Pressure of escort life

[Mr Sweet Guy]

Now in my time in Dortmund Germany.
I have more downs then ups, But I just found out something today that truly sadden me
A German Lady I known little of and work as Escort here in Germany.
She has pass away from drug overdose

How I know is her friend another Escort told me as she knew I was in contact with her now and again, She knew we struck up a lovely friendship.
Sad thing I was in contact with her 4 days ago and was planning to meet her before I left Germany less then 3 weeks time.
But found out today she pass away 2 days ago.

I have met her few times and spend a lovely overnight with her after she persuade me at dinner to.
But she never gave me hint she was under stress or depress in life or her line of work.

It show the stress of Escort life is as any business is high pressures, But my opinion Escort life and business is one of hardest job to do.
Mentally and psychically can be demanding to.
Just want to say have a thought for Escorts in any country who business is not a easy one to endure.
And beware that depression is silent killer to anyone.

Ok I didn't really know her, But met her few times in my life on my time here in Germany and gutted now
Because I never now have that opportunity to have that drink and meeting with her.

R.I.P. German Beauty and I am really going to miss our little chat and banter on whatapps

[Petros]

That is such a sad story. May she R.I.P.

But she never gave me hint she was under stress or depress in life or her line of work.

Part of the job is concealing real emotions and their private lives - this unfortunately gives them the edge to hide depression and any addictions they might have from not only punters but also their close friends. Chances are they are hiding their entire life from their families so even the people who know them the best won’t see what they are going through!

[Hagane00]

That is terrible

May she Rest in Peace

Life can be very hard for Escorts. And we should always treat them with the utmost respect
Don't argue over prices, overstay your time, don't get angry with them if they ask you to leave, they have every right.
And if you see they look like they might be having a bad day, try and help them out, even if it's only listening to them.

Life can be hard too for everyone.
Treat everyone with respect and kindness and give them the benefit of the doubt.
Always keep that in mind.

Too many people kill themselves in this world and just being a bit nicer or being more helpful could save lives.

[Mr Sweet Guy]

That is such a sad story. May she R.I.P.



Part of the job is concealing real emotions and their private lives - this unfortunately gives them the edge to hide depression and any addictions they might have from not only punters but also their close friends. Chances are they are hiding their entire life from their families so even the people who know them the best won’t see what they are going through!

Thanks Petros and it is, I going through her messages to see if I miss anything that I could done to help her.
It horrible feeling as now I left 5 message she never reply to, and know now why she didn't answer them as try to ring but no joy either.

Wow to me she is a friend and my guilt and conscience is everywhere now.
I feel numb and in shock as keep waiting for her to reply with a cheeky answer.
We build up a lovely connection and friendship to.
But now it gone

[Mr Sweet Guy]

That is terrible

May she Rest in Peace

Life can be very hard for Escorts. And we should always treat them with the utmost respect
Don't argue over prices, overstay your time, don't get angry with them if they ask you to leave, they have every right.
And if you see they look like they might be having a bad day, try and help them out, even if it's only listening to them.

Life can be hard too for everyone.
Treat everyone with respect and kindness and give them the benefit of the doubt.
Always keep that in mind.

Too many people kill themselves in this world and just being a bit nicer or being more helpful could save lives.

Wow very thoughtful post and very well said.
Exactly true and we all have good and bad day in life and work.
Always read body language of person you are in company of.
Thanks Hagane for your post and thought.

[Hagane00]

Thanks Petros and it is, I going through her messages to see if I miss anything that I could done to help her.
It horrible feeling as now I left 5 message she never reply to, and know now why she didn't answer them as try to ring but no joy either.

Wow to me she is a friend and my guilt and conscience is everywhere now.
I feel numb and in shock as keep waiting for her to reply with a cheeky answer.
We build up a lovely connection and friendship to.
But now it gone

Don't put too much pressure or guilt on yourself.

Like you said you didn't know her that well, if she was possibly able to hide her true feelings from the people she saw everyday, how are you supposed to see through the mask.

Unfortunately, sometimes people in pain are far too talented at acting for their own good and stop people from ever knowing they are in pain.

[Mr Sweet Guy]

Don't put too much pressure or guilt on yourself.

Like you said you didn't know her that well, if she was possibly able to hide her true feelings from the people she saw everyday, how are you supposed to see through the mask.

Unfortunately, sometimes people in pain are far too talented at acting for their own good and stop people from ever knowing they are in pain.

Easier said then done mate but it show we truly don't know what people are going through or Escorts we meet has endure on that day and in their life.
We clients meet them and they have a smile on their face when greet us.
But as you said everyone can put on a mask and act like they happy when maybe they are not.

But still if we read body language, I or we should know if someone comfortable or not.
I plan to meet 2 Established Escort when back in Dublin and I just want to make sure that they comfortable in my company.
The good thing I met these 2 Established Escorts before and got on well with them in my meeting with them.
But I am not stupid to know every meeting doesn't guarantee it going to be great.
As the Lady can have a bad day and doesn't mean she don't enjoy my company.

We all can be good of acting happy and nice, But don't live in silent as if you know someone or something wrong speak up or act.
Because it could save a life or person who afraid to speak their mind in fear of others who manipulating them.

[Mr Sweet Guy]

That's a sad story, but it can happen in any walk of life. Mental illness / addiction can be such a curse to people, but can be beaten

I agree with you mate it can be beaten, But sometime person won't reach out and look for help, Thinking maybe problem go away when it won't
All I say about her in my time I known her, She is Beautiful and wicked sense of humour in nice way.
But also can be very serious with strong personality.
Sad thing she only 29 years old, And she have many places she want to travel to.
Now question I wonder is WHY, But I never know that answer I guess.
Truthfully now I can't wait to leave Germany as 2 weeks next Wednesday can't come soon enough.

[Petros]

Thanks Petros and it is, I going through her messages to see if I miss anything that I could done to help her.
It horrible feeling as now I left 5 message she never reply to, and know now why she didn't answer them as try to ring but no joy either.

Wow to me she is a friend and my guilt and conscience is everywhere now.
I feel numb and in shock as keep waiting for her to reply with a cheeky answer.
We build up a lovely connection and friendship to.
But now it gone

It is very tough for anyone to try and understand. However, you can’t cut yourself up wondering what you missed or if you could have done something to bring about a different outcome!

Everyone is different and everyone’s situation is different! We don’t know if this was an accident or whether she felt life was totally down on her. This is the reason why we need to be there for people and for them to know they can turn to us if and when they need to. At least that way should someone feel to be in a bad place they may feel more at ease telling someone.

[Mr Sweet Guy]

That's a thoughtful post mr sweetman .
It's true we never know what's going on in someone else's head .
I lost a friend like this last year , there was no signs and it cripples you with what if I said this, or what if I did that . It shook me too the core .
Sometimes it's very hard to control your mental state , we can try to promise ourselves to always live in a beautiful state but everyone in life has ups and downs .
To be in this business you have to develop a thick skin . Develop strong mental muscles .
The money is rewarding but the risk is high .
I did question if " the juice is worth the squeeze " particularly after an upseting experience . But I primed my mental state and was grand again.
It can be isolating & lonely and sometimes this can play on your mind especially if you keep it a secret from friends & loved ones .
The home within your head is the most important home and you need to maintain your home to keep it clean .
It's nice that you care but also sorry to hear this .

Thanks You for your thoughtful post IrishDaisy.
And I am truly sorry you lost a friend like that.
It something you don't forget or them either
Their is say every cloud has a silver lining, And every day is new beginning to try wake up happy.
But for people who aren't happy and feel lost in life then it doesn't work like that sadly.

Because every day it same nightmare they enduring and put on a happy face to hide the pain and sadness they are feeling
Until eventually they can't cope no more


We met few times and it a nice friendship, Yes we enjoy each other company.
But we always respect it as friendship as she plan to move to Ireland in the near future for a holiday first , And if she like it work here on what she decide to.

Thing is as I suppose to be partying tonight but sitting in a bar here, Just quiet time is nice to get my thought together.
Will say I miss everything about her, But miss her messages at night as she made me laugh with her funny good story.

But as you are Established Escort it nice to hear your side of story, I always thought it be lonely at times in your line of work IrishDaisy.
And the biggest thing is hiding your work business from family and friends as that alone is very stressful and mentally on the mind to.

Thanks You IrishDaisy.