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    Hey,

    Maybe an unusual post, its my first, be gentle!

    I have been with a number of escorts recently and I am seriously beating myslef up over this. I mean seriously. I always leave the lady saying I will never do this again, but I feel I am getting a compulsion to continue.

    I have three main fears and giving that while with a no of escorts, the number is low enough to still hold these.

    Is what I am doing morally wrong. I am young and single and meet girls ordinarily and pretty often, but this.. Am I bringing pain to these girls? Am I gonna suffer long term..

    Is what I am doing illegal, excuse my ignorance, but theres conflicting info on line on this.

    Is there much danger. I have been OK so far, but I fear getting attacked or worse. Friends have said quite rightly, you dont if your being set uop for a fall

    Appreciate advice. Ta

    Worried Dub

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    Hi, sorry also before I hit submit, I meant to say that i have never been able to perform with any of the girls. In fact whether escort or one night stand. I get no feeling, I wa referred to a top sex therapist in D2 and no joy.

    He said this could be psyschological and berated me for escort use. I have recently become depressed and anxious and while I am getting med attention for that, I think this is all interlinked.

    I am spiralling downhill and wish there was something I could take to rid me of sexual urges altogether. I fear a bad finish if I keep going on like I am.

    Ladies reading htis will think what a weak man, but I am actually pretty successful. The problem, in all manner of ways, is in my pants

    Paddy

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paddy Kenny View Post
    Hey,

    Maybe an unusual post, its my first, be gentle!

    I have been with a number of escorts recently and I am seriously beating myslef up over this. I mean seriously. I always leave the lady saying I will never do this again, but I feel I am getting a compulsion to continue.

    I have three main fears and giving that while with a no of escorts, the number is low enough to still hold these.

    Is what I am doing morally wrong. I am young and single and meet girls ordinarily and pretty often, but this.. Am I bringing pain to these girls? Am I gonna suffer long term..

    Is what I am doing illegal, excuse my ignorance, but theres conflicting info on line on this.

    Is there much danger. I have been OK so far, but I fear getting attacked or worse. Friends have said quite rightly, you dont if your being set uop for a fall

    Appreciate advice. Ta

    Worried Dub
    Well Paddy your first post is worth a response so here's rimmers 2 cents worth !
    Is what you/i/we doing morally wrong . Yes and No i say . Yes in some cases because some may say that we are taking advantage of the women involved and abusing them for our own sexual gratification . Personally i have never felt that way and have never met an escort that gave me that impression . Maybe in yrs to come , the girls may develop mental issues due to the nature of their "job" and that could be the pain to which you are referring to . Will you suffer long term ? Who knows what suffering life will bring to anybody but if you are honest with yourself and the escort during your sessions , then you should be just fine . But remember to go to confession !!!!
    Is it legal ? Well it is if there is only one escort there , 2 escorts constitute a brothel and that's illegal . Why do you leave always to say to yourself that you will not do it again ? Is it a financial issue or do you feel you have cheapened yourself in some way by paying for sex ?
    Is there much danger of being attacked ? I'd say that you are over analysing each visit to the extreme , i mean if you think about it you could be involved in a car crash on the way to your next appointment but you don't think about that . Or do you !
    My advice is to carry on if you can overcome these issues , hopefully more will post their views and treat an escort with the respect that they deserve and you'll be alright on the night
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    Quote Originally Posted by Paddy Kenny View Post
    Hi, sorry also before I hit submit, I meant to say that i have never been able to perform with any of the girls. In fact whether escort or one night stand. I get no feeling, I wa referred to a top sex therapist in D2 and no joy.

    He said this could be psyschological and berated me for escort use. I have recently become depressed and anxious and while I am getting med attention for that, I think this is all interlinked.

    I am spiralling downhill and wish there was something I could take to rid me of sexual urges altogether. I fear a bad finish if I keep going on like I am.

    Ladies reading htis will think what a weak man, but I am actually pretty successful. The problem, in all manner of ways, is in my pants

    Paddy
    I don't see how it could be "immoral", it's the most natural thing in the world. There's no immorality about it. People being pushed to do other more menial work for less than 1/10th of the price... THAT'S immoral.

    It's not illegal no, definitely not. On the other hand, the gardai in Ireland don't really even care what's legal or illegal a lot of the time and will come up with some bs like "the law was acting in good fate".

    No you won't be attacked... unless you want to be. But seriously, never. It's not like in the movies. I wouldn't go around with wads of cash... but I'd try not to do that anyway.

    Please try and not take ANY meds. Heart problems and stuff are fine to take meds for, but the last thing you'd ever want to take meds for is your head. When I was 15 I took antidepressants and I've always regretted it.

    I don't know why there would be a problem.... but don't bother with all those "experts", all you need is a good escort or a real girlfriend. Maybe you're worn out, maybe you're not eating enough nutritious foods.

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    Hi,

    Rimmer guy, nice girls are nice, thanks for your replies.

    I am as I say very troubled over this.

    A few points were made which I will reply to.

    I feel bad (in fact, absolutely awful) leaving escorts as I am aware what happened between us is so morally wrong and that I have paid to touch and feel and have sex with them. Both of us will in time feel bad about this scenario. I remember one time feeling so bad after visiting an escort near Aungier st that I was walking down the street physically upset. I am not afraid to admit and say that.

    Nice girls, you mention avoiding anti d's . Unusual place to discuss this, but what was your bad exp/ I have to say these meds are lifesavers, they really can give strength to keep going and fight another day. Its hard to measure their success or not, but I think its fair to say that doctors by and large prescribe these daily with little or no negative consequences. Dont believe what you read on line. For every negative story, there s twenty thousand positive stories. Sorry for the ramble and rant!

    Other thoughts from your replies:

    At least I now know its as grey as I thought on the legality. One escort is fine, but more than one constitutes a brotherl. Surely apt sharing goes on. If you visit a girl in an apt and she a flatmate, have you entered a brothel??

    Am I the only one who is troubled with trips to escorts. I know the simple answer is to stop, but its a compulsion. Genuinely I hope to find the strength to stop punting.

    Lets consider the girls for a second. How can they elave these business and settle down or marry or have kids.. We are all in a sordid mess folks,

    Anyway, cheers,

    Paddy.

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    Bottom line Paddy....................

    If you enjoy it and you don't feel it's harming yourself or anybody else, keep doing it..........

    If you're not enjoying it and you feel bad about it, or you feel it's not good for yourself or the girls then don't do it...........................
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    Hey Paddy

    Maybe i just sugar coat it for myself, but I think that in terms of punters, im one of the nicer ones. Im not weird and kinky, i just have my fun ,be polite, and leave. In my opinion, they would be doing their job anyway and could be ending up with assholes, so I dont know... Maybe that sounds like a get out of jail free card, but it is true.
    In terms of the compulviseness of your visits, I know myself what a rush it is visiting escorts sometimes. But if youre only doing it for the rush of adrenalin, which can happen to guys sometimes, maybe its best to divert your attention elsewhere. If you feel you might be prone to addictive tendencies, id leave well alone.
    Tough on the outside, sweet and sticky on the inside, and I rarely crumble.

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