Please, be sensible and communicate if you don't wish to carry out a booking

[Roderik]

I really need to get this off my chest now.

Please, to all ladies this post may concern: be sensible, honest and transparent with clients if you do not wish to carry out the bookings. This isn't about lost time, fuel and unnecessary exposure - while it is awful, I am the last person to get angry over those. But, unexpectedly, today's occurrence has me rolled into a ball by my computer and nearly crying. This happened to me for the first time, I never thought this would have such an impact on my already low self-esteem. I, honestly, don't need any more reason to hate myself more than I already do.

Not every client is neurotypical.

I have asperger's and I am on the autism spectrum dealing with serious struggles around social and work life. I make sure to let, whomever I book with, know of that I have asperger's in order to ensure there won't be misunderstandings or drama and that the person fully comfortable meeting me - not exactly normal, shy, nervous and extremely sensitive person.

I had a very bad situation today and it really had an impact on my mood. I find it very difficult to let things like that to just go away and not overthink. I booked an appointment yesterday with a seemingly lovely girl, good reviews (20+) with only one negative and there was absolutely nothing to indicate what's going to happen. As she wasn't able to see me at a shorter notice I booked for today for 12, a first client in the morning. I don't pre-book like that because I have general difficulties sleeping but knowing an appointment comes up makes my rest even tougher. However I really liked her profile and physical characteristics. Was asked to confirm booking in the morning and so I did.

I got up, got a protein bar to make sure my breath doesn't smell of food, got cleaned up thoroughly and put on my favorite cologne. Confirmed the appointment by text at 10 and then called at 11 to confirm again and to ask for directions. I was told that it is going to happen and where to go. Awesome. It was a bit of a trek and good bit of fuel burned.

I got there on time, called ten minutes before the appointment to find out that she has a client who owed her money come now in about 10 to 15 minutes to just drop the money and go and if I can wait. It did sound a good bit dodgy but I decided to give her a benefit of the doubt and I told her that I am a bit freaked out but I'd still like to meet her. Initial 15 minute wait turned into 30 minutes after which time I'd get a text asking me if I am still waiting and would never receive a reply to my confirmation. Call wasn't answered so it was not a credit issue. I left after 50 minutes, felt like an idiot and even worse so as the time went on.

You have no idea how many thoughts were going through my mind and how frustrated I was over being ditched by an escort - I have enough struggles in life, especially with interaction with women and this was really, really shattering. I always go through lenghts to arrive presentable and make sure an escort is not uncomfortable around me. I am not super-experienced like so many posters here but then with 10+ bookings I never had a bad encounter so far until today. I can't stop blaming myself for doing something that resulted in today's mishap even though I clearly know that I've ensured to be at my best and it just couldn't have been my fault. I can't stop kicking myself over it.

Please, be sensible and take into account that some clients aren't exactly healthy human beings and can be really sensitive to such mishaps. Please communicate and be transparent and honest - be it you feel unsafe, don't like the way client talks (I do have a difficulty putting words together because of my condition), feel tired or just had a change of mind. It's really better this way for everyone than just having people wait around and just toying with them.

I am already feeling bad enough about myself for having to resort to such services to fulfil basic needs physiological and psychological needs for at least a few moments with a caring woman.

[TonyB]

Ah well these things happen now and again.
You just need to puck yourself up and go visit someone else.
It will be worth the effort, from my experience anyway

[Roderik]

Ah well these things happen now and again.
You just need to puck yourself up and go visit someone else.
It will be worth the effort, from my experience anyway

I am sad because that girl seemed really awesome and has very good reviews. I was so much looking forward to meeting her. I am so disappointed and at desbelief with this kind of lack of professionalism and simple sensibility. Only logical conclusion is that she tried to book in a 30 minute appointment before seeing me for an hour, hoping that she'd be able to wrap that quickly and have me wait - that's just uncool.

I'd visit someone else but I am really weird over things and favorites available... Not really anyone around who ticks the boxes at the moment and I feel lonely and depressed as hell.

[TonyB]

I am sad because that girl seemed really awesome and has very good reviews. I was so much looking forward to meeting her. I am so disappointed and at desbelief with this kind of lack of professionalism and simple sensibility. Only logical conclusion is that she tried to book in a 30 minute appointment before seeing me for an hour, hoping that she'd be able to wrap that quickly and have me wait - that's just uncool.

I'd visit someone else but I am really weird over things and favorites available... Not really anyone around who ticks the boxes at the moment and I feel lonely and depressed as hell.

There could be a legtimate reason or perhaps things went unintentionally astray for her. Or maybe she's just inconsiderate. One thing Im pretty sure of is, it's unlikely to be anything to do wirh you. You were just unlucky.

There are lots of great escorts so don't let one incident put you off. I'm sure it won't

[philipkntz]

I think I might be what you call neurotypical but The sort of thing you describe has happened to most of us and everytime it happens, it feels worse than a kick in the bolix. But keep your chin up, you still have money in your pocket and a loaded pecker in your pants.

[AyannaMelek]

First of all some client owing money to an escort? That seems a bit dodgy.

Second of all I’m terribly sorry this happened to you, you don’t deserve it.

Thirdly, I really hope you don’t give up visiting ladies because of that. Not all are the same.

[Roderik]

I don't even know how to give negative points dude but, believe me, I'd really want to be able to have normal, social life.

[Mr Sweet Guy]

I feel you want to be loved by people.
To which nothing wrong with that.
I do feel you suffering from shy and nervous to which lead to self doubt.
People with self doubt are easy hurt or take thing like rejection hard.

But it can be a good thing also.
Which it mean you have a conscience and always think Lady concern and consent first.
You say you feel awkward meeting Ladies in this business and interacting with people in outside life.

Yes for me also I been in many meeting with Escorts and it challenge to keep that self doubt in check.
Last Lady I met we having a nice moment till I just switch off.
And got up and sat on bottom of bed and said sorry this feel wrong are you sure you really comfortable with me.
We did carry on with little persuasion from her but it a every day battle mate.
That why I taken a break to clear my mind and assertive thing in my life.

Now for you it different but along same line.
Meet someone and put this experience down to bad luck.
Yes I know it hard and easy to say that.
But next Lady you meet it probably turn out great.
But if you like just ask the Lady if she really comfortable in your company and then make your own judgement if she is or not.
I walk out on 2 Escorts cause it didn't feel right and left on my accord.

Try move on and longer you let this self doubt linger the more damage and worry you have on your mind.
Remember life full of up and down which lead to happiness and rejection.
People who reject you aren't worth your time and effort.
So try forget them and move on as many more good thing and Ladies are waiting for you chap.

I feel your pain chap as we all can't please or be like by all.
Good luck and if you say or feel not happy in this business take a time out like me.
Then again don't as it won't help at all.

Feck it and say to yourself don't let experience like that knock your confidence and self esteem.
Try and book a another appointment and soon to get the bed vibe out of your mind.

Ok back to my break and get my thought on what right or wrong as I to have self doubt.
But I understand why you feel you not made for this business.
I heard to many sad story abroad that would question your self doubt and only lately something made me decide to take a break from
what I felt was wrong.

[ChaChaCharlie]

First of all some client owing money to an escort? That seems a bit dodgy.

Second of all I’m terribly sorry this happened to you, you don’t deserve it.

Thirdly, I really hope you don’t give up visiting ladies because of that. Not all are the same.

Yeah thats what i thought. Worst excuse i have heard really a client owing a escort money.

[ChaChaCharlie]

Will someone please tell me why/how I just got negative points for a terrible post on this thread. Is it the mods or other posters not happy. While I'm not new to the game I am new to the ins and outs of these forums. I'm not trying to take the thread over either, just like an answer.

Same thing happens to me man. I got 5 in the space of a few minutes one day which is bizarre considering you can only give out at most 2 negative or positive to the one user on this forum programme.
If memory serves me right it was for this thread here https://www.escort-ireland.com/board...-I-have-to-ask