This dude wrote a book on what it's like... and “The sex was just such a small part of it,” he says. “Probably 20% of it is the sex, and the rest of it is just listening." (Something like marriage, then? )


https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2023/sep/09/what-women-want-when-they-pay-for-sex-just-kindness