Interesting to hear the female experience.
From a receiving point of view, my experience is quite limited, but with anal with a real penis was over too quickly. For me if I decide to indulge again, its a choice of either a partner that can hump for as long as it is pleasurable to do so, or a partner whose needs get quite urgent, and you find yourself giving of yourself, absorbing any discomfort, to satisfy their urgent need.
My wife caught me wearing ladies underwear and threatened to leave me.
So I packed up all her clothes
And left.