Should you leave a bad review

[Pusseater98]

Look, earlier this year I called an escort and scheduled a meeting etc etc. I don’t drive so I had to take two buses to get to where she was. So I arrived where she was and called to get the apartment code. Once I got in she called again and asked where I was from. I told her and she declined. Was I disappointed? Definitely. I didn’t leave a review though, I’m not into doing them whether positive or negative because I believe it’s a private thing. I only have 1 review. But even if I leave a lot of reviews, I wouldn’t have given her a bad one.

My point is, disappointments happen all the time in life. To everybody. Don’t bother whining about it. Take it for what it is and move on. Sounds harsh and I can sympathise with your disappointment, but the way I see it, at least she was honest. I’d much rather be told she won’t see me for my ethnicity rather than her seeing me anyway and it not going well. And please can we stop the in-fighting on these threads and be nice to each other? There’s enough negativity going on outside this space, this is supposed to be somewhere to get away from all that.

[gonzo76]

Really? I think you will find that discrimination on the basis of race is racism. This is not complicated.

Indeed it is not complicated. It's about consent. This whole game is predicated on consent. For both parties. If the client or the escort does not want to go ahead because of the look of the person, that's all there is to it.

It's also sexist of me to not want to have sex with other men. I guess I'm guilty of that.

[kylethomas]

The counter argument is that a lot of clients don't read the profiles anyway.

I spotted the op's later post where he said he usually does clarify when booking so in that case I do think it bad form. And it seems a "secretary" may have been involved in some cases. But in this case he didn't clarify.

But the whole talk about it not being right or "not accepting it" by some of the other posters smacks of entitlement, and borders on some behavior and attitudes that are at best creepy, and at worst a whole lot worse than that.

but you have to talk to make the appointment, it must all be weighed up here, we can see its a good genuine client here who does feel hurt here, has he the right to leave a truthful review, its up to him to do what he believes in as he was the only person who knows the real story here, no one has entitlement over another or their business but it must be made clear or communicated in a better way so this does not happen and no party is disappointed

[176x]

I just reported the post. He went too far .

Who's post did you report ?

[MichelleFox]

Again, we are talking about a punter's experience of racism. It wasn't a "personal reason" - it was down to racism.

You seem to jump very quickly to personal abuse when someone disagrees with you.....

Actually not. You talking about girl who refused to meet. She must have reason why not.

Not always. Just when somebody comes so bad on my nerves like you...

[WeeJimmy]

Believe it or not it helps to have good references from other well established ladies. It happened I didnt like the sound of a guy over the phone but when I checked him up he had good feedback so I met him and I got on very well with him..

I believe it but not in these cases, if an escort has preferences and doesn't see certain groups then why would you start mentioning that you are a great client and got some top notch escorts that can back you up, you just stall the wagon and say, fine I respect your decision and move on. You don't pile more pressure on her as you make her uncomfortable, let her be

[Forceuser]

For me,the issue of sexworkers safety trumps all others in this crazy game.

If that means some hurt feelings or some good punters miss out on appointment then
so be it.

i was once refused an appointment when an escort realized i was in the same apartment complex as her.
for her sense of safety she just didnt do that,so i said fair enough

its just the way it is

[Eagle87]

Again, we are talking about a punter's experience of racism. It wasn't a "personal reason" - it was down to racism.

You seem to jump very quickly to personal abuse when someone disagrees with you.....

Except it was a personal reason because the escort in question was the exact same ethnicity as him. That's why you can't start throwing around allegations of racism without knowing the entire context. The OP left a lot of important details out to be fair, but you still didn't have enough evidence or context to level accusations of racism at anybody.

[IrishCasey]

Looking for some opinions here. Was discussing recently with a group of like minded ppl. Should you leave a bad review for a girl who refuses to see you because of your ethnicity. When she doesn’t state it on her profile.

Call the girl talk and have a conversation see what you both want from your meeting x

[mui11]

just to clarify im not upset, angry or bitter. i wasnt fully clear on my original post apologies. i didnt mean bad review i meant a did not meet review and to specify the reasons. This will come up as a bad or should i say negative review.

like i said ive pretty much left any time this has happened. except for one time where at the door the lady told me that the manager in said hotel was looking for me for no reason except she did want to see me. which was completely uncalled for and i did leave a negative did not meet review.

its more should i leave a review so other in the same boat are informed.