Anyone in a LTR yet still punt with a clear mind?

[FullIrish]

I'm just a horny bastard.

I'm not in a LTR but have been in a few and have met escorts while in a relationship, usually if I'm unsatisfied in bed at home. I know it's not fair really to the girlfriiend, but it's one life we have, I would be living with regret if I stifled my sexual nature and I'm always clear and upfront about this when meeting new women. There's lots of nuance and grey areas to life.

I've a high sex drive, I've yet to meet a woman that does too and is also LTR material. I've met a couple women with high sex drives but they've always turned out to be not right for me in many other ways.

There's a unicorn out there who has it all (Open-mind, in-shape, high sex-drive, sound and has her shit together) and I'll meet her someday (I hope).

But in the meantime, I've got needs and my life starts to unwind when I deny those needs.

[FullIrish]

As a side note, I think an emotional affair is much much worse.

If my girlfriend told me she had sex with some random once off because she was not getting enough at home despite her best efforts, then so be it, go get yours, I guess we're not compatible in that way.

But if she was talking to someone I knew and falling head over heels while dating me, that would really really hurt.

[Robertburton]

Yeah. Very long LTR here. It would be over if I didn't see ladies here. Does it make me an asshole? Possibly but it would be much worse if I didn't. Every other aspect of my life is good. Except sex life. I have no interest in another relationship. Just like pretty sexy ladies and getting laid thats it.

[Ikegodsey]

I'm really glad someone already mentioned being in an open relationship. I wish more people tried to present this alternative to their partners without the fear of repercussions, so the "clear mind" wouldn't even be a question at all. My mind is clear as I'm literally just minding my own business, if they don't cheat with me, they'll cheat with someone else, but I felt so much happier when the client told me that he asked his girlfriend's approval whether he chose the right escort to visit before he came. I understand some people do it specifically because it's not allowed, the taboo element gives them the buzz they miss in their lives, but in most cases they said it's either secret or divorce, as their partners are still stuck in the middle ages of mononormativity. Actually it's not rare that both parties cheat, they just don't have the guts to confront the other to propose what would clearly suit both of them if they were willing to drop the pretense of a basic couple.

Having seen so many of my friends and acquaintances march up the aisle with attractive women only to see them 10 years later, overweight, over makes up, far far from the person they married only 10 years earlier...no surprise to see so many people availing of the fantastic service we have here..men too are guilty of letting themselves go..as a single person, so many people men and women have confided in me over the years, saying that they dread going home every day...and would be gone only for the children and finances..if you dread going home it stands to reason that sharing a bed with someone you no longer have any sexual interest must be torture.... when in a satisfactory relationship I don't visit anyone, when the relationship is no longer satisfactory I am gone...so many people stick in relationships out of habit... best for both parties to go their separate ways asap when no longer working

[libra]

15 years in an open relationship, see escorts when in the mood and have met a lot of married women for what they ain't getting at home from a few apps.

Feel free to Pm me those apps

[Clubcard]

For me I think seeing escorts has stunted my urge to start up any sort of relationship never mind a long term one. I've been on my own 9 years or so and yeah I miss the intimacy of a partner and the security of it but I have zero desire to start again.

I will probably die a single man that has sex with beautiful women on a regular basis and I'm ok with that.

Long term relationships aren't for everyone!

Although I will say putting the Duvet cover on by yourself is a bollocks.

[bananabox999]

Although I will say putting the Duvet cover on by yourself is a bollocks.

Inside out, grab the corners, shake shake shake. Easy


Id say its more a pain with 2 people lol

[bmw528]

Don't have a relationship.
Simple

I don't know the number of my friends who have sexless marriage only to move on to another partner and after a few years they have a sexless relationship.

How do you stop a woman having sex?
Marry her

Sure who would put up with you and that other big Goofeball?.

[TommyH123]

For me I think seeing escorts has stunted my urge to start up any sort of relationship never mind a long term one. I've been on my own 9 years or so and yeah I miss the intimacy of a partner and the security of it but I have zero desire to start again.

I will probably die a single man that has sex with beautiful women on a regular basis and I'm ok with that.

Long term relationships aren't for everyone!

Although I will say putting the Duvet cover on by yourself is a bollocks.

Once a fortnight out call to your house, get her to help you change it in the morning..sorted 😉

[SteveB]

Maybe Escort Ireland would consider adding "putting on a duvet cover" to "favourites"?