Sex addiction and new year resolutions!

[oldfool]

So as 2023 draws to a close and we make some New Year resolutions. The usual ‘get fit, drink less, eat healthy’ etc all feature for many. What about visiting escorts? You may want to visit more or you may actually be thinking visit less or stop altogether for 2024. Which leads me to ask. Is visiting escorts a sure sign of sex addiction? Do you have limits that you stick to rigidly or are you compulsive? I started this 7 months ago and worry that it may be a habit. What I thought would be a kind of experiment has become more than that. I have spent more than I thought I would. Most of the experiences have been amazing hence the continued visits. Could you stop if you wanted to. I am still of the mind it will run its course but maybe I m fooling myself. Just interested if anyone is in similar mindset.

When i reply to a newbee I always warn them that this habit is addictive and expensive. I started off just wanting to experiment with one "favourite" and found myself hooked. Covid reduced the opportunities and post Covid Dublin meets are less frequent "thanks " to zoom and teams conferencing. There is also the lack of hotel availability creating a problem. These obstacles have not created as much frustration as i would have expected, so maybe i am slowing down due to old age and a lack of the thrill factor.

[Toolbox]

So as 2023 draws to a close and we make some New Year resolutions. The usual ‘get fit, drink less, eat healthy’ etc all feature for many. What about visiting escorts? You may want to visit more or you may actually be thinking visit less or stop altogether for 2024. Which leads me to ask. Is visiting escorts a sure sign of sex addiction? Do you have limits that you stick to rigidly or are you compulsive? I started this 7 months ago and worry that it may be a habit. What I thought would be a kind of experiment has become more than that. I have spent more than I thought I would. Most of the experiences have been amazing hence the continued visits. Could you stop if you wanted to. I am still of the mind it will run its course but maybe I m fooling myself. Just interested if anyone is in similar mindset.

I’ve no intention of quitting at the moment, I’m enjoying it too much.

I’ve definitely moved to more meetings with my regular ladies & a new lady every now & then over the last few years & don’t see that changing.

[morelovin]

Interesting responses, I have enjoyed the experiences so far but there is concern that I could or could already be hooked. Some of the ladies are just amazing. The issue is the headspace it takes, the planning and preparation for meets. There are risks too( some of us have families).The cost is too high. So for 2024, maybe a few return visits and a farewell. I d like to look back and say that was good while it lasted.

[TommyH123]

I think too much of anything can be bad for you, however, depending on your finances and experiences in most cases things normally level themselves out after a while. I think most of us have gone through what you are describing in your post. If you have a moderate life style your wallet will probably help you along the way with your decisions.

^^this^^

Good post beemer, price will always be the deciding factor, mind you price and value are different things, it inevitably comes down to risk/reward equation

[Averageatbest93]

Definitely to get in better shape, I've already lost about 3 stone and it's brought about much more fun / enjoyment from meets. But texting a lovely lady the other day who I'd seen before and she asked me for a selfie as she could only vaguely remember me as the 'chubby/handsome guy'�� kept me off the mince pies for the rest of Christmas at least ��

In response to the OP, it can be an expensive habit alright and not easily one that can be kicked , particularly if this is the only outlet for the type of attention/affection available that we need as men. It's not something we can go without. I would say use it as motivation to improve in your career and earn more money so you can have more time with the ladies �� that's what I did honestly when I started two years ago , I was so hooked I did whatever I had to to be able to afford more meets , I changed jobs and have been promoted twice in the last 2 years and my salary is double what I was on then, and no joke visiting ladies was the main motivator for me. If spending time with some of the most beautiful amazing women imaginable isn't enough to give you a boost to work on your finances nothing will.

[bananabox999]

I plan to continue as i have been

Im way less frequent than most of you mind.

[Benny123]

When you are living in the west you are basically living off scraps. I'm always amused at punters saying that they always have a plan B if plan A doesn't work when meeting a lady. I have a huge job getting plan A sorted so there's rarely a plan B. Some towns have shit apartments and as a result the well established ladies won't go near them so you only get unverified, no reviews, no English speaking ladies. I won't go near them. Therefore it's practically impossible to get addicted to meeting ladies off this site , simply because they are not there. When I ring a lady that I like, the first question I ask is, where are you working from. I know practically every working apartment in most towns so very often that finishes the conversation. I need to get more excuses to get to bigger towns. Therefore that's why I love hotels.

[JMastodon]

So as 2023 draws to a close and we make some New Year resolutions. The usual ‘get fit, drink less, eat healthy’ etc all feature for many. What about visiting escorts? You may want to visit more or you may actually be thinking visit less or stop altogether for 2024. Which leads me to ask. Is visiting escorts a sure sign of sex addiction? Do you have limits that you stick to rigidly or are you compulsive? I started this 7 months ago and worry that it may be a habit. What I thought would be a kind of experiment has become more than that. I have spent more than I thought I would. Most of the experiences have been amazing hence the continued visits. Could you stop if you wanted to. I am still of the mind it will run its course but maybe I m fooling myself. Just interested if anyone is in similar mindset.

Started in 2012 and each time I say I'm quitting I end up going back. The sex drive in humans is extremely strong.

[Dreamer1950]

I would say, Bobbyj is spot oñ for us punters, yes. But the variation is. Individual as is circumstanse. sex workers provide a needed service.for this modern Iŕish Society and just not for men.hopefulĺy women will admit it Soon
I admit very unlightly any time soon.

[morelovin]

Definitely to get in better shape, I've already lost about 3 stone and it's brought about much more fun / enjoyment from meets. But texting a lovely lady the other day who I'd seen before and she asked me for a selfie as she could only vaguely remember me as the 'chubby/handsome guy'�� kept me off the mince pies for the rest of Christmas at least ��

In response to the OP, it can be an expensive habit alright and not easily one that can be kicked , particularly if this is the only outlet for the type of attention/affection available that we need as men. It's not something we can go without. I would say use it as motivation to improve in your career and earn more money so you can have more time with the ladies �� that's what I did honestly when I started two years ago , I was so hooked I did whatever I had to to be able to afford more meets , I changed jobs and have been promoted twice in the last 2 years and my salary is double what I was on then, and no joke visiting ladies was the main motivator for me. If spending time with some of the most beautiful amazing women imaginable isn't enough to give you a boost to work on your finances nothing will.

Pretty amazing the positive impact here. I suppose it’s a good motivation to keep in shape. These girls have youth on their side but they do look after themselves very well.

What has struck me about many of the ladies is the kindness offered. I often think they don’t have to be as nice as they are. Maybe I naively forget repeat visits is a motive. However, I hope the kindness is reciprocal. I do often wonder about their circumstances.