Originally Posted by
Joelegs
After scan reading some of the posts here, I totally agree with what is being said. People stay together for a whole lot of different reasons and not just for love.
Marriage has four important components: respect, relationship, friendship and intimacy.
If one or more of the above are missing from your marriage, then the vows that you took are not worth the the ink on your marriage license.
It takes two people to make a marriage and it takes two people to break it. With that said, IMHO one party may be more responsible for the breakdown of a relationship more than the other. In some cases infidelity is reactionary and caused by sheer frustration, or rejection. Both people in a relationship should respect each other, have interdependence upon each other, be friends and have an intimate relationship. If you want to cold about it, if any of the above is missing one, or both parties are in breech of the contract made to each other, and if you have faith the contract made before God. Yes by seeing an escort you are breaking your marriage vows (contract), but perhaps the contract has already been broken long ago and is in tatters. Seeing an escort is just another step towards the eventual breakdown of your marriage because in your head you know it is already lost.
I would think long and hard before you take the step to see an escort. I was faithful to one woman for twenty-three years. If possible try to talk to your partner or get help if there is something lacking in your marriage. In my case my wife refused to talk to me, or seek help.
With that said, everyone is human, perhaps you want company, perhaps you long for physical contact, or perhaps you want to just feel like a man again. Many men are in the same boat. If some Irish women grew good grass at home, their men wouldn't become lost sheep and wander into the arms or bed of other women. If you are just looking for is some fun, well that's up to you. There were times that I used to feel guilty seeing escorts, but I don't now because I consider my marriage over, I just haven't got the bit paper to legally say it is. You know what, if my wife acted like a wife again and showed me: respect, had a proper relationship with me, was my friend and I wasn't living in a sexless marriage, I would give up seeing escorts tomorrow because no matter how good the GFE is, it is never the same as making love.
I only comment on posts like these to let men know they are not the only one out there who is going through a tuff time at home. I am not crying, or looking for pity. It is what it is, but there are no winners in a marriage breakup.