Where have you found it easiest to meet women.

[TheFalcon]

U met a good amount of women, did u ever think maybe is something wrong with u not with them? I understand u can be unlucky and meet some not good ones but when u met so many and still single....I will start to think maybe u do something wrong. I met a guy in his 50 plus never married and always complaining women are all the same bl bla bla and he is unlucky but he was a chronic liar and not mannered much and didn't know how to court a woman how to be a gentleman. Women like these things to show them they are the centre of your attention not treat them like your mate .because she is not ..at list at the beginning.

I think most women would say I am a gentleman,

I am well aware of my inadequacies with women, I would of course say my relative struggles with the ladies are to a large extent my own failings. Im not feeling bitter towards any women,

I am happy enough with the woman I have been with, I have done ok I think for a shy bloke.

[TheFalcon]

[QUOTE=Wolverine;2324681]He started a thread last November completely oblivious to the suffering sex workers were facing in these times.


well ok I will be more careful in case I am posting anything that causes difficulty for escorts,

I like to put up thought provoking open minded reflective posts for debate,

I love the escorts and certainly have no intention of causing any difficulty for them

[FullIrish]

I found Tinder to be quite handy here in Ireland

I've had real hit/miss on this. One thing is the waste of effort that can go into it for no return. It's been around for ages now and I've had it on and off and tried lots of different approaches over the years. (Also not always looking for the same thing on there).

My approach: (And approach for all dating/ hook-ups)

I usually have the most success when I'm most direct (Without being too direct..), and try to meet up with the ladies asap.

I'll usually try get a bit of chat in, try get a laugh going, make a joke or two, then I'll try compliment the woman’s looks, and move the convo onto what we're both looking for. This is where I'll usually be able to tell if it has any chance. I'll say I'm looking for something causal, not looking for a relationship at the moment etc. If the lady responds positively/ the same, then I try to move the convo towards more sexual stuff. Usually plenty of innuendos at the start before being more direct, need to gauge the lady.

Then depending on how that chat goes, I'll usually try strike a meet, I'll ask if the lady wants to go for coffee or a walk for lunch. See how that goes, it's occasionally led to some wild sexy scenarios. But usually I just try to get the convo going good, try keep the sexual stuff in the chat when appropriate, try make her feel at ease. Then I'll try organise a date, and my go to option is to schedule it either for the same day that evening or as soon as possible. This is key for a lot of reasons which I won't go into, but mainly if you are looking for success at making a connection you have to act, no fluffing about sending cute messages for weeks until eventually she gets bored and unmatches you.

For the date I usually try do similar each time. I live alone, so I'll suggest this nice and reasonably priced Italian place right around the corner from my apartment. (Make sure to have cheesecake, beer and red wine at your place before the date.) I'll have dinner, talk about cheesecake and red wine, get to know the lady, have a good time. At some point I'll make sure to say I have some cheesecake and/or wine at my place and invite her back to mine for some. From there, it's up to you to seal the deal, I have plenty more strategies and tactics that work.

Now, this all might come across as quite clinical/cold, but it's the opposite I think. It never works like clockwork but it's an easy guideline for myself to take some of the stress out of dating. I have a similar approach to all the women I pursue, it helps a lot if you know generally what steps you plan on making and where you’re going to be guiding the convo etc. I'm not so good looking or so talented at seduction that I can have good success without some sort of plan.. And that's all it is, guidelines, hardly ever will things work out as expected, but sure that's the fun of it! The thing is, for any of it to work, you have to work on your charisma and confidence. Not being a dick, but be assured with yourself and what you say. The only way to get better at this is practice, you fake it till you make it (Kinda like dirty talk).

Anyone else have a similar standard operating procedure?