you shouldn't tolerate it for yourself.

If you can change his mind very quickly and it's genuinely changed - grand.

He wasn't thinking, he should have been more tolerant, he was misinformed, he couldn't be expected to understand the nuances given that he has no experience if the situation, whatever >> grand.

But it would want to be quick and genuine.

If not, you're with the wrong partner ��

From the get go and because of my past experiences, I won't even suffer that much...I won't even try to change someone's mind when it comes to something as important as picking a partner - if someone has an issue with escorts, they're simply not for me.

(And I extend that attitude to how my potential partners view my clients. If for one second I hear a disparaging tone about my clients for no reason at all, I automatically think less of them.)

(That's it then, I think I'm pretty chill otherwise. Don't disparage me, my friends, my clients, or my work.)

I forgot to say thank you for it. It’s great to read what is in other mind. It would be so easier if all people would have same mindset like you have.

And of course noone can tolare talking like you said. But in other hand i think people mostly don’t communicate these things aloud. Iťs some setting inside them about what they don’t talk. Iam sure they is a lot of people who can accept sex business in general but again is it what most of people want in their home? Who knows…

[IrishSarahBarra]

I also think most of people can be tolerating and respecting other choices but if we are talking about their husband or wife, than there are more careful or at least they should be.

See, I'm in a different demographic so my angle is probably a little different that yours to begin with.

My pool is over 38's so (like me) most of them have already been fucked around with by life and ideals before I come along and start looking like a fine catch

[mcsocrates]

“Body count” seems like the language from a war-zone report or the aftermath of a Mafia feud!
What about “partner count”?

[FullIrish]

Most of guys answer they wouldn’t be happy if their girl would have a huge body count. Girls also answered they would be worried they wouldn’t be enough for him if he would have many of sexual partners before.

Counting people with who we make love is great.

What people say on camera and what their willing to admit to themselve or others in private will be wildly diffrent. I'd bet a lot of those answers you saw were for show and their true feelings will probably be more open-minded

I never got the "make love" thing. Being intimate, I'm usually bringing my whole-self, I try not to leave some of me on the side for only "making love" times.

My whole-self will also have diffrent sex preferences with diffrent moments/people/scenarios. So I won't always be "making love" with my soul-mate, it can be just as sweet to go at it like we're both sex starved as it is to be gentle, sensual and soft with eachother.