I like a nice hot oil massage for an hour, with pressure between gentle and medium. No jocks on, that's really important. Nice music. Masseuse shouldn't mind an erection. Once I got one and she started talking about Covid in Thailand, which was a bit of a mood killer. I like a friendly girl, that makes me even more relaxed. In hotel Spas I dont ever expect any extras so I just lie back and enjoy it, not do the "Will she/wont she" bit in my head!!