For me the answer is massage.
I remember my doctor writing me a long prescription, but telling me that I didn't need anything if I would learn to relax. But that if I kept going as I was she reconed I had less than 10 years left in me. My solution, I changed doctors.
Six months later I was nearly crippled in pain. A workmate organised a massage for me. I only let her do my neck and shoulders, it was so effective I was back the next day for a full massage and another 3 days later. Completely changed my life. I even did an evening massage course. That was 26 years ago.
I was already visiting sexworkers before that but never erotic massage. I was out in Austria working and saw a small sign saying massage and she pulled the mickey out of me.
I now try to have a regular non erotic massage at least once a month, and for fun l prefer escorts that give good massage.
My wife caught me wearing ladies underwear and threatened to leave me.
So I packed up all her clothes
And left.