what do u think?

**experienced punter** · 10-07-09, 19:16

Originally Posted by alechoran

Beats me - I dont have the answers - Its up to her really- Any kids involved- She working ?

She have brothers /sisters / parents that she is really close to ?

Yep 1 child under 10 not close to family just me

**Alec Horan** · 10-07-09, 19:21

Tell her to leave and put em both up for a while. Be a good samaritan.

**Lynne** · 10-07-09, 19:22

it is a very sad situation. Unfortunately it seems lady who get into abusive relationships tend to proceed into the next one, with nothing much of a change.
The best thing to do is to be there for her and listen to her and try to give as much advice as you can. At the end of the day it is her decision and will take her own willpower to get out of the problems she is in.
hope all works out
Sincerely
Lynne x

**Doozer** · 10-07-09, 19:33

I agree with Lynne EP. Just b e there for here. Its a sad state of affairs.You cant win.

cavanman · 10-07-09, 20:11

From reading the post here I must agreed with the idea of you not getting yourself overly stressed about her. It really is up to her to break away if she really wishes to and all you can really do is to is lend support to her if she does it.

I am not saying this is the case here but it is believed that abuse is all about power and control over another and you often find people who are abused can at times unknowingly excert power over others through their vulnerably.

I believe every adult in this world is responsible for their own actions and situations so really the ball is in her court. All u can do is be there for her when and if the time ever comes.

**Banned User** · 10-07-09, 21:48

I can only think of songs by female artists that show how common this unfortunate situation is.

YouTube - Kate Nash - Foundations Official Music Video

**WD-40** · 10-07-09, 23:59

Wow xp heavy topic man.sounds to me like this girl has serious self confidence issues,shes afraid of being alone so she latches on to anyone who will hav her no matter how badly they treat her.tink shes really insecure and needs good friends at the min to help her thru some bad times.i admire wat u are doin here,its not easy but this girl needs her friends now.hats off to man,i thought u wer a looser wen u startd the celibacy jazz but u hav just changd my mind.

**Mississippi** · 11-07-09, 09:16

Hang on in there. If you are the only one she talks to you are her lifeline. If you were to go she would be in a worse situation. God only knows who would take your place.

**luther** · 12-07-09, 18:02

EP, all you can really do for this person is listen to her, be a friend and give her someone to talk to, but at the end of the day she needs to talk to someone on a professional level. People who constantly get themselves into relationships or situations like this have many underlying issues and getting into these relationships is way of dealing with other things that she probably doesn't even realise are going on, or went on in her life, they don't just happen by coincidence.............

Be the best friend you can be and help her to get help......................

**experienced punter** · 12-07-09, 18:15

Sound advice lads & ladies but I am now thinking of a way of getting out of this r/ship I've had enough shes ready to leave on Friday Saturday morning all fucking hunky dory with the cunt of a boyfriend again always the same
I always tell her I love her as a friend & will always be there for her but maybe I'm just convenience
my friend says she'll eventually end up with me! couldn't meet a nicer fella

I need to get away from this situation I've had enough.....

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