I always found that it was at the last possible time, when you've given up, that you find someone purely by accident. The thing is not to fight it though - all love is hard; especially when you've been hurt before.
But Ms Rammer, never give up. For someone as clearly intelligent as you, and with all the positive things I see people saying about you, coupled with being drop dead gorgeous - I would have no doubt that the right person is right around the corner.