Do you ever feel lonely

[RodeoMan]

Hey Falcon, I am older than you and lost my wife and child years ago in an accident, i decided to stay single since and people think I am a great mixer and chatter but deep down it is all a charade, i appear to be happy jolly when in public but i cant wait to get home and relax, it is not a good place to be and i onow people say there are loads of activities you can get involved in but it aint that easy, hang in there buddy , if you happy in your own company good for you but it aint easy been on your own

[bmw528]

This is a topic that has been on my mind recently or a lot of my life probably.

More interested in others thoughts than rambling away myself but Ill give a brief outline of how it affects me,

In early 40s- not married- am in a relationship thou its hard to say if its going the distance. My heart remains fond also for a different woman so hoping to decide on all that in the coming year and be clearer on things. Ill either be buying the ring for one of these this year or quite possibly ill be finished with both

Friendship wise- You know and I think I miss this- I dont have any real close male buddies- I did up until around age 28- but had a falling out and funnily enough have general acquaintances since then but no real best mates if that makes sense. I have a lot of acquaintances like its not as if am not meeting people at all, but not really part of a tight group as such. I have a nice friendship with one of the ladies here- she often gives me advice over the phone and Im grateful to her but I dont want to be annoying her too much outside of appointments and so on.

Overall I am a loner thou I also welcome company at times.

Anyway was in a coffee shop a week ago and seemingly happy working away on my computer no one looking over my shoulder. But I also noticed many tables- people having the chat and banter and in good spirits,
I says to myself well Im in good enough form but you know what Im pretty fukking lonely.

Anyway- whats your story- Any of you lonely?

I think we have all had friends come and go in our lifetimes but this is pretty normal that most of them fade away like you say.
You dont have to be face to face with everyone to class them as your friends. Sure by putting up thiis thread you are talking amongst your friends.
Obviously you are comfortable chatting on the forum wiith lots of others that feel the way you do and are in a similar situation.
Sometimes when we think about things too much it seems alot worse than it really is.
Sure yer a lucky fecker anyway, with different women fighting over ye. Anyway if ye want to call up to Maynooth Nursing home theres plenty of things to do up here to help ye take yer mind off things.

[Harry68]

Kudos to the original poster. Admitting to being lonely is something that is viewed with horror sometimes although just about everyone suffers from it at some point in their lives. You can be lonely in a marriage and relationship as easily as by yourself.

Having some social / family network is very important especially as you get older as your circle of friends diminishes naturally. I'm at the stage now where 2 classmates from secondary school have passed away. A good friend of mine died in the stupidest of manners 2 years ago. A work colleague I was very close to passed away in his sleep around the same time. The former I would watch racing regularly in the pub of a Saturday and we worked nearby and met for lunch regularly. The other worked in the last company I worked for and I worked with him closely. I can still feel the shock when I got a text saying he had passed away. I have definitely felt their going leave a void in my life. I changed jobs relatively recently from a large company to one a fraction of the size and the social circle shrunk even further. I try to meet some of my old work colleagues at least once a month but its difficult being a spare wheel when you have moved on.

I am lucky in that my best friend of almost 40 years literally lives about 5 minutes walk away. We'd see each other regularly. Go walking the dogs. Watch some crap TV when I can sneak out. He's a confirmed bachelor and doesn't look after himself and if he dropped dead in the morning I'd lose probably 1/2 my non family contact.

I've a hobby of which I'll say nothing of that I meet the same group twice a month but I'd class them more as acquaintances than friends.

So I wouldn't say I'm lonely but I could see how easily it can happen with a key relationship or two going for whatever reason. Most people need human contact of varying degrees and there is study after study that shows social networks promote good mental and physical health.

[Yoloman]

Is anyone truely happy these days, you can have everything and still be lonely and unhappy, I’m with ye, 39 divorced, bi curious and just want fun, everyone else is settling and I’m acting 20 again

[TheFalcon]

wow, appreciate it thank you for all the great responses,

to sum up I suppose keeping busy and not letting myself overthink too much is probably the way forward,
I of course acknowledge could be much worse off too, and have it good a lot of ways,


great insights everyone, cheers.

[Farmerboy44]

Ya very same reallly as author regards friends. But am v happy.

[TommyH123]

Ya very same reallly as author regards friends. But am v happy.

You sure, your other thread would suggest you like company 😉

[AmorInfinito8]

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[BarryD]

This is a topic that has been on my mind recently or a lot of my life probably.

More interested in others thoughts than rambling away myself but Ill give a brief outline of how it affects me,

Friendship wise- You know and I think I miss this- I dont have any real close male buddies- I did up until around age 28- but had a falling out and funnily enough have general acquaintances since then but no real best mates if that makes sense. I have a lot of acquaintances like its not as if am not meeting people at all, but not really part of a tight group as such. I have a nice friendship with one of the ladies here- she often gives me advice over the phone and Im grateful to her but I dont want to be annoying her too much outside of appointments and so on.

Overall I am a loner thou I also welcome company at times.

Im in good enough form but you know what Im pretty fukking lonely.

Anyway- whats your story- Any of you lonely?

next to impossible with a complete and utter guufball who wakes you up at 5 a.m every day, pawing, licking, whining
follows your every move entire day, has a complete meltdown if left alone for more than 5 mins so has to go everywhere I go, the mans best friend

[Bananaman1960]

Yes pal loneliness is creeping in as I get older. Your not alone in feel that way.
No wife no kids.
These forums are great for creating bonds and friendships wit people wit similar interests etc.