Sad day...

[TonyB]

I've followed women I find attractive from a distance on the street many times.

You are a sicko. Go seek help

[Barney Rubble]

Jesus Christ. All of you should be ashamed. Still fighting here. No respect for poor girl at all.

I give up Michelle. This place has really gone to fuck.

[Laimo]

An emotional day for Ashling Murphy's family and all her friends tomorrow. How someone's world completely turn upside down in a few minutes. So sad.
RIP Ashling Murphy

[Ted E Bear]

Yes, sorry guys, as a group you’re shocking. I have a daughter who was sexually assaulted last year by one of her friends after she had had a couple of drinks, she’s not right since. She changed schools recently, much to do with this incident, I think, but doesn’t recognise the links.

On day 1, the year above her, big 17 and 18 year old lads to her 15, they were all grouped in the hall outside her classroom looking in, messing the way teen lads can’t help messing around pretty girls. Among other things, one of them shouts at the other, “Look llads, we have a pretty new toy to play with.” She was mortified sitting with her own bunch of strangers and trying to fit in, and it was a particularly creepy thing to say.

I’m still a little annoyed if I think about it; she has ASD and is permanently in a state of high alert; I couldn’t get her to go into school the following week, and I want it so much for this place to work out for her.

She was in town a a short couple of months ago, and as a couple of young teens cycled past, one of them reached out and smacked her ass. These are three major incidents that I’m aware of among the many small incessant “harmless as ppl call them?” incidents of leering, whistling, commenting, shouting.

I’ve been sexually assaulted by my child-minder’s son, and again by a neighbour who was in my year at school. My uncle tried to get creepy with me once when I was 30. Not a sexually assault just so disappointing and unnerving because you’d have to crawl through your memories for anything off a s a child. When I was in college, a bouncer some night though that I was drunk enough to rape (I wasn’t, just about). That last one was a bit strange because I was sober enough to sense how anxious he was for me to be drunk, and he must have been doing it to girls on a regular basis.

I’ve never been hurt by a client. I was quite nervous of men when I started escorting because of my many bad experiences with your dark and creepy side (you, men as a group). Since, I’ve met hundreds of you, and 99pc of you have been lovely, really great people, and it’s been quite healing in a way. I can feel that for every bad guy, there are ten/twenty decent ones worth knowing who are gentle and care beyond what I once thought was possible of a man.

As decent men, it’s your duty to acknowledge the devil that exists in some of you and have zero tolerance from the ground up. I suppose it’s like whites and racism, it’s a white problem to deal with, and if you tolerate racism in your own groups, racists will rise. That doesn’t mean that everyone’s a racist, it just means that too much was ignored for too long.

I've often admired how you can word a post to make it effective and I think your " like whites and racism " line sums up the way we men often choose to ignore the comments made in our presence about women and comments we make.

[whoseyourdaddy]

I give up Michelle. This place has really gone to fuck.

Hope you dont give up Barney.

Your a positive voice around here

[Cedar]

Media jumped the gun. The Gardaí did their job

[Scrumhalf9]

Yes, sorry guys, as a group you’re shocking. I have a daughter who was sexually assaulted last year by one of her friends after she had had a couple of drinks, she’s not right since. She changed schools recently, much to do with this incident, I think, but doesn’t recognise the links.

On day 1, the year above her, big 17 and 18 year old lads to her 15, they were all grouped in the hall outside her classroom looking in, messing the way teen lads can’t help messing around pretty girls. Among other things, one of them shouts at the other, “Look llads, we have a pretty new toy to play with.” She was mortified sitting with her own bunch of strangers and trying to fit in, and it was a particularly creepy thing to say.

I’m still a little annoyed if I think about it; she has ASD and is permanently in a state of high alert; I couldn’t get her to go into school the following week, and I want it so much for this place to work out for her.

She was in town a a short couple of months ago, and as a couple of young teens cycled past, one of them reached out and smacked her ass. These are three major incidents that I’m aware of among the many small incessant “harmless as ppl call them?” incidents of leering, whistling, commenting, shouting.

I’ve been sexually assaulted by my child-minder’s son, and again by a neighbour who was in my year at school. My uncle tried to get creepy with me once when I was 30. Not a sexually assault just so disappointing and unnerving because you’d have to crawl through your memories for anything off a s a child. When I was in college, a bouncer some night though that I was drunk enough to rape (I wasn’t, just about). That last one was a bit strange because I was sober enough to sense how anxious he was for me to be drunk, and he must have been doing it to girls on a regular basis.

I’ve never been hurt by a client. I was quite nervous of men when I started escorting because of my many bad experiences with your dark and creepy side (you, men as a group). Since, I’ve met hundreds of you, and 99pc of you have been lovely, really great people, and it’s been quite healing in a way. I can feel that for every bad guy, there are ten/twenty decent ones worth knowing who are gentle and care beyond what I once thought was possible of a man.

As decent men, it’s your duty to acknowledge the devil that exists in some of you and have zero tolerance from the ground up. I suppose it’s like whites and racism, it’s a white problem to deal with, and if you tolerate racism in your own groups, racists will rise. That doesn’t mean that everyone’s a racist, it just means that too much was ignored for too long.

Probably, the best post I’ve ever read on here. Thank you.

[gonzo76]

Yes, sorry guys, as a group you’re shocking. I have a daughter who was sexually assaulted last year by one of her friends after she had had a couple of drinks, she’s not right since. She changed schools recently, much to do with this incident, I think, but doesn’t recognise the links.

On day 1, the year above her, big 17 and 18 year old lads to her 15, they were all grouped in the hall outside her classroom looking in, messing the way teen lads can’t help messing around pretty girls. Among other things, one of them shouts at the other, “Look llads, we have a pretty new toy to play with.” She was mortified sitting with her own bunch of strangers and trying to fit in, and it was a particularly creepy thing to say.

I’m still a little annoyed if I think about it; she has ASD and is permanently in a state of high alert; I couldn’t get her to go into school the following week, and I want it so much for this place to work out for her.

She was in town a a short couple of months ago, and as a couple of young teens cycled past, one of them reached out and smacked her ass. These are three major incidents that I’m aware of among the many small incessant “harmless as ppl call them?” incidents of leering, whistling, commenting, shouting.

I’ve been sexually assaulted by my child-minder’s son, and again by a neighbour who was in my year at school. My uncle tried to get creepy with me once when I was 30. Not a sexually assault just so disappointing and unnerving because you’d have to crawl through your memories for anything off a s a child. When I was in college, a bouncer some night though that I was drunk enough to rape (I wasn’t, just about). That last one was a bit strange because I was sober enough to sense how anxious he was for me to be drunk, and he must have been doing it to girls on a regular basis.

I’ve never been hurt by a client. I was quite nervous of men when I started escorting because of my many bad experiences with your dark and creepy side (you, men as a group). Since, I’ve met hundreds of you, and 99pc of you have been lovely, really great people, and it’s been quite healing in a way. I can feel that for every bad guy, there are ten/twenty decent ones worth knowing who are gentle and care beyond what I once thought was possible of a man.

As decent men, it’s your duty to acknowledge the devil that exists in some of you and have zero tolerance from the ground up. I suppose it’s like whites and racism, it’s a white problem to deal with, and if you tolerate racism in your own groups, racists will rise. That doesn’t mean that everyone’s a racist, it just means that too much was ignored for too long.

Sarah as always a courageous and insightful post.

As a man I have to try to be better, even if I think I am without any blame for any of these actions, we need to reflect on these topics and do better.

I am reminded of a risk analysis/safety assessment thing - bear with me. There is a triangle, with fatalities on the top, a small number, but below that, injuries, a larger but still small number, below that near misses, and so on.

It is the mindset that because in general mens behaviour is in the lower categories it's fine, is the issue. In and of itself it can be seen as harmless but there are downstream effects.

[Noregrets]

Officers from Hampshire constabulary have arrested a 21-year-old man from Reading in Basingstoke on suspicion of false imprisonment, making threats to kill, battery, assault occasioning actual bodily harm, and breach of police bail.


This case of the girl in England could have had just as bad an outcome, thankfully it didn't and the fact the arrested man was on bail makes it so so much worse.

We really need to have less concern for the rights of those guilty of crimes and be more concerned about protecting the innocent,

[Rua]

A bit of good news, at least they have arrested someone.

https://www.irishexaminer.com/news/arid-40787790.html